Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast

Join Ezra as he speaks with Kitten Michelle who finds herself playing the caretaker role in her romantic and family relationships.  Learn what can happen when boundary setting feels like a crime and caring for yourself feels like wasted time.  We also practice setting and re-setting boundaries as well as envisioning a different kind of relationship.

In this episode we learn about power dynamics including top/bottom versus Dom/sub, and topping from the bottom as well as dynamics in three ways. We also learn about how we can use fantasy as a tool to explore possible power exchange dynamics, while minimizing the risk of hurt feelings . We also learned how one can tiptoe into the BDSM community to get what they need and see if it's right for them...

Husband Is Kinky But Doesn't Know It Episode 32 or the Ask Ezra Podcast with Dominique   Join Ezra as he chats with Dominique who is also a sex coach.  First we have a discussion about sex/intimacy coaching and then we have an intimacy coaching session.  They discuss who is their ideal, their favorite and least favorite part about sex coaching, how Ezra evaluates prospective sub partners.  Then in...

Join Ezra as they speak with Karma the "Sex Slave".  Karma goes into detail about what is valuable and challenging about the relationship she has built with her Master.  Learn how surrendering power consensually and with agency can be an empowering experience.  Also, hear about her book "Surviving Master Joshua" where she recounts her experience in exploring and ultimately diving head first into t...

Join Ezra as he chats with DirtyLittleGirl who is interested in power exchange relationships such as Master/slave and owner/pet and consensual non-consent or force fantasy play.  We talk about the fries acronym for consent, safe words, planning a kidnapping, what they learned from the book Mindfucking Mindfully, beliefs and Bombastic antithesis, communicating needs in a master slave relationship,...

In this episode we take a departure from our typical format of end to end intimacy coaching and instead Ezra talks with a fellow Intimacy Coach, Nora DeGrasse.  Together, Ezra and Nora talk about their most and least favorite parts of coaching, what they work on with their clients and more.  Towards the end of the episode Nora volunteers to practice a somatic body mapping exercise where Nora finds...

Join us as we talked about how to navigate the swinger community as a couple, feeling confident in your own skin, strategies for using clothing to feel sexy, and much more… Askezra.info

Join Ezra as he speaks with Tim of the Sex Ed With Tim Podcast. We discuss why its easier to just be hooking up, hookup culture, how relationships tend to go according to where you met, having the "what are you looking for?" conversation, determining what you are needs are versus your wants, emotional codependency, ghosting, the fear of too much intimacy, people pleasing, Role-playing boundary set...

Join us as we talk with Daniel a polyamorous BDSM player with a lot going on.  With his main relationship and a number of play partners, Daniel has a lot of balls up in the air.  We learn about holding boundaries and setting expectations.  We also learn about some of the different models of polyamory.  Daniel talks about his experiences in previous relationships where he would feel burned out and...

Lexi explains that she has relatively little experience in the BDSM world. She asks "how can I push this along better?". We discussed a wide variety of topics, such as toxic masculinity, role playing abusive situations, punishment versus "funishment", behavioral modification, power exchange, agency, holding a container for power exchange, safe words, what a Munch is, self collaring, FetLife, how t...

Lexi explains that she has relatively little experience in the BDSM world. She asks "how can I push this along better?". We discussed a wide variety of topics, such as toxic masculinity, role playing abusive situations, punishment versus "funishment", behavioral modification, power exchange, agency, holding a container for power exchange, safe words, what a Munch is, self collaring, FetLife, how t...

Join stress he speaks with Caroline. Ezra and Caroline met while both doing the Somatica Intimacy coaching training. Learn about attachment styles as Caroline shares her experience with the disorganized attachment style.  Caroline also shares about her challenges when dating other fem women.  There is a challenge she experiences around initiating or making in advance, they use role-play to practic...

 Join Ezra as he speaks with Joshua Neili, A fellow student in the Somatica Intimacy coaching program. Hear how they both found the experience of the Intimacy coaching program. Ezra also talks about his experience coming out as gender queer and non-binary. Joshua also discusses how intimacy coaching measures with his activism in ethical porn on the local scene in Amsterdam, "shmut cinema".  Joshua...

Join Ezra as he talks with Tay, an SW and POC exploring BDSM and her own sexuality.  Tay discusses her journey and how societal pressure led her to think she was both straight and submissive.  After much exploration and self discovery she now knows that she is more of a switch and identifies as a lesbian. https://linktr.ee/darktwistx?utm_source=linktree_profile_share askezra.info

Join Ezra as he has a conversation with Caroline.  She gives him the third degree with a whole host of questions about his expereince and his intimacy coaching practice.  Ezra discusses their gender exploration, the fear of rejection, advice for entering the BDSM community, other educators I like and much more. Fun fact: this was the first podcast episode recorded and it includes Ezra with shorter...

Join Ezra as he speaks with Rob Rocket, a gay BDSM lifestyle player and professional living with PTSD.  We talk about a wide range of topics including covid as an additional challenge, SSC vs. RACK or PRICK, mental health challenges as a subjective red flag, getting a trigger list for pro-clients, coping skills for daily anxiety, power exchange dynamics, sex work, ABDL, Daddy Dom, imposter Syndrom...

Join me as we talk with David.  We had been coaching for almost a year together when this podcast was recorded.  We discuss such topics as, why did he pick me, wanting to avoid traumatizing people, practicing vulnerability, mentorship in the leather community, sex coaching is a limiting term, roleplay, conditional ask with explanation, Blade Runner question, seeing his own behavior, how do you fee...

Join me as we talk with David.  We had been coaching for almost a year together when this podcast was recorded.  We discuss such topics as, why did he pick me, wanting to avoid traumatizing people, practicing vulnerability, mentorship in the leather community, sex coaching is a limiting term, roleplay, conditional ask with explanation, Blade Runner question, seeing his own behavior, how do you fee...

Join Ezra and Sister Joshua for part two of their session. They discuss things like holding on to anger, the power of acknowledging one's feelings, triggers as a way to feel safe, the temptation of conformity, hookup culture, as well as Sister Joshua's work as a professional dominant and as a life realignment counselor. They also discuss the value of doing the work and the dangers of not doing the...

Join Ezra and Sister Joshua as they discuss gender exploration and challenges finding validation in a largely binary world. Learn about Joshua's experience with the shame of cross dressing, spirituality and zeroing out the currency of gender. Learn about Joshua's experience with authenticity, finding their diva, unpacking shame, learning how to feel safe in their exploration, and Bugs Bunny in hig...

Join us as we speak with Shawn, a young woman who is new to the BDSM community and navigating meeting new people.  We discuss many topics such as, meeting people on fetlife, red flags, taking a break from finding a partner, finding community, the risk of connecting with a mentor with ulterior motives, taking classes, dominating without consent, setting boundaries but not holding them, how the comm...

Join Ezra as he talks with Charlie. Charlie is in a Master / slave relationship and struggles to hold boundaries, say no and stay present in their own body.   Other topics discussed include: Should is a dangerous word, Level of submission is disappointing for them, Trouble letting go, Getting stuck in your head, Getting back into your body, Getting distracted, Being present is like a muscle, Sexua...

Join Ezra as he speaks with Naami (part 2) about teaching her Dom from the bottom, compartmentalizing and shadow work. The full list of topics include inexperienced partner issue, teaching her dom from the bottom, topping book and seeking guidance, you are not alone in teaching your dom,  education through role play, 14 years friends with partner, slap in the face, being open to switching is an ed...

Join Ezra as he speaks with Naami about teaching her Dom from the bottom, compartmentalizing and shadow work. The full list of topics include inexperienced partner issue, teaching her dom from the bottom, topping book and seeking guidance, you are not alone in teaching your dom,  education through role play, 14 years friends with partner, slap in the face, being open to switching is an educational...

In episode 9 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast we talked with Raj (part 2) who is an asexual fart fetishist. We discuss with him how shame impacts attractiveness and how negative self-talk can prevent us from experiences. Other topics we discuss are: Asexuality, labels for communication, demi-sexual, sex of verse, a wider definition of sex to include BDSM, celebrating a sexuality, the powe...