#AskAMan

Anonymous says her relationship with her partner was fine until she gave birth to their child and he changed on her and wouldn’t even update her about his whereabouts and would avoid her. Anonymous says she confronted him about his changed behaviour and he promised to change but he didn’t really change. Anonymous says she’s recently found out that his behaviour changed because he had actually ente...

Anonymous says he was married to his ex for 8 years. When they came into the relationship she had two children and he had one child. Anonymous says he became and ill and his wife couldn’t handle it and asked for a divorce while he was in hospital. Anonymous says his ex then went on her own but her son, who was also ill at the time, stayed with anonymous. Anonymous says a couple of years after his...

Anonymous says she had an on and off relationship with her high school sweetheart because their families were against it, claiming that the two were related. Anonymous says she eventually got married to someone else and they have children together. She says things soured in her marriage and she rekindled things with her high school sweetheart and she was ready to leave her marriage for him, but he...

Anonymous says she’s in her early 30s with a 5 year-old son. Anonymous says she’s trying to get back into the dating game but says she thinks she struggles with getting in touch with her feminine side in relationships and instead she’s very masculine and wonders if she’s not giving men the chance to be a “man” in the relationship. Anonymous says she suspects she’s this way as a result of her being...

Anonymous has been with her partner for 10 years and says her mom never approved of their relationship from the beginning. Anonymous says they’ve had a child for the last 3 years and her family has still not changed their attitude towards her partner. Anonymous says she moved out of home because of the tension her relationship was causing at home and found her own place, however, she says her movi...

Anonymous is married with 4 children and she’s been with her partner since high school 20 years ago. Anonymous says in the beginning years of their relationship, anonymous’ partner cheated on her and she wanted to leave but he convinced her that he was serious about her by completing the lobola and finalising their marriage. Anonymous says the issue now is that her husband lost his job and as he w...

Anonymous is in love with two guys. She says she met one guy while they were volunteering for an organisation, she says they lost contact with guy no.1 after he disappeared for weeks. Anonymous met guy no.2 at her new job and she decided to go with it as guy no.1 was not getting back to her. Anonymous says things are great with guy no.2 who takes care of her. Anonymous says 9 weeks after disappear...

Anonymous says she dated a certain lady, lady no.1, back in 2011 and they never actually broke up, their relationship just faded. Anonymous says they recently reconnected and lady no.1 told anonymous that she’s currently married but she’s frustrated in her marriage and wants to have a relationship with anonymous. Anonymous says they then started dating but along the way anonymous says she had to f...

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for a few years and they moved in together in order for her to be closer to her tertiary institution. After she was done, she moved out as their parents said they need to do things right way in order to live together. Anonymous says they had some troubles in their relationship and he says he’s been verbally abusive towards her which affected their relation...

Anonymous says she has 3 kids with three different guys. She says things are ok with the father of her first child as they were together at a young age. Anonymous says she broke up with the father of her second child after he cheated on her after she fell pregnant. Anonymous then moved on and had a third child, she says things were initially fine with the father of her third child but they’ve now...

Anonymous says he got divorced in 2021 and after about a year and half last year he started dating again. He says things were fine but her partner started behaving in a weird manner, not taking his calls and avoiding him. Anonymous says they now live together but earlier this year she started ignoring him more and wasn’t as responsive to his calls and messages. Anonymous says she then complained a...

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner since around 2017 and says this past Good Friday he visited her place and after she left for work he stayed behind, and wanted to surprise her by cleaning her place. Anonymous says as he was doing that he found ARVs hidden in a shoe box. Anonymous says about two months have gone by and he hasn’t gotten the courage to speak to her about this.

Anonymous says when she called us last year she had broken things off with guy no.1 who had slowly stopped giving her attention and she moved on from him. A few months after that she started dating another guy no.2, who was the perfect partner until she discovered that he was lying about being in the process of divorcing his wife. Anonymous says she broke things off with guy no.2, she got reconcil...

Anonymous says his marriage is ending and his wife has separated from him. Anonymous says he has anger issues and that’s led to him being emotionally and physically abusive. Anonymous adds that over the years they’ve both cheated on each other, their families don’t get along and he even had a child with someone outside of his marriage. Anonymous says it’s a messy situation as their kids also don’t...

Anonymous says she moved with her husband he found a job in another area and they moved with their two kids. Anonymous says things fell apart in their relationship when she fell pregnant with their third child and her husband lost his job. Anonymous says during this time she found comfort in another man at her workplace. As time moved anonymous’ partner got a new job but it was in another area and...

Anonymous says him and his partner live very different lives, while he’s outgoing, she’s prefers to be at home and doesn’t go out much. Anonymous says often when he’s on his outings he’s found himself cheating on her with women he meets while there. Anonymous says he feels like they both want to change each other so they can be more similar. Anonymous says he loves his partner and wants to be with...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for the last 7 years and they live close to each other. Anonymous says over the years they have had their issues and they have hurt each other in various ways and they’ve both acknowledged these. Anonymous says she’s frustrated by her partner who always accuses her of not having regard for him, something she feels like he’s exaggerating. Anonymous shares...

Anonymous says she was in a “situationship” with a guy when she fell pregnant early in the situationship. Anonymous says the guy found the timeline of her pregnancy suspicious which caused turmoil between them, leading to the guy wanting DNA tests. Anonymous has now had the child and the guy wasn’t involved in helping her with the child. Anonymous says the guy consulted spiritually and they told h...

Anonymous met his partner 3 years ago and says he was still reeling from a previous relationship at the time that they met. Anonymous says this partner comforted him in his time of need, however things got bad for him when he lost his job and moved back home to the villages. Anonymous says they continued to date long distance and she continued to support him. Anonymous says he eventually moved bac...

Anonymous is in a relationship with the father of her second child however she says she’s still in love with the father of her first child. Anonymous says she broke up with the first baby daddy because they cheated on each other and the relationship broke down. Anonymous says the father of her second child is great and wants to marry her but she’s not sure if she wants to marry him. Anonymous says...

Anonymous says he started dating a lady when they were both 19 and she had a daughter. Anonymous says he later found out that the father of this lady’s daughter is his cousin. Anonymous says that this caused a lot of strain on the relationship which led to him finding comfort in other women. Anonymous says they eventually got back on track and had child together. Anonymous says they became on and...

Anonymous has been in a relationship for 5 years with the father of her child and things have been going well. Anonymous says her and her partner are very open with their communication in the last 2 months her partner told her that he’s taken a liking to a new intern that’s started at his workplace. Anonymous says her partner says he’s not intending on doing anything about those feelings and he wa...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 3 years and things were fine in the beginning but she says he actually started becoming a burden on her after he lost his job and moved in with her. Anonymous says she asked him to leave because he was a burden and initially refused but eventually left without telling her. Anonymous says they got back together after 7 months and she says the finances...

Anonymous says she broke up with her partner of 3 years a year ago after she cheated on him. Anonymous says she was already pregnant with her partner’s child at the time of breaking up. Anonymous says she moved on from that relationship and continued to date the guy she had cheated with. Anonymous says this new partner now wants her to cut the father of her child out of their lives and says he wan...