Becoming Secure with Magsmindset

Can understanding yourself be the key to understanding everyone else? In this episode of Becoming Secure with Magsmindset, I sit down with Arky Jones, creator of the Archetypical Spectrum Model and founder of Personality Peak. Together we explore: ✨ Why personality isn't fixed ✨ How self-awareness creates real change ✨ The role of stoicism in everyday life ✨ Masculine and feminine traits ✨ Fa...

In this episode of Becoming Secure with Magsmindset, I sit down with George Stoimenov, a Bulgarian-born mentor now living in the UK who works with convicted offenders, including men on probation for domestic violence and sexual offenses, through a UK Ministry of Justice rehabilitation program. We go deep into the father wound, how it shapes masculinity, the difference between drivenness and passio...

What do you do when heartbreak leaves you feeling completely stuck? For Gideon Enok, the answer was to walk - 7,000 kilometers from the north of Denmark all the way to Santiago de Compostela in Spain. In this episode, Gideon shares the raw, honest story of how a short-lived relationship sent him into a spiral, how a voice at the ocean changed everything, and how months of walking through Europe al...

What if all that self-work is actually keeping you stuck? Somatic coach, educator, and writer Christina Lane joins me to talk about why the most self-aware people are often the hardest to be in a relationship with, and what it actually takes to heal in real life, not just in theory. We get into: - Why your body knows things your mind refuses to admit - How therapy can turn you into a professional...

If you've ever been addicted to a person,;the highs, the chaos, the 72-hour reprieves - this episode will explain why. And more importantly, it'll show you that it was never a character flaw. Attachment therapist Bev Mitelman joins me to break down why we chase what hurts us, what anxious and avoidant attachment actually look like in real life, and what healing really means (hint: it's not what yo...

🎥 The video version of this episode is available on YouTube @Magsmindset. "How do you know you're secure after spending years building Becoming Secure with Magsmindset?" The answer took me all the way back to 2016, when my self-development journey began. In this episode, I reflect on the past 10 years: what heartbreak taught me, how attachment theory changed my life, what it means to feel truly s...

NOTE! Video available on YouTube . In this episode, I sit down with marriage coach and former therapist Lee Baucom to talk about what really causes marriages to break down—and how to prevent it. Lee explains that most couples unknowingly “hit the pause button” after committing, turning their focus to life demands and building habits of disconnection. We unpack the three levels of connection—physic...

In this episode, I’m joined by Lorina Manzanita, a somatic intimacy coach and trauma resolution practitioner, to explore how attachment patterns and developmental trauma get encoded in the body and shape our relationships. We talk about why empaths often self-abandon, people-please, and ignore their own needs, and how mindfulness and somatic awareness can build agency, boundaries, and healthier in...

In this episode, I talk with Dr. Wendy O’Connor, a licensed psychologist of 18 years who shifted from clinical practice to coaching after burning out while running private practices and raising three daughters under 3. We discuss how high-achieving women can do “all the right things” yet still feel unfulfilled, and why she began focusing on helping women thrive through positive psychology. Wendy e...

In this podcast episode, I talk with Jacquie Elliot—certified life, relationship, and spiritual coach, retreat leader, and author of The Silent Bully—about the “abusive brain chatter” that drove her. Jacquie shares how childhood trauma, including witnessing her mother’s suicide attempt and later sexual abuse, shaped core beliefs and anxious attachment, and how she used her ABC method (Awareness, B...

In this episode, I sit down with relationship coach Mike Elliott, who shares how being separated from his biological mother at birth and then being adopted twice shaped his early life. This led him into drugs, dealing, and dangerous criminal dynamics, and later fueled unhealthy relationship patterns even while he appeared to be living the “American Dream.” He describes a breaking point when his wi...

In this episode, I sit down with Agi, a Greek-born podcaster living in the UK, who trained and practiced as a dentist before pivoting into personal development and creating the Personal Development Mastery podcast, now in the top 1% of podcasts. Agi shares how a loss of passion after completing a master’s in aesthetic dentistry triggered his search for answers, why personal development is an ongoi...

NOTE!! I Recommend watching the YouTube version of this episode: https://youtu.be/pAoBsUxkpmY In my first on-camera solo episode, I do a casual “glow up” while reflecting on how my life has changed since moving back to Norway over six months ago after burnout and leaving the US due to health and a work-visa job situation. I share how slowing down, living with my parents and family, and prioritizin...

In this podcast episode, I talk with Donna Pope, adoptive mother of three adults and founder of Heart to Heart Adoptions, an adoption agency she started in 1998 after careers in teaching and medical research, and has run for about 30 years, completing 70–100 adoptions a year. Donna explains key attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful) and how attachment develops through early car...

I sit down with Ed McCarthy on Becoming Secure with Magsmindset to talk about how a near-death snowmobiling accident in the Colorado backcountry became the catalyst for his book series, Life Letters: Five Decisions to Wealth, Wisdom and Happiness. He recounts being trapped for 12 hours in sub-zero temperatures before being rescued, and how that experience sparked a legacy project originally writte...

In this episode, Liam shares how goal-setting, affirmations, and relentless planning didn’t work for him, and how a rock-bottom decision to “do nothing” created a shift that helped him follow instinct one step at a time as opportunities and the right people appeared. We explore his idea that our brains evolved to operate through present-moment instincts rather than language-driven stories that tri...

I thought I knew what limiting beliefs were before I started this episode. Turns out I did not know the debt of it. This is one of those episodes you reflect on long after it's done, because you begin to notice how much of the limiting beliefs still exist in you. I sit down with Blake Lefkoe, daughter of the late Morty Lefkoe (creator of the Lefkoe Method), to explore how limiting beliefs drive em...

In this podcast episode, I talk with Lin Green, a Puerto Rico–born writer raised in a Dominican immigrant family, about her book Enough with the Secrets Mama, which explores mother-daughter relationship issues, emotional neglect, and healing from maternal heartache. Lin shares how secrecy and feeling “not enough” shaped her insecurity, perfectionism, and attachment patterns, affecting her romantic...

Larry Kesslin shares how two big trips changed his life: teaching inner-city kids to ski in Aspen in 1993, when he realized he had “everything” but felt miserable, and visiting Uganda and Kenya in 2012 - where he saw people with less living with more joy. Those moments pushed him to leave corporate life, become self-employed, and focus on coaching, giving back, and connecting people. He talks abou...

Roselyn, a licensed clinical social worker with 15 years of experience, who explains how a sudden relationship crisis and 10-month separation from her husband after nearly 20 years together led her to focus her work on survival-based patterns, the nervous system, and subconscious wounds. Roselyn shares that her core wounds were abandonment and unworthiness, describing how trauma can persist even w...

In this episode, I talk with Mark and Lynette, a married couple of 12 years who have lived full-time in an RV for about 11 years and whose work focuses on helping people break repeating life and relationship patterns. We explore how trauma, attachment wounds, and generational patterns can affect relationships, and Mark and Lynette explain their approach to intimacy: acknowledgements, radical accep...

Ever notice how much time you spend having conversations in your head that never actually happen? In this episode, I reflect on what changed in my life when I started telling the truth. First to myself, and then to the people around me. From confronting uncomfortable conversations, to releasing shame about past versions of myself, to experiencing peace in my relationship without anxiety attached t...

Join me in this engaging episode as I chat with Hillary Spiritos, the dynamic founder of BaT Outta Hell, a path-finding consultancy dedicated to helping young adults overcome challenges and live their most authentic lives. We explore how upbringing shapes our beliefs, the importance of living an authentic life, and how facing uncertainty and embracing change are essential skills for growth. Hillar...

In this deeply moving episode of Becoming Secure with Magsmindset, I sit down with Jay Setchell, a man whose resilience and determination are nothing short of extraordinary. Jay shares his story of surviving multiple near-death experiences, including severe farm accidents, a catastrophic car crash, and a life-threatening swimming pool incident, all resulting in 73 surgeries and a diagnosis of bein...

In this episode, I speak with Stanley Bronstein who shares his transformative life story. From the tragic loss of his mother at a young age, leading to a lifelong battle with weight, to his empowering journey of achieving excellence in health and wellness. Stanley, a lawyer turned life coach, delves into the profound impact of attachment theory, his transformative realization at 50, and his inspir...