#AskAMan

Anonymous met a guy in her neighbourhood back in the day and she wasn’t really sure about him. She says after things fell apart with the father of her child she finally gave this guy a chance even though she wasn’t really attracted to him. Anonymous says she didn’t really want to marry him but completed the process of getting married after she found out she was pregnant with the guy’s child. Many...

Anonymous says she was in a relationship with a man who was younger than her and says when she lost her job he found a job and then changed on her and even broke up with her. Anonymous says after they broke up he downgraded his maintenance of their child, even moving the child from private school to public school. Anonymous says he now currently is not even making those reduced maintenance fees th...

Anonymous says he found out late last year that his partner is having an affair with the father of her child. Anonymous says he found out because his partner didn’t return home but in fact she was sleeping at her baby daddy’s family home. Anonymous says he doesn’t know how to deal with this as he feels like she only started doing this when he lost his job and couldn’t care for her financially. Ano...

Anonymous has a wife and two kids and met a woman in 2021 who intended to make his second wife. Anonymous says the woman agreed to become his second wife and things were fine she even met anonymous’ first wife. Anonymous says he made her a director in his company. Anonymous says they got married and had a child in 2023, but says his second wife changed after they got married and she was not even t...

Anonymous has been married to her high school sweetheart for 3 years. Anonymous says things are weird because her partner has been cheating on her and has now impregnated another woman. Anonymous says she has a spiritual gift and it’s believed that when her partner cheats on her, her ancestors punish his family, to a point that her partner’s family believes that her partner’s mother died because a...

Anonymous says she met her partner in 2015 and they got married traditionally in 2017. Anonymous says she was pregnant when they got married and they Both came into the relationship with children. Anonymous says she has found out that he’s cheating and impregnated another woman…

Anonymous recently rekindled things with a guy she used to be in a ‘situationship’ with after many years. They now both have kids and have come out of serious relationships. Anonymous says he’s a good guy and they have a good relationship however anonymous says he has said to her that he’s not interested in getting too serious and doesn’t want to get married.

Anonymous says she was at the Metro FM Music Awards this past weekend with her partner and they had a great time however after the Love Movement party on Sunday her partner went to another venue to party while anonymous stayed back at their accommodation. Anonymous says he only came back the next morning after 7am. Anonymous says as she was readying the car for them to return home, she found lipgl...

Anonymous says back in his matric year in 2004 he had sexual relations with a student teacher at his school. Anonymous says it happened once and she left anonymous’ school for another one. They ran into each other 8 years later in 2012, when the teacher told anonymous that she had actually fallen pregnant and they have a child together. The child is now about 20 years old and still doesn't know an...

Anonymous has been married to his wife for 8 years now and they have two kids together. Anonymous says he’s currently dating 3 different ladies at work and two of them are now pregnant. Anonymous says none of these ladies know about each other, his wife also doesn’t know. Anonymous doesn’t know how to deal with this or how to reveal the truth to his partners.

Anonymous is in a long distance relationship and things were going well in the relationship to a point were this lady bought him a car. The car turned out to be a poisoned chalice as anonymous’ partner uses it to track him and continuously threatens to take it away from him when they fight. 

Anonymous says he met a woman earlier this year and they hit off early on. Anonymous says at the beginning of their relationship they agreed to hold off on having sex for a few weeks and did start getting sexually intimate two months into the relationship. Anonymous says during this time his partner had a birthday and he found out that she’s 21 and not 24 like anonymous had thought. Anonymous says...

Late last year anonymous started dating a guy that she’s known since 2014. Anonymous says 2 months after they started dating she fell pregnant. They spoke about the pregnancy and both decided they were not ready for a baby so she terminated the pregnancy. Anonymous says after the termination he went cold on her and when she visited him recently he was offish and said to her that he feels like she’...

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for 3 years and has now paid for her lobola. Anonymous already has two wives and this partner was going to be his third wife. Anonymous says after he paid lobola for her she cancelled the wedding celebration and said she didn’t want to complete the marriage process because she no longer wants to be in a polygamist marriage, something she was aware of in th...

Anonymous says her partner of 7 months is great and he’s a good guy but she feels like he’s boring. She says she’s very outgoing and he isn’t and likes to stay at home. Anonymous says she’s spoken to him about being a bit more out there but he doesn’t seem to be changing. Anonymous says she also feels like he’s a bit stingy and won’t even spend much on going out.

Anonymous says she hadn’t been dating for about 5 years when she met a guy online. Anonymous says they eventually started dating after a few hiccups in starting the relationship. Anonymous says they dated for a year and then he broke up with her saying that she has a big ego and has, quote, feminist tendencies. Anonymous says she’s heartbroken and she’s not sure if maybe his reasons for breaking u...

Anonymous is in her early 20s and is married to a guy who’s in his late 50s. Anonymous came into the marriage with two kids and they don’t have kids together. Anonymous says her problem is that she doesn’t feel free in the marriage. She says he doesn’t allow her to go out, have friends or visit her family. Anonymous says when she speaks to her family about this they don’t support her and say she j...

Anonymous says her and her man met randomly and they had a good relationship at the start but things have now changed. Anonymous says one of the things her partner discussed with her in the beginning is that he uses isolation as a way to cope with challenges in his life.  Anonymous says he’s recently gone through some hardships in his work which has led to him becoming isolated and absent in their...

Anonymous has been on and off with her now husband for the last 18 years. They met when she was young and she fell pregnant straight out of high school. Anonymous says even when they started, he was older than her and was with another woman who he impregnated. Anonymous says their relationship has been quite bumpy throughout the 18 years and says the spark is completely gone in their marriage and...

Anonymous got into a relationship with a guy who is in a relationship with guy who’s in a relationship, they met at work. Anonymous says the guy’s girlfriend has found out about their affair about 3 times and they’ve continued with the affair each time. Fast forward to now, the girlfriend called anonymous and basically told anonymous to leave her man alone. Anonymous spoke to the guy and they spok...

Anonymous has a child with her high school sweetheart and they ended their relationship a few years ago after their relationship got toxic. Anonymous says her ex became distant after their break up and didn’t even support their child. Anonymous says he’s now back in their lives and does support their child but not enough as she says. Anonymous says she’s thinking of having another baby with him as...

Anonymous met a lady on a dating app and says they decided to start a relationship after their first date. Anonymous says their relationship has been a little bumpy because the partner lacks good communication skills and says she doesn’t speak to her in a respectful manner. Anonymous also says the partner has mentioned that she was born with two sexual organs and had one removed. Anonymous says sh...

Anonymous has been with his partner for 4 years and says he feels like he’s been a good partner towards her and has supported her in many ways. Anonymous says the problem is that she has cheated on him multiple times and he’s forgiven her each time but he’s tired of this and doesn’t know what to do because he loves her deeply and doesn’t know how to let her go.

Anonymous has been with his now wife for 10 years and says she’s been a great partner and even helped him grow. Anonymous says he loves his wife but he  doesn’t quite enjoy their sex life and feels like she’s not coming to the party sexually. Anonymous says they’ve tried therapy but it hasn’t helped much and he has cheated on her with 6 different women and his wife has found out about these affair...

Anonymous has been with her partner for 3 - 4 years and says she’s been the breadwinner for most of these years. Anonymous says he tends to steal her bank card to go out partying and isn’t very apologetic about it. He has stolen her Anonymous says he’s threatened her life on more than one occasion and can be irrational when he’s drinking. Anonymous has described how he’s hit her and sexually abuse...