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Anonymous says she met a guy while working at a religious organisation years ago and something developed between them but before anything could happen the guy told anonymous that they couldn’t be together due to his position in the organisation.  Anonymous says the guy married someone else about a year later after he told her they couldn’t be. By the time he got married, anonymous...

Anonymous says she met a guy a month ago and they immediately hit things off. Anonymous says three days into the relationship she snooped around and found out from one her friends that the guy is dating one of her friends in their neighbourhood.  Anonymous says she confronted him about this, however, they’ve continued to date as she says he won’t let her go. Anonymous says she als...

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for about 5 years, they live together and he’s even paid lobola partially. Anonymous says his partner was pregnant at some point but unfortunately she had a stillbirth. Anonymous says things changed in their relationship from this point. Anonymous says she started drinking and partying more, and would blame anonymous for her stillbirth. Anonymo...

Anonymous says she met her partner in late 2023, she says they started as friends and it eventually turned into a romantic relationship. Anonymous says from the onset, they were honest with each other, had great communication and even shared about their past relationship traumas.   Anonymous says things have now taken a turn in their relationship after she found suspicious texts between him a...

Anonymous says she met a guy 4 years ago and 5 months into their relationship he told her that he was in a relationship with someone else, after initially denying this fact. Anonymous says he told that her was with the mother of his child and they live together but their relationship is not great.  Anonymous says despite this fact, he’s a great partner who takes care of her and is alway...

Anonymous says he his ex partner in varsity in 2019 and they started dating back then. Anonymous says post varsity, they moved in together and he was taking care of both of them financially at the time.  Anonymous says their relationship was tumultuous, there was infidelity and lots of other conflicts in their relationship.  Anonymous says he then got a job opportunity in another area an...

Anonymous called last year and told us that her husband can’t seem to keep a job as he finds jobs and then resigns unreasonably after a short period of working.  At the time anonymous was advised to stand by her man, bring in the family and also check if there could be witchcraft involved.  It’s 7 months later since she called Ask a Man and she says she’s tried all that...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 3 years now and and she gave birth to their child late last year.  Anonymous says after giving birth she found out that her partner was cheating on her. Anonymous says they patched things up after the infidelity, however, she’s struggling to move on from the cheating.  Anonymous says she still loves him and wants to be with him b...

Anonymous says she’s been married to her husband for 10 years and they’ve known each from childhood as they grew up in the same area.  Anonymous says a few years ago, while her and her husband were going through a rough patch, she met someone else and says the connection with this person was strong and passionate.  Anonymous says they’ve eventually worked things out wit...

Anonymous has currently been with his partner of 10 years and they are in a customary marriage. Anonymous says his partner only realised after the fact that because they completed the lobola process they couldn’t sign a prenup as they are already in a customary marriage.  Anonymous says his partner said at the time that she would never be happy in their relationship as she wanted to be...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 10 years and he’s paid half the lobola to her family and 3 years ago and they now also have a child.  Anonymous says her partner once cheated on her and after going their separate ways for about 6 months because of this, she eventually forgave and they got back together.  Anonymous says it’s years later now and he’s b...

Anonymous says he met his ex wife 20 years ago in varsity and they immediately clicked but things came to an end when she dropped out of school. They reconnected 15 years later and ended u getting married.  Anonymous says their relationship was great, however they went through a lot: she lost her parents in consecutive years and he got sick. Anonymous says it became a lot on them and they end...

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 5 years, they’ve been living with each other for 3 years and they have a 1 year-old child.  Anonymous says she has an 8 year-old child and spoke to him about her child moving from her grandmother and living with them. Anonymous says her partner then went home to see his family and when he came back earlier this year, anonymous’...

Anonymous saying she’s recently moved to a new city  and then things ended in her relationship with her previous partner because of the distance.  Anonymous says she’s now met someone new, soon after the break-up, but feels like maybe she’s rushing into things after the break up.  Anonymous says she feels like the new guy is different to the other guys she’s...

Anonymous called last year having troubles in her relationship and adding that she would like to be in a throuple type of situation where she would be with her man, at the time, and another woman, all dating each other at the same time. Anonymous says after calling into the show, she decided to take a break to work on herself, as she felt like she was attracting the same type of guys she doesn&rsq...

Anonymous says she met and started dating her partner in 2020. Anonymous says a year later in 2021 the guy started the lobola process in order to marry her.   Anonymous says they were blessed with a baby in 2022, but after giving birth she found out that her partner was cheating on her while she was at home nursing their new baby.  Anonymous says they separated after the infidelity incid...

Anonymous says she’s speaking on her friend’s behalf…  Anonymous says she met a guy who’s son plays soccer with her son. They knew each other but only started talking when the guy gave anonymous a lift with her son to soccer practice.  Anonymous says the lifts continued and feelings grew between them, even though the guy has a girlfriend. Anonymous says they caug...

Anonymous says she’s been dating a guy for about 2 months, after meeting him in November last year. Anonymous says she started dating this guy a while after her previous relationship with her ex who says is a narcissist.  Anonymous says weeks into the relationship he started showing signs of narcissism. She says his behaviour is reminding her of her ex and it’s turning her off. An...

Anonymous says she has two kids from different fathers and says she’s now in a new relationship with a new guy who she says loves her and her kids.  Anonymous says things have been going well in their relationship until the mother of her partner’s two children found out about their relationship and has now sent those two children to come live with anonymous and her partner. ...

Anonymous says she was married for 5 years and divorced her husband in 2023. Anonymous says later that year she got into a long distance situationship with a new guy.  Anonymous says communication is a bit of a problem in their relationship, she says he tends to disappear for days without saying anything and she leaves things that way but he has complained that he feels like her behaviour ind...

Anonymous says she got married to her partner in 2020 after a year of being together and just before they had their first child.  Anonymous says at the beginning of their marriage she noticed that he wasn’t being fully transparent about his finances and she confronted him about that and that’s when he came clean and revealed details of the money he’s spending on his mom.&nbs...

Anonymous says she met an amazing guy last year in July, after breaking up with a man who she says was toxic and a serial cheater.  Anonymous says the relationship with the new guy has been going well but recently she unblocked her toxic ex and he ended up calling her and they spoke on the phone.  The issue now is that anonymous’ current partner found out about this call and is now...

Anonymous says she started dating her partner in 2009 while she was in matric. She says the relationship went well and they eventually got married and now have 3 kids together.  Anonymous says in 2022 while she was pregnant with their third child she found out that her husband had impregnated someone else. Anonymous says this caused a rift in their relationship and she ended up in a situation...