Becoming Me

Episode 69  In this episode I speak with soul guide and companion Edwina Yeow of Anam Cara Ministries about pace in the interior journey. We share our own experiences of the struggle to slow down, breaking through the compartmentalisation between sacred and secular, and soaking in God's love instead of striving to prove ourselves. Share this episode via this episode page. RESOURCE If you are...

EPISODE 68 Is your search for your True Self and the unique calling that God has given you anchored in a sense of existential safety, or is it subtly driven by anxiety and fear?  Many of us long to know who we are and leap ahead to tools of discernment and retreats without realising that a deep confidence that we are being accompanied by God and by our selves in unconditional acceptance and love i...

EPISODE 67 What is it like to actively discern one's personal vocation and take the steps to follow that discernment in real life?  This episode is a live recording I made after I realised I have been holding back on fully acknowledging the new direction God was asking me to take. In this episode I trace the milestones and turning points of the journey I have taken so far as I follow God&apos...

EPISODE 66 (BONUS)      Can you let God meet you where you REALLY are this Lent? Will you allow yourself to not DO anything for Lent if you are overwhelmed? What might an authentic Lent of interior integration look like for you? In this special bonus episode recorded live on Ash Wednesday, I share about the struggle when we are overwhelmed by what's going on in our own life and find it diffic...

EPISODE 65                          Without identifying the scripts that influence our behaviour without our awareness, we would be unable to come into deeper self-knowledge of who we truly are.  In this episode I share why our scripts can affect our ability to know our real selves, including impacting the accuracy of instruments such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI®) and Motivation Code...

EPISODE 64 When we start healing and become aware of the life scripts that bind us, it can be especially frustrating when we find ourselves succumbing to "old ways".  When this inevitably happens, how can we remain serene? In this episode, I share some tips on how we can learn to co-exist with the old scripts that get triggered even as we grow in strength to live more authentically and b...

EPISODE 63                      In this bonus episode to round off 2022, Nicole Law interviews me about my thoughts on emotionally healthy spirituality. I speak candidly about the pitfalls of approaching our spiritual life without attention to emotional health and what we can do to take steps towards a more integrated and human spirituality. This conversation was originally published over 8 mini e...

EPISODE 62                  In this final episode of the series on interior life and leadership, I discuss four distinct and deepening layers of knowing ourselves. As interior pilgrims we need to understand why self-knowledge needs to go beyond knowing about ourselves to learning how to attune to our inner selves and knowing how to lead ourselves into unity and wholeness. Share this episode via th...

EPISODE 61                  What does it look like to use what we learn about our scripts, temperament and motivational design to help us show up as our best and also most authentic selves?  In this episode I illustrate what this process can be like in concrete terms using my own experience and journey as an example. I share how growing in self-acceptance, becoming more aware of my scripts and lea...

EPISODE 60                How can we bring the best that we can offer as a leader through leveraging our areas of giftedness and honouring our limits? What can we do to increase our effectiveness and impact without burning out and without needing to be inauthentic? Sometimes it's not what we have or don't have, but knowing HOW to manage and use what we have that makes all the difference....

EPISODE 59                What do we do when our insecurity rears its head? When we feel vulnerable and exposed, incompetent but we still have to lead?  Denying, suppressing or bypassing our insecurities may give us short-term relief but will inevitably lead us to greater stress and disintegration. In this episode I explain why learning to recognise and deal with our insecurities in a healthy, sel...

EPISODE 58              In this special episode of the Leadership series, I share a conversation with a fellow interior pilgrim who had tasted the heights of success in leadership but found himself tumbling into the search for authenticity and meaning when the personas that had defined him were taken from him. My guest for this episode is a former President and CEO of a global charitable organisat...

EPISODE 57            Have you ever been so identified with a role that you lose touch with who you are apart from it? Playing an important leadership role can occupy so much of our lives that we forget that our True Self is so much deeper and more multi-faceted than the role(s) we play. In this episode I talk about the importance of having a strong and integrated core identity so that you lead ou...

EPISODE 56          Scripts are the unspoken silent guidelines that shape our thoughts, our beliefs, and our actions which we learn from our interactions with our environment since our earliest days. Scripts are the lens through which we see and interpret our world - but they are often not in our conscious awareness. In this episode I share how we each have a leadership script that impacts the way...

EPISODE 55        We all know how important good leadership is, and  many of us fear that we don't measure up when we have to lead. While there are many ways that we can grow to become more effective as a leader, we often fail to appreciate the harm that an inauthentic and insecure leader can cause - even when we possess other leadership abilities. In this episode, I share about my past strug...

EPISODE  54      If you have been searching for your calling or personal vocation and still feel that you lack clarity, have you wondered how you can help yourself gain clarity in this process? In this episode I talk about three reasons we struggle to gain clarity about our personal vocation - a lack of awareness of the scripts that influence our lives; a lack of knowledge about the unique design...

EPISODE 53 In this final episode to Season 4, I review what we've covered and once again provide an over-arching view of the thematic arcs of this podcast. I also talk about A Leader's Spirituality (ALS) , an online course that I will be teaching in Sep-Oct 2022 for the Catholic Leadership Centre where we will delve systematically into the fundamental principles spoken about on this podc...

EPISODE 52  (BONUS)    When we are in performance mode we expect to be assessed, evaluated and we seek to impress. There are times when we need to be in performance mode but what if that's how we approach our whole life? We end up exhausted and our identities fuse with the roles we play. In this bonus episode I reflect about what happens when we don't get out of "performance mode&qu...

EPISODE   51        Many of us don't realise how much of a hold shame - specifically toxic shame - has over us. When shame is 'toxic', we don't just feel shame over what we do but we experience deep shame over WHO WE ARE. Toxic shame at the core of our identity re-tells the lie that our worth depends on never making a mistake or never disappointing others. In this episode I sha...

EPISODE  50  Being our real selves can be difficult even when we are not under duress. How do we build the inner resilience to still act with authenticity even in times of stress and adversity? In this episode I discuss three factors that impact our inner resilience: - our level of integration (healing) - our ability to self-regulate when we are triggered, - and the availability of the right kind...

EPISODE 49    When we lack integration in our own identity, we do not have the power to love ourselves or others well. The work of interior integration helps us to love not only much but also love others well . In this episode I share how inner child healing helped grow my capacity to love others well: - Made me more self-aware of when I was using connection with others to avoid connecting with my...

EPISODE 48 Have you ever felt the frustration and bewilderment of why your love for someone pushes them away or why your beloved feels harmed by your best intentions? Loving Much ≠ Loving Well. We can love much and harm ourselves and others if we do not also learn how to love well. In this episode I share how loving well is something we simply cannot do unless we heal and integrate our core selves...

EPISODE 47          Have you ever experienced a dissonance between knowing that you are loved and really FEELING that you are loved in your body? For the longest time I used to think there was something wrong with me because I couldn't really experience the love that I cognitively believed God loved me with. In this episode I share about why this dissonance existed and how inner child healing...

EPISODE 46  Just what kind of impact can healing your inner child make in your life? In this follow-up episode to the interview with Dr Jean Cheng, I share about three ways that inner child healing helped me increase my capacity for authenticity and integrity by: - Helping me to stop second-guessing myself; - Helping me to stop people-pleasing; - Helping me grow my moral courage to use my voice an...

EPISODE 45      In this third and final part of the series on Inner Child Healing with Dr Jean Cheng, we talk about: - How do we begin to heal our inner child? What is inner child reparenting? - How does healing our relationship with ourselves help us love others better? - What might we be able to expect if we embark on inner child healing? Have about inner child healing? Ask them HERE ! Share thi...