Becoming Me

Episode 94          At some point of the interior journey we will feel disconnected with the outside world and this can be scary if we don’t understand why it’s happening or how to respond. In this episode I explain why this sense of disconnection happens at specific seasons of the interior journey and what practical action we can take to nurture and protect our emerging interior life. This episod...

Episode 93          Loneliness is a universal experience, regardless of whether you are single or married (or in religious life/ordained)! What’s at the root of our loneliness? How do we build a foundation towards having secure attachment with others and with God? Tune in to this episode to hear me talk about how no-one, not even God, can replace a secure relationship with our SELF. This episode i...

Episode 92          In order to love authentically, we need to have a healthy sense of who we are as a separate SELF. In this episode I talk about why being enmeshed or too detached in our relationships both prevent us from becoming more fully alive and authentically loving. I also address a question about the particular challenge of being an Asian/Chinese Catholic making this interior journey of...

Episode 91          There’s a world of difference between shutting down our emotions and ignoring our needs to “do the right thing” and being genuinely, authentically loving with our whole being. In this episode I explain this distinction and share with very concrete experience how differently these two frameworks operate and how only one of them sets us free to become more alive and more truly lo...

Episode 90        Did you know your lack of a good relationship with your own BODY prevents you from being able to TRUST God, your Self or others? When we try to discipline our body without first having a loving relationship with it, we deepen the emotional fracture within our being. In this episode I share how God led me to reconsider my relationship with my body and learn to be able to trust Him...

Episode 89      What’s the difference between controlling our emotions and regulating them? We often try to control our emotions in order to “be loving” but by doing so we actually make it harder for us to make authentic connections. In this episode I share my experience on the difference between controlling my emotions and learning to regulate by attuning to them and the impact this has on my abi...

Episode 88      Illness. Burn out. Relationships breaking down. Death. Losing a job. Giving birth. These are some of life’s interruptions that can throw us off our carefully planned lives and make us feel destabilised. Our instinct is usually to over-function and overcome these interruptions, but as INTERIOR PILGRIMS we have the option of seeing these interruptions as God’s invitation for us to do...

Episode 87      In the interior journey it's not how slow or fast you are but the quality of the energy and presence you embody that shows how much space is within you. Slowing down is a way of cultivating that SPACE within us that enables us to exercise our freedom to choose our responses. For many of us addicted to busyness, preoccupation and speed, we may not be able to slow down with our...

Episode 86      How well do you know yourself? The more specific and concrete we can get about knowing the way we are uniquely created and how to be aligned with our design, the freer and more confident we become in making our journey and in taking up the unique mission God created us to do. In this episode I share some real life examples of individuals who have developed greater freedom and confi...

Episode 85      We are often used to getting results in many areas of life by working harder, pushing past our limits and bypassing our weaknesses. Most of us try to approach our spiritual and interior lives in the same way when we begin to take our interior journey seriously. Yet these methods that we default to actually backfire when we try to use them to grow in integration and authenticity and...

Episode 84      Many of us struggle between demanding standards of virtue and holiness from ourselves/others and being compassionate as we know we are called to be. In this episode I invite you to observe the energy underlying your zeal or your desire to be compassionate. Are these tied to a fear of falling short somehow? Do you feel pushed or are you drawn from a place of loving freedom? I also e...

Episode 83      In today’s episode I responded to a question about FREEDOM . What does it mean to be interiorly free? What is that freedom like? How do we recognise when we are unfree? How can we become more free? Listen to this episode to hear me discuss these questions from a practical and experiential perspective. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge wh...

Episode 82      What do we need to successfully embark and stay on the interior journey? In this episode I explain three factors that we often miss out in our understanding of the interior journey  - and they are Timing, Grace and Readiness . If you've been frustrated at your lack of progress even though you've been putting in effort, it may be due to one or more of these factors being m...

Episode 81      One mark of a lack of interior integration is SPIRITUALISING . And this can have real detrimental impact on ourselves, our families and our communities. In this episode I talk about three specific ways spiritualising can blind us from reality, keep us from actually loving, and even helps keep real evil under a spiritualised wrap. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Da...

Episode 80      The most difficult and courageous thing I've ever had to do in the interior journey was confront the TRUTH of my relationship with my parents and the ways they have wounded me even though they loved me the best they could. In this episode I share why acknowledging the painful truth of how our parents have wounded us is a non-negotiable for anyone wanting to become integrated,...

Episode 79      Do you trust your emotions? Our lack of a good relationship with our emotions impact our ability to TRUST OURSELVES to make good decisions and spiritual discernment. Trust is earned, even when it is with ourselves. And to lead ourselves well, we need to rebuild our trust in our emotions and let them play their critical role in our lives without overwhelming or dominating us. This e...

Episode 78    So many of us struggle with how to be at home with our Self and be secure. When we don't feel secure in our own bodies, we will continue to look for security from sources outside of ourselves through exerting control.  In this episode I share about the experience of coming home to ourselves and being able to be at rest. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Insta...

Episode 77    In this episode I talk about noticing the unique pattern of brokenness in our lives and why that's a crucial part of the interior journey. The specific pattern of our brokenness contain clues and invitations to healing and also tells us something about the ways we were actually meant to live. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I...

Episode 76  This episode is the first in a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. On Day 1 I shared about how it was a very human experience of deep loneliness and abandonment as a teenager that led me to begin making my interior journey. It’s sometimes easy to forget t...

Episode 75  Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle of thinking of the better self you want to grow into, wanting to take action, but not knowing how to bridge the gap between where you are and where you think you should be? Listen to this episode to discover how this common trap of "Perfectionist Paralysis" might be playing out in your own life and uncover the ways you can break free from...

Episode 74      Have you ever wondered how our relationship with God can be influenced by our family of origin and faith communities? Join me in a special conversation with Brya Hanan , a licensed marriage and family therapist and life coach, as we explore the often overlooked connection between feeling safe with God and our experiences within our faith communities and families. Discover the impor...

Episode 73      Those of us who desire to become more loving and self-transcending can mistakenly believe that our God-given desire for self-fulfilment is something innately selfish. If we are afraid to embrace and lean into our longing for self-fulfilment, we will not be able to become the unique individuals that God created us to be. In this episode I explain how our longing for self-fulfilment...

Episode 72    Are you aware of the invisible chains of unfreedom and how they keep you from expressing and becoming your true self?  In this episode you will hear me share about three specific ways our life scripts block our path to becoming who God created us to be - in ways you may not have even realised. Anyone who is serious about discerning their personal vocation can benefit from listening t...

Episode 71  Even when we have been on the interior journey for a while and have grown in self-knowledge and self-acceptance, we may find that we still struggle to integrate our new awareness into our daily living. Why is that? In this episode I delve deeper using my own current ongoing struggle of integration to explain why it is that even when we have become much clearer on who we are, we can sti...

Episode 70 One of the constant challenges we face on our road into authenticity and wholeness is the burden of  other people's expectations of us. What we don't often realise is that the "form" of these expectations can change greatly when we are in different seasons of our life, even when we have undergone conversion and growth. In this episode I share with you three very diff...