Authentic

Back in the day, all I did was THE practice that I thought would "make me more spiritual." I thought that by doing the 'thing' that it would mean I am more spiritual, when in fact, there is no such thing as being 'more spiritual'. If I heard someone had been in Kathmandu meditating, I'd think, "well there more spiritual than me!" When I watched Eat Pray...

Steve and I firmly believe that what contributes to our relationship being solid and built on deep trust, is that we are not dependent on one another. We have our own unique interests and aren't keen on dragging the other person along. I love going to dance classes, Steve loves riding his motorbike for example. We are two independent individuals who love being together, doing our thing togeth...

After five days at Gwinganna Retreat, I found my joyful, playful, light-hearted Kat again. Prior to going, I was in 'just get it done' mode, serious mode, no time for joy mode.  I have created an enriched life by choice that has space and time to 'do my life', yet I couldn't see it. My lens on life was task orientated, tick it off, next! The last five days gave me space fr...

I was asked a question recently, and it was, "when you go for your goals, what do you hope to achieve?" Immediately I replied, "to actually the enjoy the journey along the way." Yes, that sounds wanky and cliche, but it's true. I read the quotes and cognitively 'got' that it's about the journey and not only the destination, but when I put this into for real...

I’m currently in the practice of bringing myself back to reality, as in, what’s happening right in front of me and around me. Not what I think is in front of me or what I think is happening around me, but what is right there.   This is to help me get out of the stories running through my head and the meanings I’m about to make reality mean, which has the potential to hate  on my reality, when I ma...

It's been a big month for us. Our richness of time has shifted to strained time, due to high workload and  changes in family dynamics. This has challenged our relationship as the space we previously had changed overnight and we've been adapting to our new reality as best we can.  The other day, Steve and I were running hot, and we were doing our best to not unleash our inner assholes and...

The other morning, I was eating my breakfast and watching Seinfeld. That's not my usual thing to do, but I was sick and wanted to sit snuggled up in my grey trackies, nom-nom-noming on my cereal with Bailey and Daisy sitting next to me. Ah, heaven.  Except the thoughts in my head weren't a fan of this. The doer in me, the achiever, the come on, get it done in me did a great job at attemp...

It seems my body ain't done with taking it slow, but I tell you, my ego is DONE with it.  After a week of rest and honouring my body, I was like, "yes, let's do this world!" And then bam, I got my step-daughter's cold (thanks Ally-bum). All the shit I didn't do the week before I was eager to sink my teeth into, plus get back to Life Hub and lift them weights. But alas...

It's been one week since the life awakening moment with the man on the beach. A week of managing my body and mind's response. I've been doing some reading about the normal and natural responses after delivering CPR and it's been a nice reminder that how I've been feeling is indeed, normal.  I've been doing nothing, so the doing can be done. Rest has been my best frien...

**This episode speaks of an incident that includes the medical intervention of CPR. Please be mindful when listening and check-in with yourself if you feel okay to listen / read on.  I've spoken many times about being a believer of the right time, right place, right person and having deep respect and trust for this way of life. Last week, all the right things led to being in the right place a...

There comes a time where the solo work we do to unravel, peel and strip back our lives, patterns and thinking comes to a natural end. A time where we are called to come out of our sacred cocoon and ‘play’ with life and others with our new found perspective and next layer of authentic self intact. Your ego can resist this, pushing life and others away which stems from a lack of trust in who you are...

I was speaking to a client the other day in a one-to-one session. She shared with me her writings from a meditation that had her access her heart and what she longs for. Immediately she said, "but who am I to have this? Who do I think I am?" That's when I spoke to her about the egos lines of defence and it's multilayered approach in preventing you from receiving and experiencin...

That space between sending a text or email and waiting for the response for something we deem, or is, important, whether it be a job application, making the first move on bumble or asking someone out on a date, can send us bat shit na-nas. "OMG, they haven't written back, I shouldn't have sent it!" The ego's response when we find ourselves waiting anxiously for a response...

I held a pretty firm belief that once I found 'true love', it'd be smooth sailing and easy breezy. That when you meet, 'the one', you'll both just get each other and problems won't exist because you're 'so aligned'. What a reality check I was in for! If anything, there was more work to put in as there were now two humans with their own ego's,...

Okay, it's the final week of the mini coaching series on, "What do you know you need to be in the practice of?" Week 1 you determined what you need to be in the practice of and what your next best step is to be in the practice of that practice.  Week 2 we took a look at what to do when your head or environments gets in the way of your practice.  Week 3 we focused on three self refle...

We're in week 3 of the mini coaching series, an exciting four-week mini coaching series on, "What do you know you need to be in the practice of?" The first week you determined what you need to be in the practice of and what your next best step is to be in the practice of that practice. Last week we took a look at what to do when your head or environments gets in the way of your prac...

We're in week 2 of the mini coaching series, an exciting four-week mini coaching series on, "What do you know you need to be in the practice of?" Last week you determined what you need to be in the practice of and what your next best step is to be in the practice of that practice. This week, we focus on what to do when "life, others and your own head" gets in the way of yo...

Welcome to an exciting four-week mini coaching series on, "What do you know you need to be in the practice of?" In this explorative and much needed journey, I'll be offering you self-enquiry questions, powerful meditations, and check-ins each week to keep you on track and aligned with what truly matters to you. Each episode will provide valuable insights and practical guidance to he...

Before we met, we had a pretty gnarly list of who we wanted to attract into our lives. Both our lists were specific in what the person looked like, what they had, how old they'd be and more. What both our lists didn't have was the essence of the person we wanted to be with and what the energy of our relationship felt like. Steve and I were friends and sought one another for dating advice...

Prior to most work engagements, I have self talk that says, "I can't be bothered." It's a lazy, meh kinda energy I'm carrying around and I watch and observe it.  What I've realised and accepted over the last nine years of business is that no matter how on path I am or how epic an opportunity may be, there's a part of me (the ego) that resists the work. But why? I...

When I started my business I wanted to succeed really quickly. This was driven by the fear of and looking like a failure. I wanted overnight wealth,  overnight engaged community and overnight full books. I guess that's kinda normal to want these things but when I was informed by trusted people and professionals that ... it'll take three years to build your brand and to build a solid, eng...

I'm at that stage in my life where leaving the vacuum cleaner out after I make the house all shmick, isn't cutting it. I'm at that stage in my life where folding the washing and leaving it downstairs, when it belong upstairs and I'm going upstairs but refuse to take it with me, isn't cutting it. I'm at that stage in my life where leaving my clean underwear in the laun...

I've been pulling out the phrase, "this too shall pass", more and more recently, but different reasons.  Typically I'd use this phrase when times are tough and less that ideal. Instead, I've been using this amidst an awesome moment that's full of connection, joy or celebration. And it's not because I'm being a Debbie Downer.  It's been a habit of mine t...

If you've had those pangs of jealousy in your relationship that results in you being controlling, withholding of your love and distrustful, please, listen to today's episode. If you are in a relationship where your partner is insecure and acts out in controlling, withholding and distrustful ways, listen too. If you are single and are thinking, "shit, I think this was me in my last r...

In today's episode, I share that after 6 years of navigating the complexities of blended families, I feel I have found my place and grown to be truly grateful for my step-daughters. Through this experience, I have discovered new depths to my heart that I never knew existed until I met these two beautiful girls.  As I watch them shift from little girls to teenagers, I see them becoming their o...