#AskAMan

Anonymous is in his late thirties and he’s currently in the process of getting divorced from his wife who he’s been with for about 18 years now.  Early on in their relationship they were in a long distance relationship and he cheated on his wife with another woman who he impregnated. Over the years his partner, who he also has child with, knew about the other child but wouldn&rsqu...

Anonymous broke up with the mother of her two children back in 2018 and as a result she moved away, with their two kids, to her home province.  They both found other partners and she even got married to someone else.  The mother of her children moved away with his car and he let it go because the car would assist her in transporting their children.  His worry now is that his ex&rsqu...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about 8 years now, she’s in her mid thirties, he’s in his late thirties, they have two children together and she came into their relationship with one child.  They are both orphans and are responsible for their  siblings. She feels like her partner is having to sacrifice a lot in supporting his one brother…. The brother...

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 10 years now and they have two children together.  Her husband got sick and the doctors at the hospital were not able to diagnose what the problem was, so he then opted for spiritual intervention and started visiting a sangoma, despite their staunch Christian background.  This made anonymous uneasy but she supported her husband in his quest t...

Anonymous met a guy in 2018 and they started dating four months later, which was in 2019.  When she met this guy, she was in a relationship that was falling apart and it eventually ended and she continued with the guy she met in 2018.  Early on in their relationship he confessed to her that he is in a long distance relationship with another woman who lives in another province. He initial...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about a year now and she’s currently pregnant with their first child.  She feels like they haven’t been on the same page about the pregnancy or the future of their relationship. As a pregnant woman, he hasn’t been caring for her or giving her time and she’s currently in her third trimester.  She doesn’t know what to re...

Anonymous has been in a relationship with her partner for about 3 years and says their relationship is great, and he ticks most of the boxes of what she’s looking for a in a partner.  The only issue she has with him is his behaviour in the bedroom, as she feels like he’s become sexually selfish.  It wasn’t always like this but lately he rushes through foreplay and doesn...

Anonymous has been single for about two years after getting out of a long-term relationship. She decided to be celibate after the breakup and has kept things that way until she started seeing her former high school crush.  Things were going well with this guy so and it ended up with her getting intimate with him and breaking her celibacy.  She now feels a bit weird about sleeping with hi...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 9 years now, and says things were generally fine between them until she found out last year that he actually has children from a previous relationship that he didn’t tell her about.  She was upset about this and confronted him, to which he responded by saying that she should be happy that he married her instead of the mother of his children....

Anonymous says he persued his current partner for about two years before they eventually started dating.  Their relationship was going well and she fell pregnant after they had agreed to have a baby together. His partner ended up aborting the baby as she was worried about how it would affect her mental health as she’s suffering from a mental condition. This frustrated anonymous….

Anonymous started dating her partner about three years ago and says her partner cheated on her, with his ex, early on in their relationship but they overcame this and moved on with their relationship.  She recently found texts on his phone to his friend where he was sharing with his friend about meeting up with another girl.  She confronted him about this and he said it’s not somet...

Anonymous was in a relationship with a lady last year and things were going until she confessed that she was actually in a relationship with an older man that she had previously claimed was her father.  She told anonymous that she was going to break things off with the guy but he’s not sure whether she ever really tried to break up with him.  Fast forward to this year, he found out...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 5 months now, they are both in their 30s, they have one child each, she lives with her child and he lives at his family home with his parents.  He often visits her place on weekends when they are both free and while this arrangement initially worked she feels like he’s become a major cost to her pocket. She brought this up and ask him to con...

Anonymous has been in an on and off relationship with her high school sweetheart for about 7 years now and they are currently separated. They’ve broken up for various reasons over the years, mostly because he keeps cheating on her with the same woman.  Anonymous and this guy live quite far from each other now, and every time she’s away from their home town (for school) he seems to...

Anonymous met her current partner while she was in varsity, while he was already working and had an established career.  When she was younger she was more interested in building her career in her twenties and then maybe building a family in her early thirties. However, her partner was really keen to get married and have children, something she wasn’t really keen for this early in her li...

Anonymous has been with a man she’s “in love” with for about three years now, and they are both in their 50s.  The relationship is going amazing, however, she has never been to his place and he always comes to his place. She has never met his family either and he never wants to go on extended vacations either. She brought this up and he said she must give him time to figure...

Anonymous has been with his partner and the mother of his children for about 16 years now.  Things were generally fine between them until they had their first child in 2017, and says there was a rift between them and their families. They were able to get through all of that and even had their second child in 2021.  In 2023 he caught her cheating when he saw her kissing another man. She i...

Anonymous met a lady back in 2018 and things moved quickly between them, as they even moved in together after only a month of dating.  He cheated on her at some point in the relationship but they were able to get past this. After she moved to another city her attitude towards him changed, even when she moved back she was just not the same person any more and was very distant.  She broke...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years now and they’ve known each other for about 10 years.  She says he’s a great partner and does most things in their relationship right however, the problem they have is social media.  He follows a lot of “baddies” and is always liking pictures of half naked women who are posing provocatively. She notes that it&...

Anonymous and her partner, guy no.1, have been together for about 11 years now.  She says they met at church and when they started dating she didn’t realise that he was dating other women in their church. This complicated things between them and she ended up breaking things off with him and started dating guy no.2, who was dating her guy no.1’s side-girl.  She fell pregnant w...

Anonymous found out last year that her longterm partner had been having an affair with another woman for many years while they were together.  She broke up with him at that point but after months of separation he came back and persuaded her to get back together with him.  Their relationship has been great since getting back together, however, about a week ago, she found out that he&rsquo...

Anonymous started dating a guy in 2017 and their relationship was ok for the most part in the beginning stages. Years later she fell pregnant and says during this time she lost interest in her partner and didn’t even want him to touch her. She believes this behaviour drove him into the arms of another woman and he also ended up impregnating her.  She found out about this, they worked th...

Anonymous is in her early thirties and has been dating her current partner for about 8 months now. She says this partner fits the description of the person a prophet once told her she would meet one day At some point in their relationship she found evidence that he had someone else, and he confessed to this after she confronted him about it.  She tried to break-up with him after this revelati...

Anonymous cheated on his partner two years into their relationship back in 2014. They went through therapy following this incident but the process led to him finding out that she had cheated on him as well.  They moved on with their relationship but he says she continued to bring up his cheating and their relationship broke down, when he took ill, they separated.  Things were fine betwee...

Anonymous says her relationship is generally fine but their sex life is problematic. She says she’s the one who always initiates, but he often rejects her advances towards him. This has been a problem for years in their relationship and she's not sure how to live with his lack of sexual interest.