Authentic

If you’re waiting for a breakthrough moment, a sign from the universe, or the “perfect” conditions to create change… this episode is your wake-up call. Today I share with you the actual framework I use (and teach) to create meaningful, long-lasting change. No fluff. No hype. Just reality, honesty, and the painfully simple steps we often avoid because they seem too obvious or not enough . Here’s wh...

Steve and I sit down and get real about where we’re currently at in life—what’s working, what’s not, and how we’re using the Wheel of Life to check in and recalibrate. Our wheels of life are awesome, but they're always changing. It’s about being honest with ourselves, having open conversations about what needs attention, and making small, steady shifts toward a life that feels good and ground...

There’s a version of you that came before this one. The one who didn’t listen to her intuition. Who stayed in relationships she knew weren’t right. Who kept her mouth shut to keep the peace. Who dimmed her light to make others comfortable. Who thought she had to be strong, unbothered, and bulletproof just to survive. That woman? She deserves your love. Not your shame. Not your judgment. Not your s...

It’s not always the big ruptures that create distance in a relationship. Sometimes, it’s the tiny moments. The micro-misses. The everyday ways we unknowingly make our partner feel unseen, unimportant, or left out. In this episode, Steve and I talk about the slow burn of disconnection—what we call death by a thousand cuts —and how seemingly small behaviours can add up and quietly erode closeness ov...

In this episode, I’m sharing a season of my life I’ve never forgotten—because it brought me to my knees. There was a time when my Wheel of Life was absolutely wrecked. I wasn’t taking care of my health. I had no grip on my finances. I was spiritually, emotionally, and physically burnt out—on autopilot, pretending everything was okay… until it wasn’t. Eventually, life caught up with me. I couldn’t...

Is there something you want to bring up with your partner but are holding it back?  This question has the power to crack things open. Not to break, but to deepen. In this episode, Steve and I explore why it can feel so hard to bring up the things that actually matter —the stuff that’s sitting in your heart, the niggle that keeps coming back, the truth you’ve softened or silenced to avoid tension....

You know that feeling when your heart is pulling you in a direction… and your mind is like, “Umm, what the actual fuck are you doing?” That’s the space I’m in right now. The dance between fear and trust. Between the life I know and the unknown pull that keeps whispering, “this way.” In today’s episode, I’m opening up about the kind of pull that doesn’t make logical sense, doesn’t add up on paper,...

In this episode, Steve and I sit down to share a conversation we’ve been having privately for a while now — about the importance of true support in a relationship, especially when one person is going through a season of deep inner change. Right now, Steve is in the thick of that kind of season. He’s been in deep contemplation about his life, his family, and what’s shaped him without even realising...

In this episode, I’m talking about something that’s been landing deeply for me lately… the shift into midlife — and more importantly, the shift into living the life I’ve worked so bloody hard to create. Over the last 17 years, I’ve poured energy, time, tears, grit, therapy, growth, healing, coaching, and a whole lot of “let’s go again” into building a life that’s actually in good knick. My relatio...

Steve and I were out on a hike recently, one of those soul-clearing walks where the body moves and the heart starts to open. We asked each other a simple but big question:   “If you died tomorrow, would there be anything you’d regret? Anything you wish you’d done, experienced, or seen?” It hit us both, deeper than we expected. And you know what surprised us? It wasn’t about all the things we hadn’...

I’m in a season of patience right now.  Not the soft, gentle kind that feels like a warm hug—but the gritty, uncomfortable kind that stretches you in all directions while whispering, “You asked for this.” Because I did. I asked for a soul level-up. I said yes to deeper alignment, more truth, more clarity.  And now I’m in the thick of it.  Not doing the work— being worked on. There’s a quietness to...

I found something the other day—a letter buried in the pages of my 2020 journal. A letter from my future self —2023 Kat—written to 2020 Kat. And reading it now, with the perspective I have today, it hit me in a way I didn’t expect. At the time, I was deep in my own push-and-pull with faith and action. Some days, I’d sit back and wait for the universe to do its thing , expecting clarity to just arr...

There’s something incredibly powerful about choosing yourself—not from fear, not from old wounds, but from deep, grounded self-worth. And today’s guest, KG, embodies that in every way. If you’ve read Authentic: Coming Home to Your True Self , you’ll remember KG’s story—where she was, what she was navigating, and the work we did together to help her see her patterns, her ego, and what was running t...

Lately, my head and my chest have been in a full-blown tug-of-war. So much for my word of the year— unwavered . If anything, my ego’s been working overtime to shake me. Every morning, before I even opened my eyes properly, I’d wake up with a pit in my stomach, my chest tight with anxiety. My body was telling me something, but instead of listening, I got annoyed. Frustrated. Tried to push it away,...

Podcast Episode: Michelle’s Journey – From Fear to Freedom There’s a moment in life where you realize—you’re either going to keep living the same story, or you’re going to change it. Michelle, who you might remember as Jacqui from my book, was stuck in a life that wasn’t hers. She was scared of life, scared of what would happen if she actually listened to what she wanted and scared of what would h...

Two years ago, my client Lynn was living a life that looked successful on the outside but felt completely out of alignment on the inside. She was the ultimate people-pleaser and hyper-achiever, saying yes to everything and everyone, pushing herself to meet expectations that weren’t even hers. She had spent so long putting everyone else’s needs ahead of her own that she didn’t even know what her ne...

One year married. One whole, wild, beautiful, messy, heart-opening year. If you’d asked either of us years ago if we’d ever find a love like this, we’d have laughed—or maybe cried. Because before we found each other, we were convinced it wasn’t possible. Steve was gutted in 2016. The kind of heartbreak that cracks you open and makes you swear, never again . So he dated. A lot. But he kept women at...

In this week’s podcast episode, I’m pumped to bring Megan on for a chat—a legend whose story I shared in my book. Megan’s journey struck a chord with so many of you, and today, she’s here to share where she’s at now after making one hell of a bold and brave move to align her life with her authentic self. If you’ve read her story, you’ll remember Megan was stuck in the thick of it—pregnant with her...

This week, Steve and I are sharing the realness of something that’s happening in our lives right now. We’re both deeply plugged into the business area of our wheel of life—so much so that other areas, like our relationship, are starting to feel the pinch. Don’t get me wrong, we’re all for diving into work when it calls, but when it comes at the cost of connection and ease in your relationship, it’...

Authenticity isn’t about trying to be authentic. It’s not something you force or perform. It’s who you are when you’re in your most natural, relaxed state—when you’re not overthinking how you come across or questioning if you’re enough. But let’s be honest—most of us aren’t living from that place. Instead, we’re driven by a constant undercurrent of “I’m not enough as I am.” That belief creeps into...

In this episode, Steve and I are in a real-life scenario that could’ve turned into a full-blown issue—if we didn’t have the tools we do. And honestly? The “problem” wasn’t even real. It was one I’d made up in my head. Here’s how it went down: I was feeling off with Steve. Frustrated, withholding love, and just carrying this low-level resentment. Add in a bit of LOL - I hadn’t actually communicated...

Alrighty, I’m sharing three simple but powerful questions that can create real clarity and momentum in your life: What do you want to start doing? What do you want to stop doing? What do you want to keep doing? These questions are beautifully straightforward, yet the answers they bring up can be deeply insightful. They give you a chance to reflect on what’s truly working for you, what’s not, and w...

In our final episode for 2024, Steve and I sat down for what has become a cherished tradition: our annual Partner Reflections . This is a practice we hold close to our hearts because it’s about more than just looking back on the year—it’s about truly seeing each other. During this time, we reflect on what we’ve observed in the other person throughout the year. We share where we saw them grow, the...

In this episode, I’m sharing my theme for 2024: Plentiful . When this word came to me, it felt expansive, almost too big for the version of me who was used to letting things in just a little at a time. But I knew it was the one. Plentiful —existing in or yielding great quantities, abundant—moved through my life in ways my little ego self couldn’t predict but my soul knew what was needed.  This the...

In this episode of Ask Kat & Steve , we addressed a question from one of our listeners, Carole, about finding a mature man—something I know so many people can relate to. Steve shared some real gold from his dating experiences, talking about how he learned to be more intentional in how he approached dating. Early on, he realised the importance of vetting people better: asking deeper questions,...