Authentic

There comes a time where the solo work we do to unravel, peel and strip back our lives, patterns and thinking comes to a natural end. A time where we are called to come out of our sacred cocoon and ‘play’ with life and others with our new found perspective and next layer of authentic self intact. Your ego can resist this, pushing life and others away which stems from a lack of trust in who you are...

I was speaking to a client the other day in a one-to-one session. She shared with me her writings from a meditation that had her access her heart and what she longs for. Immediately she said, "but who am I to have this? Who do I think I am?" That's when I spoke to her about the egos lines of defence and it's multilayered approach in preventing you from receiving and experiencin...

That space between sending a text or email and waiting for the response for something we deem, or is, important, whether it be a job application, making the first move on bumble or asking someone out on a date, can send us bat shit na-nas. "OMG, they haven't written back, I shouldn't have sent it!" The ego's response when we find ourselves waiting anxiously for a response...

I held a pretty firm belief that once I found 'true love', it'd be smooth sailing and easy breezy. That when you meet, 'the one', you'll both just get each other and problems won't exist because you're 'so aligned'. What a reality check I was in for! If anything, there was more work to put in as there were now two humans with their own ego's,...

Okay, it's the final week of the mini coaching series on, "What do you know you need to be in the practice of?" Week 1 you determined what you need to be in the practice of and what your next best step is to be in the practice of that practice.  Week 2 we took a look at what to do when your head or environments gets in the way of your practice.  Week 3 we focused on three self refle...

We're in week 3 of the mini coaching series, an exciting four-week mini coaching series on, "What do you know you need to be in the practice of?" The first week you determined what you need to be in the practice of and what your next best step is to be in the practice of that practice. Last week we took a look at what to do when your head or environments gets in the way of your prac...

We're in week 2 of the mini coaching series, an exciting four-week mini coaching series on, "What do you know you need to be in the practice of?" Last week you determined what you need to be in the practice of and what your next best step is to be in the practice of that practice. This week, we focus on what to do when "life, others and your own head" gets in the way of yo...

Welcome to an exciting four-week mini coaching series on, "What do you know you need to be in the practice of?" In this explorative and much needed journey, I'll be offering you self-enquiry questions, powerful meditations, and check-ins each week to keep you on track and aligned with what truly matters to you. Each episode will provide valuable insights and practical guidance to he...

Before we met, we had a pretty gnarly list of who we wanted to attract into our lives. Both our lists were specific in what the person looked like, what they had, how old they'd be and more. What both our lists didn't have was the essence of the person we wanted to be with and what the energy of our relationship felt like. Steve and I were friends and sought one another for dating advice...

Prior to most work engagements, I have self talk that says, "I can't be bothered." It's a lazy, meh kinda energy I'm carrying around and I watch and observe it.  What I've realised and accepted over the last nine years of business is that no matter how on path I am or how epic an opportunity may be, there's a part of me (the ego) that resists the work. But why? I...

When I started my business I wanted to succeed really quickly. This was driven by the fear of and looking like a failure. I wanted overnight wealth,  overnight engaged community and overnight full books. I guess that's kinda normal to want these things but when I was informed by trusted people and professionals that ... it'll take three years to build your brand and to build a solid, eng...

I'm at that stage in my life where leaving the vacuum cleaner out after I make the house all shmick, isn't cutting it. I'm at that stage in my life where folding the washing and leaving it downstairs, when it belong upstairs and I'm going upstairs but refuse to take it with me, isn't cutting it. I'm at that stage in my life where leaving my clean underwear in the laun...

I've been pulling out the phrase, "this too shall pass", more and more recently, but different reasons.  Typically I'd use this phrase when times are tough and less that ideal. Instead, I've been using this amidst an awesome moment that's full of connection, joy or celebration. And it's not because I'm being a Debbie Downer.  It's been a habit of mine t...

If you've had those pangs of jealousy in your relationship that results in you being controlling, withholding of your love and distrustful, please, listen to today's episode. If you are in a relationship where your partner is insecure and acts out in controlling, withholding and distrustful ways, listen too. If you are single and are thinking, "shit, I think this was me in my last r...

In today's episode, I share that after 6 years of navigating the complexities of blended families, I feel I have found my place and grown to be truly grateful for my step-daughters. Through this experience, I have discovered new depths to my heart that I never knew existed until I met these two beautiful girls.  As I watch them shift from little girls to teenagers, I see them becoming their o...

As you embark on the journey of pursuing your dreams and desires, it's important to remember that it's completely normal to self sabotage and cock-block yourself. In fact, it's often in the pursuit of our goals that we are forced to confront our deepest wounds, limiting stories, and ego-driven beliefs. This can be uncomfortable and even painful at times, but it's an essential p...

For the last three years of our relationship, I have been sexually inhibited and it's been an area of mine and Steve's relationship that has been strained. As I ventured in and sought professional guidance to help me, a new layer of healing and liberation unlocked. And with that, layers of pain released. In past relations, I gave my body but not my heart. With Steve, I gave my heart and...

Steve and I made an agreement at the start of our relationship. An agreement that we both contributed to in order to help us stay connected and move out of shitty states when in disagreement. We agreed that when one of us  is acting up, talking with a sharp tone, being care-less with out words or cold shouldering, that the other would remind us of our true intentions and what mattered more than th...

Sharing the mess of life can be challenging and vulnerable, especially when we tend to celebrate the "before and afters". It's also incredibly brave and empowering. Social media and other forms of communication often present an idealised version of life, showcasing only the highlights and filtering out the messiness and struggles that are an inevitable part of the human experience....

It's crucial to understand that personal growth and development is a continuous journey, and it's normal not to have all the answers and breakthroughs at once. We need space to process, to reflect, to integrate. We need to be patient with ourselves and our progress. Remember, the journey towards personal development is a process that requires time and effort, and there are bound to be tw...

In my world, giving ZEROFKS isn't about sticking the bird up to the world with fake, cocky confidence. To me, that is egoic protection and contributes to separation and carelessness between humans.  Giving ZEROFKS is about noticing and observing what thoughts, stories and beliefs are limiting you from expressing yourself, going after something you want or sharing with someone what's on y...

Ooh we had a doozy of a disagreement a few days ago. I wanted to have a moment of whinging and complaining about aspects of my business to Steve without any kind of solution or answer. Steve on the other hand, wanted to provide a solution and answer  to help me overcome my pity party. Well, that went down like a sack of potatoes hard and fast! In today's episode we go into why I cracked it, w...

There's a difference between the next best step and the next perfect step. A next best step is something we take that is in alignment with our core values and truth in that particular moment or phase of our lives. For example, you may be overworked, undervalued and treated poorly at work. Your next best step may be to take a leave of absence for some time, regroup, find your core essence agai...

What is "it"? "It" can be your sense of self, connection to the Universe or faith, belief in your dreams, depth in your relationship or self respect. "It" is something that deeply matters to you and for whatever reason, you've lost connection to it. That loss of connection in some way, shape or form has and might still be, contributing to you feeling out of align...

Personal responsibility is one of my core values. It has been for some time and I'm pretty sure it will be for life. I think that because for the first two decades, this value was not my jam. I took little to no responsibility for life and played the victim card often.  I feel as though this value empowers and propels me to take action towards the things that matter to my heart which helps me...