#AskAMan

Anonymous says he’s been with his girlfriend for 8 years now. Anonymous says they had an abortion early in their relationship because of the circumstances at the time and that is now affecting their relationship. Anonymous says both him and his partner want to have a baby however he says his partner says she doesn’t want to have a baby with him because she feels like he forced the abortion on her...

Anonymous says he’s been with his girlfriend for 4 yers now and things have been fine in their relationship, but the issue is his girlfriend’s mother. Anonymous says he was trying to get his girlfriend a gift and went to his girlfriend’s mother for advice on the gift, however, anonymous says while he was there his girlfriend’s mother was making subtle advances at him and they ended up sleeping wit...

Anonymous says he’s been in a relationship for 4 years and he says they have two kids with his partner. Anonymous says he liked a different lady before meeting his partner but that lady friend zoned him and he moved on. Anonymous says that lady then came back into his life while he was already with his current partner and he had a bit of an affair with the lady. Anonymous says the affair ended whe...

Anonymous and his partner have been together for a year now. Anonymous says his partner is great, however, recently he saw his partner’s social media status and she had posted about how she buried her previous long term partner and hasn’t been the same ever since. Anonymous says he was taken aback by this status and they don’t really talk about her past relationship. Anonymous confronted her about...

Anonymous says she’s been in a relationship with a man for a year, she’s 56 and he’s 59, she has two kids and he has 5 kids. Anonymous says she makes more money than the guy and he’s constantly spending her money on him and his grown up kids. Anonymous says she feels like he’s using her because she’s financially more capable. She’s loves him but isn’t sure if he loves her in the same way.

Anonymous says says he dated girl no.1 from 2017 to 2021, he then started dating girl no.2 in 2022 and things faded between them earlier this year, they are still together but they are not really on good terms. Anonymous says he’s now back to having a relationship with girl no.1, however girl no.1 is now in the process of being “lobolad” by another man who she now has a baby with. Anonymous says t...

Anonymous says his partner caught him cheating on her late last year with another woman, which he did in reaction to her cheating on him. Anonymous says they initially broke up after this but got back together looking to work things out. Anonymous says since they’ve been back together his partner keeps bringing up the fact the he cheated on her and she doesn’t seem to be getting over what happened...

Anonymous says he’s married with 3 kids and is currently dating 3 different women and has been with them for a few years now. Anonymous says they all support him financially and they know he’s married. Anonymous says he’s tired because this puts him on a very hectic schedule of handling all 4 of his partners and he doesn’t know what to do.

Anonymous says she met her partner in September last year and they moved in together in January of this year, and got married in February. Anonymous says everything has been fine however she feels like her husband is lazy, she basis this on the fact that he keeps quitting his jobs and doesn’t give any valid reasons. Anonymous says this puts a huge financial burden on her. Anonymous says she’s call...

Anonymous says she got married to her now ex husband in 2019 despite him finding out that she had cheated on him in the early stages of their long distance relationship. Anonymous says just before they got married her partner cheated on her and impregnated another lady. They continued their relationship and got married. Anonymous says this time last year she found out he was cheating on her again...

Anonymous says he met his partner late in 2022. Anonymous says 4 months into their relationship his ex started texting him because the ex had a miscarriage during their relationship and she needed them to do a cleansing for that miscarriage. Anonymous says his partner found out that he was in contact with his ex and he explained the reason for this, which she understood but told anonymous to now c...

Anonymous has been with his partner for 16 years and they now have 3 kids together. Anonymous says he did start lobola proceedings before they moved in together however the process wasn’t completed because he focused on buying a home for them in their village. Anonymous says he’s since tried to complete the process of lobola but says his partner’s family has been postponing having a meeting with h...

Anonymous says she feels like she’s constantly getting cheated on in relationships. She says she keeps giving her all in her relationships but her partners always cheat on her. Anonymous has also shared about being abused in one of her relationships and adds that her partners also leave her for women who are more economically successful than her.

Anonymous says she’s had a long friendship with guy no.1 and over the years they’ve hooked up a few times but they are mostly just friends and anonymous is not interesting in dating guy no.1. Anonymous says in 2020 she started things with guy no.2 and they were living  together during the pandemic and their relationship was going well and she eventually moved in with guy no.2 because she was waiti...

Anonymous has been with his partner since 2007 , however, he says he cheated on his partner in the early days of their relationship which he thinks has led to her being sceptical about marrying him even now years later. Anonymous says their relationship has been generally ok however he lost his job in 2019 and she became the sole breadwinner which led to him realising that she has a gambling probl...

Anonymous says she met the father of her child back in 2017 and she moved in with him early on and they had a child together. Anonymous says he had started the lobola process but their relationship soured and they broke up. Anonymous says she moved back home after this and their first child died while they were separated. Anonymous moved back to the same city and they started dating again. Anonymo...

Anonymous says she’s currently separated from her husband, who she’s been with for almost 20 years. Anonymous says over the years in their marriage they’ve had issues with her husband’s family who don’t approve of anonymous. Anonymous has insinuated that her husband has been cheating on her many times over the years and they’ve had many issues. Anonymous says she has since separated from him and m...

Anonymous says she’s been married to her husband for the last two years and all has been well however a few days ago she was able to see messages on his computer of him chatting to another lady. Anonymous says she confronted the lady and this lady then told anonymous about the relationship she has with anonymous’ husband. It turns out he’s been dating this lady since last September, to a point whe...

Anonymous says her relationship with her partner was fine until she gave birth to their child and he changed on her and wouldn’t even update her about his whereabouts and would avoid her. Anonymous says she confronted him about his changed behaviour and he promised to change but he didn’t really change. Anonymous says she’s recently found out that his behaviour changed because he had actually ente...

Anonymous says he was married to his ex for 8 years. When they came into the relationship she had two children and he had one child. Anonymous says he became and ill and his wife couldn’t handle it and asked for a divorce while he was in hospital. Anonymous says his ex then went on her own but her son, who was also ill at the time, stayed with anonymous. Anonymous says a couple of years after his...

Anonymous says she had an on and off relationship with her high school sweetheart because their families were against it, claiming that the two were related. Anonymous says she eventually got married to someone else and they have children together. She says things soured in her marriage and she rekindled things with her high school sweetheart and she was ready to leave her marriage for him, but he...

Anonymous says she’s in her early 30s with a 5 year-old son. Anonymous says she’s trying to get back into the dating game but says she thinks she struggles with getting in touch with her feminine side in relationships and instead she’s very masculine and wonders if she’s not giving men the chance to be a “man” in the relationship. Anonymous says she suspects she’s this way as a result of her being...

Anonymous has been with her partner for 10 years and says her mom never approved of their relationship from the beginning. Anonymous says they’ve had a child for the last 3 years and her family has still not changed their attitude towards her partner. Anonymous says she moved out of home because of the tension her relationship was causing at home and found her own place, however, she says her movi...

Anonymous is married with 4 children and she’s been with her partner since high school 20 years ago. Anonymous says in the beginning years of their relationship, anonymous’ partner cheated on her and she wanted to leave but he convinced her that he was serious about her by completing the lobola and finalising their marriage. Anonymous says the issue now is that her husband lost his job and as he w...

Anonymous is in love with two guys. She says she met one guy while they were volunteering for an organisation, she says they lost contact with guy no.1 after he disappeared for weeks. Anonymous met guy no.2 at her new job and she decided to go with it as guy no.1 was not getting back to her. Anonymous says things are great with guy no.2 who takes care of her. Anonymous says 9 weeks after disappear...