Authentic

If I waited until I wasn't afraid to go after the things that mattered to my heart and my life, I'd be waiting a long (long) time. A part of me was afraid to leave nursing, make my own money and create my own life. A part of me was afraid to start my business, speak on stage, create programs, run events, write a book and put myself out there. A part of me  was afraid to fall in love, com...

You know those uplevels where it’s happening from the inside out? A grumble, a pulse, a rise of ‘something’ that is so darn powerful that you know it’s going to rearrange the way you see yourself, others and life? It’s that space between letting go of the self that got you here and welcoming in the self you’ve been rooting for. There’s excitement, fear, unsureness (is that even a word?), curiosity...

Steve and I are being tested at the moment. We're in sleep debt. We're sleeping in separate beds. Why? Lately, Steve's snoring has reached new heights and we've gotten into an anxious sleep cycle where Steve is worried he'll snore, so isn't getting deep sleep. I'm worried I'll hear him snore so I'm stressing about getting to sleep first. This resulted i...

Animals have my heart. Period. When their true nature and innocence are taken advantage of, disregarded and used for pleasure, entertainment, food convenience and money, my soul breaks. Something breaks inside me. A pig at MIDLAND BACON PIGGERY in Victoria Australia has been sexually assaulted by a male, the farm owners son in fact. @dominionmovement are doing their best to free Olivia the pig, @c...

Previously I always looked for the metaphorical invisible door for me to escape. Where’s the exit when it gets tough, hard, too much, too close, too vulnerable? That door was something I kept very close to me. But in the lead up to our wedding, writing vows to Steve and the girls, that door was disappearing. And on the day, our magnificent wedding day, it went. I was in. All the way in. I know tha...

There’s cleaning and then there’s CLEANING! Everyone knows that I love a clean, tidy, aesthetically pleasing home. And the ones closest to me know when I’m cleaning because the house needs it, or when I clean because I need it. Cleaning for me became a coping strategy when I was younger. There was a hidden memory jammed up inside me that was causing disturbance. I didn’t have conscious access yet...

I have to give thanks to Brene Brown for giving me the terminology for FFTs - first fucking time. Those experiences or situations you're in where it's new territory, new landscape and you're in pits of "what the fuck do I do here?" It could be your FFT on a date after getting divorced, starting a podcast, having sex with a woman after being in a heterosexual relationship,...

When I was at my lowest, even doing something for three minutes felt almost impossible. Almost. But even at my worst, I could do something good for three minutes. Three minutes of anything that could get me out of my most negative thoughts, that could break my stuckness. To this day, whenever I’m feeling out of sorts and disconnected with my true self, I take a moment. I consciously redirect my at...

Our wedding was 100% us. There was nothing about it that catered to who we thought we had to be, what vows we thought we had to write, who we thought we had to invite, what food and drinks we thought we should get, what we thought we had to wear, what photos we thought we should get and all the rest. Everything about it was us, which is why it was so damn magical. The brief was - we want this to b...

I’ve done my best to keep this under wraps since April 2022 and now I can let the Penguin out of the bag! It’s with a big beating heart that I can now share openly that I’m writing my first book with @penguinbooksaus 🐧. When I received an email from them wanting to chat about the possibility of writing a book, I thought I was being scammed (lol), like for real. But it was indeed legit and I’m so...

This is a ripper story. My beautiful client and now friend, KG, left love off her intention setting because she thought it'd never happen. She didn't want to feel the pain of it never coming true if she had it on her vision board, so, she left it off to not feel or address the wounds that were sitting underneath it all. When I said to her, "is love and a relationship important to yo...

In this month's episode of us sharing insights into our relationship, we reflect and share how not-so-good we have been in the past six weeks, how at times we've been hanging on by a thread questioning our relationship, using some tools to 'get us by' and avoiding the real hard chats we needed to have. Yeah, relationships are real, aren't they? When two people are truly in...

Imagine that somewhere in your future there is a you who is grounded in who they are, knows who they are, connected to their intuition and true self, and who is so goddamn real and genuine that they ooze that special something. Imagine how free and liberated that version of you must be to feel that way and how ace they are at navigating their own mind, ego trip wires and patterned responses. How c...

Alrighty, first episode back for 2024! Let's go! In this episode, I share what my theme for this year is and how I landed at it. From what it started out to be (receive), shifted to (abundance) and where it landed (plentiful), I also share what next best steps I am taking. You know, the little itty bitty ones that you think don't matter, but they really (really) do,  and the importance o...

The word and theme I worked and danced with this year was, "natures way", placing greater trust and faith in the great force and allowing it to crack me open where necessary. In previous years I had hopes for the word and theme I set, often having in mind what I wanted it to do for me. But what I found was that it worked its way into other areas of my life that I'd left unattended a...

One of the greatest tools in my Mary Poppins bag is to be a basic bitch. Meaning, when all the tools in my toolkit aren't hitting the mark and I'm in the midst of an inner shift, I turn to this. No journalling, no meditation, no positive affirmation-ing. Yes, I still take care of my well-being by going for walks, doing some yin yoga or even a dance class, but that's it.  I take the...

One of the tricky aspects about running your own business is that when you grow, your outer world does too. Right now, the business aspect of my outer world is under construction. New scaffolding is being put in place, new contractors and support peeps are being called in, and some things are being reviewed closely to either be transformed or let go of.  Today's podcast shares the realities b...

We've been in the practice of a tool called the three gates. First shared by Rumi, he said, "At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?” At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?” At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?” If our words pass through these gates, we can be assured that we are aligned with our Highest Self." Can I tell you, this practice is a tough one. Often we can get p...

When all the meditating, yoga-ing, journaling, exercising, walking and everything else you have in your toolkit just isn't cutting it, here's one of my go-to's. Sometimes, I just don't have the energy or gusto to "do the work" and basic-bitching is where it's at. Eat, move body, do what's needed, sleep, repeat. Plus, I say this little prayer in the mornings...

What have you been putting off? The thing that you know is kinda there, but your ego is doing a gnarly job of hiding it from you saying, "it's all good, don't worry about this, keep doing what you're doing!" You know, that thing.  Today's episode is a short and sharp one, with me sharing what I've been putting off, why I respect the fact that we do, but how much...

One thing I wang onto my clients about is that the work does not stop and that I, nor anyone else, has THE solution for you. Each coach, healer, psychologist, trainer or whoever, has something to offer (hopefully of real value) and extend to you, to help you navigate life and see yourself, others and life in new ways. And this doesn't stop.  Instead of being all, "dammit, why do I still...

The moment I turned 38,  a very heavy load I was carrying (without knowing just how heavy the load was) dropped. Not an ounce in me wanted to pick the load back up and convince myself that we "need this load to keep us safe, loved, protected, accepted!" A very clear image of my 40-year-old-self has presented and hot-diggity-damn, she is next level She! No wonder my now self is dropping s...

Steve and I talk about about something we all crave in our relationships whether we're aware of it or now - playfulness and fun. Life can get pretty hectic with responsibilities, work, parenting or whatever it may be, and it's easy to lose that spark. But here's the thing, playfulness is the key to keeping the connection alive. In today's episode we share our own experiences an...

Today's podcast episode hits close to home, my friends. I'm sharing something I think we've all grappled with at some point – those pesky stories in our heads that try to dictate how we interact with the world. You know, the narratives that creep in and tell us to keep people and our dreams at arm's length, all in the name of avoiding rejection. Well, I'm here to tell you...

Nine years ago, my brother said to me to ask myself this question when I got a "the call", that internal nudge, regarding living into a greater purpose - "what problem are you solving in the world?"  Of course, I got all heady about it and tried to come up with what I thought I wanted to solve. Plus, imposter-syndrome kicked in right on cue saying things like, "um, who are...