#AskAMan

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 6 years now after knowing each other at work for about 3 years as friends, as she was in a relationship at the time. They started dating well after she broke up with the father of her child. They agreed to have a child together from the beginning of their relationship, but they’ve struggled to conceive.  He cheated on her with another lady s...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years now, after coming out of a 13-year relationship that produced two children.  This weekend, when she happened to be using his phone, she found voice notes from some other lady that were suspicious, she got angry and hit her partner.  She comes from a toxic and violent background which she thinks has led to her aggressive behaviour to...

Anonymous has been with her husband for 6 years now and they have two children together.  Her partner started acting off towards her about 3 years ago and then at some point he even stopped sleeping in their room without much of an explanation.  He eventually opened up to anonymous and revealed that he wasn’t comfortable around her as he felt like she has bad energies and those ene...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for seven years now and they have two children together.  She found out that he was cheating on her last year but she forgave him after he made an effort to win her back, and they are now engaged.  Things have now gotten weird in their relationship and he has become sexually avoidant. She’s not sure what to read into this.

Anonymous has been with her partner since the beginning of last year and they have one child together.  They moved in together, six months into their relationship, and her partner’s brother also moved in with them.  Her partner has other two other children that live else where, however, her partner has now suggested that one of his children move in with them but she’s worried...

Anonymous has a large package and it’s causing trouble in his love life.  The women he likes never want to continue being in a relationship with him because of their sexual experience with him. However, the women he meets at bars for fun enjoy his larger size but he’s not interested in a lot of them.  Anonymous wants to know how to deal with this. 

Anonymous met a guy back in 2016 and after two years of dating they decided to have a baby, and they ended up having twins.  Her partner questioned the paternity of the twins, they got a paternity test done and it was confirmed that they are his children. Anonymous felt disrespected by him and ended their relationship, after months of tension in their relationship as a result of the questions...

Anonymous is ten years younger than his partner, she has three children and he has one daughter.  He would like to have more children of his own, however, she can’t physically bare more children and he would like to have a male child of his own who will carry his legacy.  He loves his partner and appreciates her contribution to his personal & professional development, however,...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 3 years now and they moved in together about a year ago.  Her partner has been struggling financially for a while now and has accused anonymous of not supporting him financially and not spending on their household.  She has now found out that he’s been cheating on her with another lady who he says supports him financially. Anonymous won...

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 8 years and have been married for two of those years.  Her husband cheated on her with 7 different women, she reported this to their families, they resolved it and they’ve now moved on with their relationship. She started using PrEP to protect herself she’s now in an interim and they need to use condoms, but her husband is refusing...

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 7 years now and they have a child together. It’s been rocky in their relationship with infidelity happening on both sides. At some point they addressed this situation in their relationship, forgave each other and decided to move forward in their relationship.  However, she feels like their relationship is not the same anymore after all th...

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 5 years now and they have a child together.  Their relationship has been messy over the last two years and his partner now wants to leave him because she feels like he doesn’t communicate properly in the relationship and that he has anger issues…

Anonymous with her ex partner for about nine years and they have two children together. Their relationship ended after she cheated on her partner and he found out.  She’s now in a new relationship and the guy is amazing to her and her kids. However,  she feels like she’s still healing from the wounds of her previous relationship. 

Anonymous has been with her boyfriend since late last year and they work together.  She works in HR and when he had to apply for family responsibility leave in her office, she found out that his ex had just given birth to his child and he had been hiding that pregnancy from her. Another issue in their relationship is family planning, anonymous wants her partner to share in the costs of the co...

Anonymous met a guy back in 2017, they immediately fell in love and, soon after they started dating, they had a child together.  The guy then moved overseas to pursue his studies and during his time abroad their relationship took a turn for the worst and it faded away.  Seven years later he’s back in the country and she is now back together with him, but feels like he’s not p...

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 8 years now and they have a 4 year-old child together.  About two years ago his partner started becoming off-ish about sex and she eventually started scheduling sex between them to three times a month.  This became a problem in their relationship and she told anonymous that if he wants more sex he can go outside of their relationship and find...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 10 years and they’ve been married for about 3 of those years.  She has a mental illness and she has relapsed a few times over the duration of their relationship, and the last relapse she had was as a result of her pregnancy.  They now have one child together and she would like to have another child, as that was their plan, but her pa...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 4 years now, however, he was in what he described as a complicated relationship with the mother of his child when they met.  Her partner then moved in together with the mother of his child as she was kicked out from her home and needed shelter. As it turns out they got back together and he has now paid lobola for this other lady.  Anonymous h...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years now, after they met while working in the same company.  He now works in another province and they are now in a long distance relationship.  She feels like their relationship is not moving and doesn’t have much direction. She’s also found a woman’s pyjamas while visiting her partner, but he said they are his sister&...

Anonymous has been with her partner for four years and things were fine until she realised that her partner had a drinking problem and spent a lot of time with her friends partying.  She brought this up often with her partner but her partner would respond by accusing anonymous of being controlling and not wanting her to have a good time.  Communication remains a big problem in their rela...

Anonymous was in a serious relationship with her now ex and they have an 8 month old baby.  A few weeks ago she looked through his phone and found a text on his phone where he was courting another lady and flirting with her.  This led to her breaking up with him. He has now tried to get her back, but she’s refusing.