Becoming Whole

Send us Fan Mail Your strongest sexual desires can feel like destiny, like a permanent label that tells you who you are and what you’ll always chase. We don’t buy that. James Craig sits down with Josh Glazer to talk about a different kind of change: not behavior hacks, not sheer willpower, but the slow, hopeful formation of what we love, what we long for, and what we reach for when we’re hurting....

Send us Fan Mail A lot of people want to be compassionate and end up quietly rewriting their convictions. We start with a sharp line from Augustine that helps clear the fog: it’s one thing to be wrong about a person, but it’s another thing to call something good that God calls sin.  From there, we talk honestly about the pain underneath the LGBTQ experience and sexual brokenness, and why love does...

Send us Fan Mail Your sexual desire can feel like a verdict. When you’ve gone back to porn again, crossed boundaries again, or found yourself stuck in patterns you hate, it’s easy to believe the loudest story: this is just who I am. We push against that lie with a different question, one that exposes the strategy of shame: why would the enemy want you to believe your sexual behaviors define your i...

Send us Fan Mail The lie that keeps so many of us stuck isn’t “you’re too weak” it’s “you’re on your own.” When we’re isolated, we learn to manage, perform, and keep it together, while the real stuff stays hidden under shame and fear. Today, we go after that hidden layer and ask a simple, unsettling question: what’s the 3% you won’t say out loud, and what is it costing you? I’m joined by Jamie and...

Send us Fan Mail Sex can feel like the loudest desire in the room, but what if it’s actually a signpost pointing to something deeper? James Craig, our director of projects, shares a condensed version of a church talk that maps a Christian theology of sexuality from creation to fall to redemption, with an honest look at why so many people feel fractured inside their own wants, choices, and sense of...

Send us Fan Mail The first command in the Bible is not a rule about what to avoid. It is a commissioning to be fruitful, to multiply, and to image God together as embodied people. That single detail reframes a lot of confusion and shame around sex, the body, and marriage, so we decided to share a portion of a church talk from James Craig, our director of projects, that takes the wide-angle view. W...

Send us Fan Mail * The topic is anger, but the stories are tender, so please pause, pray, breathe, and listen as you feel ready.* Anger is often misunderstood—and often buried. But what if anger isn’t just something to control…  What if it’s something to understand? In this episode, we explore how anger can function as both a signal and a driver—especially in cycles of unwanted sexual behavior. Dr...

Send us Fan Mail Shame has a way of pushing us into the hottest part of the day, alone, doing life where no one can see us. That’s why John 4 hits so hard for anyone carrying sexual brokenness, porn use, compulsive fantasy, secret hookups, or a past that still stings. We walk through Jesus’ encounter with the Samaritan woman and pay attention to the details that reveal His heart: He goes where oth...

Send us Fan Mail A head turn in the park. A glance across the sanctuary. For many couples healing after infidelity, pornography, or sexual addiction, those tiny moments can feel bigger than the whole week of progress. We sit down with coaches Aaron Tagert and Anne Donahue to slow the moment down and name what’s really happening: betrayal trauma in her body, shame and helplessness in him, and the s...

Send us Fan Mail Addiction and unwanted sexual behaviors often feel like a mystery: “I don’t want this, but I keep doing it.” We sit down with Chris Coursey, co-founder and president of Thrive Today, to explore a different diagnosis for overcoming sexual addiction. Addiction, a maturity gap that forms when our brains never receive key relational skills. When these skills are missing, we don’t stop...

Send us Fan Mail “I watch porn because my wife won’t have sex with me” sounds like a blunt confession, but it’s usually a doorway into something much bigger: intimacy, rejection, power, trust, and what we believe sex is actually for. We sit with that statement pastorally and honestly, and we ask a hard question many couples avoid: when sex disappears in a Christian marriage, what is the wise, lovi...

Send us Fan Mail “Are you affirming?” might be the most common question churches get about sexuality and it’s also one of the easiest traps to fall into. We want to be clear on historic Christian teaching about marriage, singleness, celibacy, and chastity, but we also want to lead with the better invitation: come follow Jesus, and let him reshape every part of your life. That shift changes the ent...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, our hosts share what they hear most from clients who love their local church yet feel stuck. Either sex is never addressed; it shows up as a quick “thou shalt not” list, or the tone implies “if you struggle, you’re bad.” We also explore the website dilemma: when clarity is loving, when vagueness backfires, and how a perceived bait-and-switch can retraumatize peopl...

Send us Fan Mail What if the way we talk about sexuality is the very thing keeping us stuck? We trace the surprising origins of “heterosexual” and “homosexual,” unpack why those categories took hold, and explore how turning desires into identity reshaped culture, conscience, and the church. We draw from Michael Hannon’s “Against Heterosexuality” and Michel Foucault’s history of sexuality to show h...

Send us Fan Mail What if your imagination isn’t a liability but a lifeline? We open a candid conversation about fantasy, romance, and the deep longings that quietly direct our relationships with ourselves, others, and God. Rather than treating desire like a problem to fix, we treat it like a compass—one that often points to unmet needs for being seen, soothed, safe, and secure. Join us, get curiou...

Send us Fan Mail Shame, Isolation, and Why Community Is the Opposite of Addiction  Join us in today’s episode as I (James Craig) sit down with Regen coach Aaron Tagert to talk about what keeps people stuck in addictive cycles—especially around porn and unwanted sexual behaviors. Aaron shares three major drivers he’ll cover in an upcoming men’s webinar: shame, isolation, and the uncomfortable truth...

Send us Fan Mail Repentance doesn’t have to sound like a finger wag. We explore a better way: turning as realignment with God’s character and kingdom. Especially for those worn out by “just stop it” advice or guilt-heavy apologies that never seem to change anything. Drawing on the idea of metanoia—the turning of the mind—we share how repentance becomes a process shaped by what we feed our attentio...

Send us Fan Mail What if the missing piece in recovery and marriage isn’t more discipline, but deeper confidence? Not swagger. Not self-worship. A grounded assurance that you’re God’s workmanship, made very good, and called to show up with your whole self for the good of others.  We unpack how this kind of confidence breaks the cycle of lust and fantasy by replacing shortcuts with purpose and pres...

Send us Fan Mail Temptation rarely arrives out of nowhere—it rides in on pain, pressure, and old stories that never got the care they needed. In this episode, Josh checks in with coaches Aaron Tagert and James Craig to explore a kinder, braver way to face unwanted sexual behavior: trade shame for curiosity, isolation for relationship, and quick fixes for deep repair. We start by reframing triggers...

Send us Fan Mail The way we talk about sex shapes what we see—and too often, we’ve learned to see in parts. Today, we take a jackhammer to the pavement of cultural scripts and rebuild a vision where sex isn’t “a thing” to get, but a way to love a whole person. We explore how lust reduces and love restores, why the body speaks of a person’s worth, and how honoring freedom, story, and dignity transf...

Send us Fan Mail Secrets starve intimacy, and silence keeps marriages stuck at the surface. We pull back the curtain on what it really takes to move from hidden struggle to honest healing: starting real recovery, disclosing wisely, and building daily safety through empathy, boundaries, and rhythm. With coaches Ann Donahue, Aaron Tagert, and James Craig, we break down betrayal trauma in plain langu...

Send us Fan Mail What if telling the truth is the only way to make home feel safe again? We dive into the messy, honest reality of confession around sexual brokenness and how to navigate it when your spouse says they don’t want the details. With James hosting alongside coaches Aaron and Anne, we unpack why secrecy keeps control in place, why many betrayed spouses want truth without graphic play‑by...

Send us Fan Mail What if the most important part of talking with our kids about sex isn’t a perfect script, but a different posture?  We unpack why the one-and-done model backfires, how tone silently teaches more than content, and what to do when your own fear, shame, or grief flares in the moment. You’ll hear practical language for “I don’t know yet, but I’ll get back to you,” and how that single...

Send us Fan Mail What if the goal isn’t to bubble‑wrap your kids from a sexualized world, but to raise resilient, shame‑resistant disciples who know how to repair? James Craig sits down with our newest staff member and parenting resource lead, Blake Brinkman, to tackle five urgent questions parents are asking: shielding kids from porn, responding to rebellion, setting wise screen rules, navigating...

Send us Fan Mail Ever felt like you’re living two lives—one that prays and serves, and one that hides, aches, or acts out? We go straight at that divide and ask what Advent is really saying to our bodies: the Word became flesh. If God chose skin and bone, then your body isn’t a liability to your faith—it’s the home where Christ loves, heals, and restores. If this met you, share it with a friend wh...