Becoming Whole

The weirdest time to feel tempted is right after you feel happy, but a lot of us know that pattern by experience. A great night out, a win at work, a peaceful moment at home, even genuine spiritual encouragement can be followed by a sudden pull toward pornography, fantasy, masturbation, or other old coping loops. When that happens, it’s easy to feel confused or discouraged, like joy itself is unsa...

Temptation has a way of talking like a verdict: you’re powerless, you’re dirty, you’ll always come back, this is just who you are. That voice gets even louder when the struggle is sexual and the shame feels baked in. Josh sits down with Matt Cline, founder of Restored Ministries (and host of The Exposed Life Show), to challenge the assumption that freedom from pornography and sexual sin starts wit...

The internet is always ready to teach your kids about sex, and it will never run out of confidence, explicit detail, or bad theology. So what happens when parents stay silent, feel ashamed, or rely on one painfully awkward “talk” and hope that covers it? We sit down with Josh Glaser, co-author of Treading Boldly, to name the void that porn and online sexual content rushes to fill and to offer a be...

Pain has a way of exposing what we really worship. When I hit discomfort, my first instinct is often to look for relief fast and that same reflex can quietly push any of us toward distraction, fantasy, and porn.  Suffering is not an accident in the Christian life, and it has everything to do with sexual integrity. In this episode, I share some of my own recent pain, especially the suffering of bei...

You can have the best intentions, the strongest willpower, and a stack of books on sexual integrity and still feel like nothing is changing. We have seen why, over and over: most people try to heal by investing in only one lane. Real recovery from pornography, sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, and sexual wounds tends to accelerate when three essentials show up together: content, community, and co...

If you’ve ever thought, “I believe the Bible, so why does God still feel far away?” this conversation is for you. We start with the uncomfortable truth that you can become incredibly skilled at the wrong thing: years of rehearsing shame, compulsive habits, and the lie that you’re unloved. Then we flip the script toward a different kind of mastery: learning to recognize your heavenly Father’s voice...

Pain has a way of driving our choices, especially the choices we regret most. When unwanted sexual behaviors show up, it’s tempting to reduce everything to willpower, rules, or stronger accountability. We’ve learned that lasting sexual integrity usually requires something deeper: changing how we relate to pain, how we relate to other people, and how we relate to ourselves. Josh is joined by Greg R...

Fantasy is a soft place to land because it demands nothing from us. Reality is harder and that’s exactly why it changes us. We sit with a blunt question that can reshape recovery: if you keep returning to porn, sexual fantasy, scrolling, or busyness, what pain or fear are you trying not to feel? When we stop fighting symptoms and start listening, escape loses some of its power.  We talk about why...

A trigger can feel like proof that something is wrong with you. But we’ve learned to see it differently: emotional pain that taps an unhealed wound and yanks us out of our best thinking. When that happens, our bodies often take over with fight, flight, fawn, freeze, or a rush toward self-comfort that can slide straight into the addiction cycle. We slow all of that down and ask a better question: w...

If you’ve ever wondered why your recovery feels slow even when you’re doing “all the right things,” this conversation names a missing piece that can change your trajectory: retreat. We talk about why getting away for a concentrated weekend is not escapism, but a powerful and practical recovery tool that helps you go deeper than weekly therapy, coaching, or group can often reach on their own. When...

A lot of us want joy without the valley, freedom without the tears, and healing without feeling what happened. That’s why we start with a vivid picture: your inner world as a dinner party where every emotion shows up, including the ones you’d rather avoid. When we refuse to “come downstairs,” we often reach for fast comfort and one of the most powerful shortcuts is sex. It can feel like relief, bu...

The question “Can same-sex attraction change?” is rarely just curiosity. It usually carries fear: “Will I ever be able to marry?” “Is this who I am?” “If this shows up again, does that mean God isn’t working?” Josh sits down with Kyle Bowman and Greg Ruhland from Regeneration to talk honestly about change, discipleship, and what a hopeful, grounded Christian perspective can look like when you’re t...

A single word can change what someone believes about themselves. “Addiction.” “Trauma.” “Struggle.”  James Craig and therapist Blake Brinkman talk honestly about why certain terms can shut people down, especially when they carry cultural baggage, and how a simpler word like struggle can sometimes open the door to truth, humility, and real support. We also get specific about sexual brokenness and p...

Anger can feel like the problem, but what if it’s actually the cover story? Aaron Tagert and James Craig pull on a thread that has reshaped their coaching conversations: sadness often starts in the gut, rises toward tears, and when we block it, it can convert into anxiety in the chest or burst out as anger from the mouth. That shift matters for anyone who feels stuck in frustration, shame, or emot...

Calling yourself “humble” can sound spiritual while you quietly live in self-doubt, shame, and a constant need to prove you matter. In this episode of Becoming Whole, we share part of a hard truth: insecurity and humility are not the same, and mixing them up can keep you stuck in lust and unwanted sexual behaviors even when you genuinely want freedom. We walk through the difference between love an...

Send us Fan Mail Your strongest sexual desires can feel like destiny, like a permanent label that tells you who you are and what you’ll always chase. We don’t buy that. James Craig sits down with Josh Glazer to talk about a different kind of change: not behavior hacks, not sheer willpower, but the slow, hopeful formation of what we love, what we long for, and what we reach for when we’re hurting....

Send us Fan Mail A lot of people want to be compassionate and end up quietly rewriting their convictions. We start with a sharp line from Augustine that helps clear the fog: it’s one thing to be wrong about a person, but it’s another thing to call something good that God calls sin.  From there, we talk honestly about the pain underneath the LGBTQ experience and sexual brokenness, and why love does...

Send us Fan Mail Your sexual desire can feel like a verdict. When you’ve gone back to porn again, crossed boundaries again, or found yourself stuck in patterns you hate, it’s easy to believe the loudest story: this is just who I am. We push against that lie with a different question, one that exposes the strategy of shame: why would the enemy want you to believe your sexual behaviors define your i...

Send us Fan Mail The lie that keeps so many of us stuck isn’t “you’re too weak” it’s “you’re on your own.” When we’re isolated, we learn to manage, perform, and keep it together, while the real stuff stays hidden under shame and fear. Today, we go after that hidden layer and ask a simple, unsettling question: what’s the 3% you won’t say out loud, and what is it costing you? I’m joined by Jamie and...

Send us Fan Mail Sex can feel like the loudest desire in the room, but what if it’s actually a signpost pointing to something deeper? James Craig, our director of projects, shares a condensed version of a church talk that maps a Christian theology of sexuality from creation to fall to redemption, with an honest look at why so many people feel fractured inside their own wants, choices, and sense of...

Send us Fan Mail The first command in the Bible is not a rule about what to avoid. It is a commissioning to be fruitful, to multiply, and to image God together as embodied people. That single detail reframes a lot of confusion and shame around sex, the body, and marriage, so we decided to share a portion of a church talk from James Craig, our director of projects, that takes the wide-angle view. W...

Send us Fan Mail * The topic is anger, but the stories are tender, so please pause, pray, breathe, and listen as you feel ready.* Anger is often misunderstood—and often buried. But what if anger isn’t just something to control…  What if it’s something to understand? In this episode, we explore how anger can function as both a signal and a driver—especially in cycles of unwanted sexual behavior. Dr...

Send us Fan Mail Shame has a way of pushing us into the hottest part of the day, alone, doing life where no one can see us. That’s why John 4 hits so hard for anyone carrying sexual brokenness, porn use, compulsive fantasy, secret hookups, or a past that still stings. We walk through Jesus’ encounter with the Samaritan woman and pay attention to the details that reveal His heart: He goes where oth...

Send us Fan Mail A head turn in the park. A glance across the sanctuary. For many couples healing after infidelity, pornography, or sexual addiction, those tiny moments can feel bigger than the whole week of progress. We sit down with coaches Aaron Tagert and Anne Donahue to slow the moment down and name what’s really happening: betrayal trauma in her body, shame and helplessness in him, and the s...

Send us Fan Mail Addiction and unwanted sexual behaviors often feel like a mystery: “I don’t want this, but I keep doing it.” We sit down with Chris Coursey, co-founder and president of Thrive Today, to explore a different diagnosis for overcoming sexual addiction. Addiction, a maturity gap that forms when our brains never receive key relational skills. When these skills are missing, we don’t stop...