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Anonymous says she married her husband last year November and she gave birth to their child in August of this year.  Anonymous says she came into the relationship with one child, so did her husband,  and says less than a year into their relationship her partner wants a divorce. Anonymous says she’s taken aback by this as the father of her first child also broke up with her a month after she gave b...

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner since 2014 and they each came  into the relationship with a child. Anonymous says they started lobola proceedings in 2016, however he still needs to complete the process and they now have two kids together.  Anonymous says they then started working together at the same place for a few years and everything was fine until he started working somewhere else, f...

Anonymous says she’s in her early twenties and in a relationship with a man in his mid-thirties. She fell in love instantly and they started dating.  Anonymous says he found conversations on his phone that indicated that he was chatting with other ladies and she snapped and confronted him about this and it caused a rift between them.  Anonymous says he is now not even taking her calls and she wond...

Anonymous says when she first her current partner, he made it clear that he had someone else. Anonymous says she was ok with this as long as he doesn’t treat her like “the other woman”.  Anonymous says there was then an incident while they were dating where she caught him red handed cheating, which led to her damaging his car, but they got back together after this incident.  Anonymous says he then...

Anonymous says she’s been with the father of her child for about 15 years and says their relationship has been turbulent during this period, especially after she gave birth.  Anonymous says they’ve broken up and made up many times over the years because of multiple conflicts in their relationship, and they’ve both been with other people but keep finding themselves coming back to each other.  Anony...

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for 6 years and says their relationship is generally good but he feels like his partner is financially irresponsible.  Anonymous says his partner doesn’t budget properly and has accumulated a lot of debt. He says she also seems to be an impulse buyer.  Anonymous says he’s confronted her about this and he advised her to change her behaviour however she hasn...

Anonymous says she’s been dating her current partner for about 6 months and says from the start of the relationship, her partner told her that he had lost his wife about 3 years ago, however, he said he was ready to be in a relationship.  Anonymous says in the 6 months they’ve dated, they’ve only been with each other 6 times. Anonymous says she addressed this with him, and he revealed to her that...

Anonymous says he’s been with his current partner for about a year now and says when they started he was dating someone else but that relationship was complicated.  Anonymous says a couple of months into their relationship he discovered that his partner was having suspicious conversations with other people on her phone and she would never explain who the people are.  Anonymous says his partner cel...

Anonymous says he has two partners and initially he dated both of them and they were not aware of this situation. Anonymous says he eventually married lady no.1 and after the marriage he confessed to the ladies that he was seeing both of them.  Anonymous says lady no.1 was initially resistant to the idea of being in a polygamous relationship but accepted it. Anonymous says he is now in a polygamou...

Anonymous says she was in a relationship for 6 years with her ex until they broke up two years ago and they have a child together.  Anonymous says they’ve been co-parenting well during that time however anonymous says a week ago, her daughter shared that she’d been spending time with her new mommy while visiting her dad. Anonymous says she was confused by this as she wasn’t told by her ex that he’...

Anonymous says he was dating his partner for 9 years and they have two kids. Anonymous says their relationship was toxic and they broke things off.  Anonymous says after they broke up his ex wouldn’t allow him to see his kids and he took her to court to force her to allow him and in that process he ended up requesting a paternity test and found out that the first child is not his. Anonymous says i...

Anonymous says he broke up with his previous partner in April this year and after a 3 month break he went back on Instagram ready to re enter the dating game.  Anonymous says one of the first people he saw on Instagram was his high school crush, they reconnected and started chatting in the DMs and eventually exchanged numbers, they hit off and would be on the phone with each other for hours.  Anon...

Anonymous says he dated his now ex partner for about 6 months, a couple of months after she got out of a long term relationship in which her partner cheated on her with her best friend.  Anonymous says they went on a dinner date about two days ago and while on the date she confessed to him that she had recently seen pictures of her ex and felt something for her ex, and feels like it’s a lot for he...

Anonymous says she started dating her current partner after meeting him at her child’s school and adds that he has a good relationship with her child.  Anonymous says they went on with their relationship and she fell pregnant unintentionally as they were relying on the “pull-out” method. Anonymous says she terminated her pregnancy because she felt like they were not financially prepared at the tim...

Anonymous says she’s been dating her current partner for the last year and says the relationship has been good for the most part.  Anonymous says her partner told her he was being evicted from his place and was cagy about the information when he needed to move, but anonymous later realised that he actually used to live with someone at that place and the lease was under that partners name, hence he...

Anonymous says he’s been dating his partner for 9 months and says they keep getting into conflicts and he doesn’t understand why this keeps happening.  Anonymous says his partner is slightly older than him in her thirties and he’s in his twenties, anonymous adds that she has a child. Anonymous says one of the things is that he’s an indoors kind of person and she likes to go out, which has created...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 5 years now and they have a child together. Anonymous says the relationship was great however she realised about two years ago that he had been cheating on her throughout their relationship. Anonymous says she confronted him about this, he apologised and they moved on with their relationship.  Anonymous says she then found out that he was cheating aga...

Anonymous says her relationship with guy no.1 lasted about 6 months. Anonymous says she has a son and because of this she gave the guy ground rules to say they’d be spending time outside and he could never sleep over. Anonymous says these limitations seem to have caused tension in their relationship and they eventually broke things off.  Anonymous says her most recent relationship, guy no.2, is so...

Anonymous says he’s dating his current girlfriend for a second time, after initially dating for a year and breaking up.  Anonymous says they’ve now been dating for several years and their relationship is fine however the problem is his girlfriend’s mother.  He says recently his girlfriend and her mother asked him to come pick them up and while he was driving with them in the car, they overheard hi...

Anonymous says she’s in her mid thirties and has three kids from three different men. Anonymous says the first child was as a result of being young. She was in love with the second guy but he didn’t love her, and then with the third guy she didn’t love him but fell pregnant by accident with his child and she tried to develop something with him but it didn’t work. Anonymous says she’s now in the ta...

Anonymous says he’s been dating a lady for the last four months and things have been good, however, he says she’s constantly stalking his social media pages.  Anonymous says he’s an entrepreneur and posts to promote his business and she’s always asking him about people commenting on his pages.  Anonymous says it’s too much for him and doesn’t know if he should move forward with her.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 2 years and says when they met each other she told the guy at the time that she’s not really into monogamy and wasn’t looking for anything serious. He told her that he’s not into that and wants something serious.  Despite their differences they continued with their relationship and anonymous says she fell for him and she enjoyed the relationship. Howe...

Anonymous says he’s in his late twenties and says he’s known girl no.1 since they were really young  and says after going through somethings they broke up and he moved on with his life but over the years he and girl no.1 kept up with each other and would hook up here and there.  Anonymous says he met girl no.2 at work and it was love at first sight, however, after becoming a couple she told anonym...

Anonymous says he’s been dating his partner since high school and they were each other’s neighbours. Anonymous says their relationship really took off when they were in varsity and they even came out to their families.  Anonymous says their relationship has been great and says his partner has been a very supportive partner. However, anonymous says recently he came back home unexpectedly and found...

Anonymous says she met her now ex fiancé back in 2018 while working together. Anonymous says things got off to a rocky start and they broke up because he was dealing with another women that he had impregnated.  Anonymous says they dated again years later, while she was pregnant with her first child. Anonymous says a problem in their relationship is that her partner wanted more sexual intimacy than...