Authentic

As you embark on the journey of pursuing your dreams and desires, it's important to remember that it's completely normal to self sabotage and cock-block yourself. In fact, it's often in the pursuit of our goals that we are forced to confront our deepest wounds, limiting stories, and ego-driven beliefs. This can be uncomfortable and even painful at times, but it's an essential p...

For the last three years of our relationship, I have been sexually inhibited and it's been an area of mine and Steve's relationship that has been strained. As I ventured in and sought professional guidance to help me, a new layer of healing and liberation unlocked. And with that, layers of pain released. In past relations, I gave my body but not my heart. With Steve, I gave my heart and...

Steve and I made an agreement at the start of our relationship. An agreement that we both contributed to in order to help us stay connected and move out of shitty states when in disagreement. We agreed that when one of us  is acting up, talking with a sharp tone, being care-less with out words or cold shouldering, that the other would remind us of our true intentions and what mattered more than th...

Sharing the mess of life can be challenging and vulnerable, especially when we tend to celebrate the "before and afters". It's also incredibly brave and empowering. Social media and other forms of communication often present an idealised version of life, showcasing only the highlights and filtering out the messiness and struggles that are an inevitable part of the human experience....

It's crucial to understand that personal growth and development is a continuous journey, and it's normal not to have all the answers and breakthroughs at once. We need space to process, to reflect, to integrate. We need to be patient with ourselves and our progress. Remember, the journey towards personal development is a process that requires time and effort, and there are bound to be tw...

In my world, giving ZEROFKS isn't about sticking the bird up to the world with fake, cocky confidence. To me, that is egoic protection and contributes to separation and carelessness between humans.  Giving ZEROFKS is about noticing and observing what thoughts, stories and beliefs are limiting you from expressing yourself, going after something you want or sharing with someone what's on y...

Ooh we had a doozy of a disagreement a few days ago. I wanted to have a moment of whinging and complaining about aspects of my business to Steve without any kind of solution or answer. Steve on the other hand, wanted to provide a solution and answer  to help me overcome my pity party. Well, that went down like a sack of potatoes hard and fast! In today's episode we go into why I cracked it, w...

There's a difference between the next best step and the next perfect step. A next best step is something we take that is in alignment with our core values and truth in that particular moment or phase of our lives. For example, you may be overworked, undervalued and treated poorly at work. Your next best step may be to take a leave of absence for some time, regroup, find your core essence agai...

What is "it"? "It" can be your sense of self, connection to the Universe or faith, belief in your dreams, depth in your relationship or self respect. "It" is something that deeply matters to you and for whatever reason, you've lost connection to it. That loss of connection in some way, shape or form has and might still be, contributing to you feeling out of align...

Personal responsibility is one of my core values. It has been for some time and I'm pretty sure it will be for life. I think that because for the first two decades, this value was not my jam. I took little to no responsibility for life and played the victim card often.  I feel as though this value empowers and propels me to take action towards the things that matter to my heart which helps me...

At the end of each month, Steve and I are coming together on the podcast to share real, raw and relatable when it comes to our relationship. We sat down and agreed that we want to share with you how we powerfully manage difficult conversations and situations in our relationship, so we can be more in our hearts and focus on bigger matters (like loving one another).  In today's episode we speak...

**Please note, today's episode makes mention of sexual abuse. The end to 2022 was a special one for me. An end that I wasn't expecting, didn't plan but one that I'm sure a wiser part in me knew I was ready to experience.  I share openly how much I experience anxiety, often saying to Steve (my partner) that in the last two years, this is the most anxiety I have experienced on a...

My theme for this coming year (2023) is "Natures Way".  As time goes on, it becomes more and more clear to me that what I want gets considered, yet what I need gets delivered. So this years theme seems truly fitting, surrendering to natures way, natures force.  Nature has its own plan, its own patterns, its own connections. This teaches us to trust in a higher power, that there are conne...

In the final episode for 2022 and as we head into that time where new intentions are set, please, listen to today's episode before you get busy setting new goals and intentions. The more I do this work, the more it becomes obvious that a greater force, far greater than my little human ego self, is asking me to surrender more into the unknown and trust it. That in surrender, a certain space is...

I set a theme at the beginning of each year and for 2022 it was, flourish . In my little human mind I had it all mapped and planned out, thinking, "bam, I'm gonna flourish from the get go!" Well, if you've listened to this episode at the beginning of the year, you'll know that I was quickly sat back down by the Universe and how quickly that plan went out the window.  This...

In October I wrote my journal, "stop holding them in a particular shape. Stop bracing yourself for how think they are going to be. Release them from the shape you're holding them in. Instead, meet them where they're at." This was after I noticed that I was basing my behaviour on how I thought certain people in my life were going to behave. I was going into my, well they always...

We all have  choice to deal with inner conflict and pain in powerful ways; with integrity. It takes consciousness and presence which can be hard at times, but it is possible. What makes it difficult is the surge of emotions that stir throughout the body when someone or something touches a wound. When we don't know how to slow this process down, we resolve the pain and inner conflict in less t...

Are the mountains, aka goals, you're climbing, yours? Or are they what you think you have to climb in order to feel more worthy, more enough, more important or more whatever? Or are they societal mountains that you've adopted as you're own, only to make your way to the top and ask yourself, "is this really what I want?" Today's episode will have you take a step back a...

Do you find yourself wanting more space and more time to breathe, to be, to ponder and do as you please? Do you also find that when you have that space and time to do as you please, there's a part of you that resists it, finds it uncomfortable wishes you'd never created space in the first place? If so, then welcome to the, "I live with two opposing forces in me Club that seek differ...

Well, one week has gone by and my beautiful Grandfather passed. The night before he left this world I got to sit with him, kiss his forehead and tell him, "I love you." A precious moment I'll forever cherish. Amidst the McFlurry of emotions this past week, there have been some incredible experiences that have brought joy and juice to my heart. That really is life isn't it - one...

I'm watching my ego as it tries to "make things better" as I currently experience the emotion of sadness and feeling of anxiety. The sadness is linked to my Pop being palliative and the anxiety is linked to family tension and dynamics.  Both situations are linked to uncertainty. How long do we have Pop for? How long will the family dynamics be tense? To try and ease the discomfort i...

I had a great realisation about a week ago when I saw my Kinesiologist, Elena Pilch. The way I have chosen to live my life, the space, the time, the choice of how I work, who I work with, etc is enough. The way I used to work was more hectic, leading to burnout, and my ego believed that when we hit burnout, THEN we've done enough! So the past pattern was, "work until you're flatline...

Before every ZEROFKS dance party, the dream I have the night before is that the sound system fails. Each event it’s never bombed out, but at the last event, it did. Mid dancing our assess off, the power went out — no lights, no music, 250 sweaty legends in a room. Ahhh, the dream (nightmare) came true. Within a matter of a minute Nicole — @theartisanssolutions was up on stage. A woman I’d never me...

A recent realisation has come about after having new photos taken a few weeks ago. I felt it was time to re-shoot photos that capture not only the happy, smiley and "out there" side of me, but also my feminine, softer side. When I saw some of the images on the day, my initial response was, "I won't be putting those up!" Of course I'm curious as to why that's my f...

After almost two years of slowing down the pace of my life and rearranging the way I 'do' so that I'm not always 'doing' for the sake of doing, I had a really lovely moment.  It was a simple moment of putting away a placemat. It was the way I put it away that made me go, "ahhh, this moment right here is the culmination of the last two years." The ease and slownes...