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Anonymous met a guy who she immediately hit things off with and started having a relationship with him from the onset, and they’ve been together for about 6 months. However, a few months into the relationship she realised that he’s actually in a serious relationship with someone who he has children with.  She wants to exit this situation but she finds herself falling “deeply...

Anonymous met his current partner about 8 years ago, when he was still in varsity, and they’ve been together ever since.  He still had flings with other ladies at the beginning of their relationship but stopped that behaviour after they had their first child.  He eventually went back to his old ways of having affairs with other women, and this time his partner found out after seein...

Anonymous met a lady last year and says everything was fine between them until she found a job in another province, a couple of months into their relationship.  Her new job required her to have a car and he offered to finance a car on her behalf, something she refused but eventually agreed to it, however he ended up not getting the car as she was acting suspicious.  Their relationship st...

Anonymous says when he met lady no.1 she was married, they dated despite this fact and she actually fell pregnant early in their relationship and anonymous says it’s his kid.  Things got sour between him and lady no.1 after she claimed to be moving to another country for work.  He then met lady no.2, who he initially didn’t tell about his child with the ex but has now confess...

This morning, Ask a Man sounds a little different. We usually turn to our panel for honest conversations about love, relationships and the questions that sometimes leave us confused. But with gender-based violence gripping the nation, this is not a moment for business as usual. We call on you the Ask a Man community, we want to have a necessary and uncomfortable conversation; not to speak on behal...

Anonymous has been with her partner for over a year now. They both had jobs when they met but she got a different job in another region and had to move. He quit from his job about since months after she moved and this didn’t really affect their relationship. However, she’s now back in the same area as him and it’s really highlighting the financial gap between them. A part of her...

Anonymous has been in a relationship with his partner for about two years now. They had a child a few months into their relationship, however, he lost his job at around the same time and had to move to another province for a new job.  He says things soured in their relationship after he moved and she hasn’t been the same since. He feels like he’s forcing things, and he’s the...

Anonymous is 36 dating a man who’s 63. She has a ten year-old child and he has three children, the oldest daughter is the same age as anonymous. She’ll be meeting her partner’s daughter, who’s her age mate, soon and is feeling uneasy about meeting her. She adds that he’s a pastor at his church and she’s worried about how the congregation will react. 

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 6 years now, they have two children together and they are in a long distance relationship.  She feels like he’s a bad communicator, they can go days without him calling her and he seems to be ok with that. She adds that even when they do talk he never talks about himself or what he’s going through in his life.  She’s feeling...

Anonymous says her marriage is toxic, she’s had enough of her husband’s antics and knows that she should end her marriage, but she’s struggling to actually leave.  She says they have the public picture of the perfect marriage and that’s something that’s keeping her in the marriage.  Another reason is because, despite knowing that he’ll never change, sh...

Anonymous met a guy back in 2023 and got into a relationship with him despite recognising that he’s a bit of player.  At some point she found out that he was cheating on her with multiple women, but continued with the relationship believing that they are meant to be with each other.  She fell pregnant and around this time found out that he was treating an STI that he didn’t t...

Anonymous has been with her now husband shortly after matriculating. They got married a couple of years after meeting and they have two children together.  The problem in their relationship is finances. She says they don’t communicate properly when it comes to finances in their relationship and he only brings her in when he’s facing trouble financially. She adds that at some point...