#AskAMan

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost five years, and she feels like there are too many voices in their relationship, particularly from her partner’s family, and it’s starting to negatively affect their relationship. The problem? She does not feel protected by her partner from his family, so much so, she is reconsidering going ahead with marrying him. She wants to know; how ca...

Anonymous has been in a long distance relationship with her partner for two years now and recently they ended up in an argument, that seemed small to her at the time, but they didn’t speak for two weeks afterwards.  She expected him to eventually call her to apologise as she felt like he was at fault but he never did. She then gave in and called him to try and fix things, but he said to...

Anonymous’ problems with her partner started when things became transactional between them. He’s an e-hailing driver and she says every time he’d drive her somewhere he’d ask her to officially request a trip with him because chauffeuring is his work.  Things have also been tense between them because he feels as though she doesn’t prioritise him in their relations...

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 10 years now. It took them a while to get married as her family was against them getting married. She eventually ended up marrying him without her parent’s blessing, which caused a rift between her and her family.  Her husband had a close friend that he lived with while they were dating and anonymous did suspect there was something going on...

Anonymous is in her early thirties and says she met her now ex boyfriend about two years ago, and things were fine between them until she found he was still speaking to his previous ex.  They spoke about this and she told him she forgave him but she struggled to move on and ended up going on dates with other guys. He found out about her dates with other guys, they talked through it and moved...

Anonymous has known the father of her child for about 10 years after they met during their high school days.  They dated for many years and had one child together, but they ended up breaking up because she was tired of him always being out with friends and not assisting in the household.  Anonymous moved on to a new relationship but her ex started to visit more under the guise of seeing...

Anonymous’ partner moved to another province after she found a job there. He helped her move and even bought furniture for her, however, his help was met with scepticism from his partner’s family, which left him feeling disheartened.  Fast forward to now, they’ve had many back and forths in their relationship with anonymous feeling unappreciated. His partner has now lost her...

Anonymous and her partner have been married for six years now and they have two children together.  Their relationship was ok until they had a huge rift, which left anonymous feeling like her partner’s family is too involved in their relationship. Her partner moved out of their house and told her that he now wants a divorce.  She adds that her partner has also said he was actually...

Anonymous has been with his partner for almost two years now and they now live together with her two children.  His partner was in the middle of lobola proceedings when she broke up with the father of her children and they had gotten a joint-mortgage for the house they lived in. Anonymous wants to marry his partner but he’s worried that his partner is still jointly linked to a major ass...

Anonymous met a man on a dating site about three weeks ago, and she’s enjoying getting to know him but he seems to only be available to her during office hours.  She confronted him about this behaviour and he said it’s because he’s struggled with insomnia in the past and is often off his phone in the evenings to remedy this. He also added that he’s been single for a lo...

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost six years, they’ve been married for two of those years and they have a ten month old child.  Their relationship is generally great, but the problem is a friend that her partner has, as she’s seen videos of them being cozy together and they’ve even exchanged messages declaring their love for each other.  They’ve been f...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for three years. He already had two children before they started dating and they have  since had a child together who is now 10 months old.  They are in a long distance relationship and last week, when he came to visit her for her birthday, he was trying to post pictures of her on his WhatsApp stories when she noticed that he blocked 3 ladies...

Anonymous has been with his partner, on and off, for about a year and a half now. They broke up twice in their relationship mostly because he used to go out a lot and also cheated on her.  They are now back together but he suspects that she might be in a relationship with the guy she was having a thing with before they got back together.  He doesn’t have any concrete evidence of th...

Anonymous met a lady at the gym in the latter part of last year, the lady had a boyfriend, but they ended up having an affair.  Things got more serious between them as they were spending a lot of time together and she told this lady that she’d like to make things official between them which caused a rift between them because this lady was struggling to break up with her boyfriend. ...

Anonymous is in her late twenties and is a mother of an 18 month old baby. She was with the father of her child for about three years but the relationship was toxic and after she gave birth she broke up with her partner and moved out of his family home.  Months after the break up she went back to the house to fetch her things, and this is when she met her ex’s new girlfriend. The new gi...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for two years now and during that they moved in together and built a house together.  A couple of months after they bought the house, her partner started behaving differently, going out more and having fun with friends. Anonymous addressed his changed behaviour, he agreed to spend more time at home but it’s been going on for months now. ...

Anonymous has been with her partner since 2017 and they got married in 2019, she adds that he was a virgin when they met in their late twenties.  Her problem is in the bedroom as he struggles to pleasure her and when she tries to find out what he likes, he’s not sure.  Anonymous has tried many different things to get them on the same page sexually, but their sex life has not been i...

Anonymous has been with her partner, guy no.1, for about 4 years now and things were fine until he lost his job and it created a burden on their relationship.  She started noticing things about his treatment of her, realising that he often body shames her and is always speaking down to her.  She has now started dating other people: guy no.2, who’s married and has said he doesn&rsqu...

Anonymous and her fiancé have been in a relationship for over a decade now and live together with two of their children, including her child, from a previous relationship, and a child they have together. Her fiancé also had a child with someone else while they already in a relationship.  Her problem is how her partner sometimes speaks to her, she feels that he can be very insens...

Anonymous broke up with his partner a few months ago, after five years together, because she cheated on him with a guy she had a history with.  He feels as though things became problematic in their relationship after he lost his job and couldn’t provide for them anymore.  Some time has gone by since the break-up and he’s wondering if he let go of the relationship too easily,...