Authentic

In this episode, I’m sharing an update on my perimenopause journey, thanks to a member of my community asking the question. It's been a chapter of life that has been anything but predictable. Working with Dr. Kirstey Holland has been a game-changer. We discovered that my progesterone levels were low, which caused my estrogen levels to spike. The result? Mood swings that left me feeling comple...

In this episode of *Ask Kat & Steve* , we answered a listener’s question about navigating the complexities of blended families. She asked how to handle the difficult, messy moments and how to eventually feel like she fits in as part of a real and authentic family. This is a question that hits home for us because we’ve lived it, and we know how challenging those “ick” moments can feel when ever...

In this episode, I share about a recent rupture between Mia, my bonus daughter, and me. It wasn’t a blow-up or anything dramatic, but it was one of those subtle disconnects that can quietly erode a relationship if left unchecked. She’d been popping in every day before and after school when she was with her mum, and while I love her , I found myself withdrawing—not because I didn’t want her around,...

In this episode, Steve and I are breaking down the decision we made to sleep separately, which, at first, was just about his snoring. It was disrupting our nights, leaving me on edge, waiting to see if I'd get a full night's sleep or end up dragging myself through the next day. But as we moved into this new setup, we realised it was about much more than just noise. The truth is, we both...

Today’s episode speaks to those quiet, insistent yearnings in our hearts—the ones we often overlook or silence because they seem too risky, or even impossible. These yearnings are like markers, guiding us toward authentic living, toward a life and self that truly feel like “home.” Yet, too often, old pains and familiar wounds override these inner pulls. We get trapped in predictable patterns, repe...

So, here's the thing. We all make promises, right? Promises to ourselves about showing up, doing the things we say matter to us, and yet sometimes—especially when we’re tired, grumpy, or just not feeling it—we slack off. I had one of those mornings. Crap sleep, not in the mood, and all I wanted to do was skip my 3-good-minute practice. I almost didn’t do it. But in those three minutes—literal...

In today's episode I talk about the rhythms of life and why it’s so damn important to recognise and respect them. Life isn’t meant to be lived in a constant sprint, nor is it about chilling in sloth mode all the time. It’s about knowing when to sprint, when to run, when to jog, when to walk, and when to just sit the fuck down and embrace the nothingness. Each rhythm has its own place and purp...

In today's episode I talk about the rhythms of life and why it’s so damn important to recognize and respect them. Life isn’t meant to be lived in a constant sprint, nor is it about chilling in sloth mode all the time. It’s about knowing when to sprint, when to run, when to jog, when to walk, and when to just sit the fuck down and embrace the nothingness. Each rhythm has its own place and purp...

Steve and I had one of those weeks where we both found ourselves caught up in focusing on what wasn’t going right, what was missing, or what we thought we should be doing better. It happens, right? You get into a headspace where you’re just seeing everything through this lens of ‘not enough.’ And when you’re in that space, it’s not just you who feels it; it impacts the whole dynamic. We were both...

I want to share some real-life updates with you – the and-ness of life. My life right now is amazing. My book is out there, I’m working with incredible clients, and I feel deeply aligned with my purpose. But here’s the thing – alongside all of that, my old patterns still show up. Those sneaky thoughts that want to pull me back into old ways of thinking, like doubting myself, or feeling like I need...

Lately, Steve and I have been making a real effort to focus on gratitude, and it’s been a game changer. It’s easy to fall into the trap of noticing what the other hasn’t done, isn’t doing, or the little habits that get under your skin. But with gratitude, it shifts where our attention goes. Instead of zeroing in on what’s missing, we’re paying attention to what’s right in front of us—what we *are*...

Perimenopause—who knew this was even a thing? Not me! I always thought menopause was something that just suddenly happened when you hit a certain age, but perimenopause? That’s a whole different beast, and I’m right in the thick of it. It’s like this sneaky, slow-motion transition where your body starts doing things you never expected, and you’re left wondering what the hell is going on. I’ve been...

Lately, I've been reflecting on what truly makes a relationship successful, and one thing stands out: in a strong, healthy relationship, you never try to bring the other person down when they're shining in their light. Instead, you lift them up, cheer them on, and celebrate their successes as if they were your own. As I'm gearing up for the launch of my book, I've been feeling...

Recently, I found myself journaling about the phrase "all in good time." As I was writing, I noticed how much my ego wanted to rush, push, and brute force my way through the process. There was this constant sense of urgency and impatience, a nagging feeling that if I didn't hurry, everything would fall apart. Beneath this impatience, I recognized a deeper, more profound fear of fail...

Lately, I've been immersing myself in the art of listening, and it's been a transformative journey. I started journaling about my experiences with listening, prompted by Julia Cameron's book The Listening Path . Her insights have guided me to pay closer attention not only to the words people say but also to the deeper meanings and emotions behind them. Through my journaling, I'...

I wrote this question down in my journal, played this song , closed my eyes, and let the answers find me. The reason this question came up was due to writing the date, June 30th, at the top of my page and I thought, "wow, halfway through this year. How would I love the rest of it to be?" Then the question opened itself to the 'it' being 'life itself'. Here's what...

Unhealed wounds from our past shape the personalities we present to the world, often causing us to make choices that align more with our trauma than with our true selves. These wounds can manifest as insecurities, fears, and defenses that influence how we interact with others and perceive our place in the world. When we don't address these wounds, we often wear masks that hide our authentic s...

When you take your next best step guided by your inner knowing, you begin a journey of natural evolution. Each step, rooted in your authentic self, paves the way for the next, creating a path that aligns with your true essence. Over time, these steps build upon each other, leading you to places you never imagined. This process is organic and fluid, allowing you to grow and evolve in harmony with y...

It's easy to give a lot of care to things that, in the grand scheme of things, don't really matter. Our egos often convince us to prioritize superficial concerns, social status, and external validation. However, our true essence knows better. It guides us to focus on what truly matters, to give the right kind of fucks. Living authentically means aligning with this deeper wisdom, caring d...

This morning, Steve held space for me in the midst of a raw emotional release. I've been doing EMDR therapy for the past five weeks now, allowing and processing the raw emotions from childhood sexual abuse that I haven't felt in its purity. No bloody wonder why - IT'S. A. LOT. As I journaled this morning, the emotion of anger was right there and I felt it in all its power and fucked...

In my book I write about living a life that feels intrinsically right, good and true for us. A life that we get to dance with and make up the dance moves and rhythm and pace as we go along. A life that is so ours, so very much considered and intuited, a life that also considers the lives of others, all beings. This is the life of someone who is in touch with their authentic nature and plugged into...

Living true to our own pace and rhythm is about honoring the unique cadence of our lives, rather than conforming to the timelines imposed by society. It's a reminder that our journey is deeply personal and cannot be rushed or dictated by external expectations. When we tune into our inner rhythm, we reconnect with our true essence—the part of us that knows what feels right and authentic. This...

I had a magical moment this morning whilst sitting on the canal, listening to beautiful music and chatting with the forces at be. For some time I have not been my most vital in energy and also in well-being. My guts are crook, pretty much always bloated, I've been experiencing brain fog, forgetfulness, losing the thread of thoughts and increasing fatigue. If I hadn't have known about per...

If you find it difficult to communicate what's on your mind and/or heart in your relationship or the person you're dating, do you know why? Do you know the story that keeps you from sharing, speaking, expressing? Do you know the wound that the story was built upon? Do you know the things you tell yourself that leads to 'ahhh, it doesn't matter, I won't bother saying anythi...

"I am tired of tolerating ......" "I am tired of accepting ...... in my relationship." "I am tired of speaking to myself poorly." "I am tired of these behaviours I keep playing out ......" "I am tired of the way I show up at work events and around colleagues." Once you have your answers, the next question is ... What am I willing to do about this?...