Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching

Ever felt like you’re “too much”? SO MANY of us carry around a fear of being “too much” of something - and whatever it is for you, I’m so glad you’re listening to this episode, because I think it’s important for us to really dig deeper into this fear that we carry around and identify where it’s REALLY coming from.

A listener asks: I'm discovering that I'm a people pleaser and am working closely with my therapist to work on some of that. I am also in the process of becoming of foster parent and I'm a little nervous about moving forward in the process because of my people pleasing tendencies. Do you have an episode that touches more on this? I think my biggest fear is that by accepting a child with trauma int...

A listener asks how to get better at balancing the pressure to avoid being “too much” while also worrying about not being enough. Also, a guided meditation on worthiness & rootedness. QUESTION: “I saw your most recent instagram post about feeling simultaneously like i’m too much and at the same time like I’m not enough. it hit me like a freight train. I reread it twice. I have felt this way for my...

People need other people, babe. Now more than ever. So let’s talk about how our people-pleasing beliefs hold us back from real connection - even when we’re in the process of unlearning and healing from them. Also, a guided meditation to accompany this reflection. Excerpt from @yumisakugawa on Instagram. Poem - “The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer.

Most of us have an inner critic - with familiar refrains of “you’ll never be good enough” or “you’re a failure”, these internal voices can be a nuisance at best and deeply painful at worst. I‘ve been asked how to get rid of one’s inner critic - and I don’t believe you can (or should). In fact, I think you should make friends with it.⁣ ⁣ Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life...

A listener asks: I live with my partner and love being around him 24/7, but right now I feel absolutely no desire to have sex with him. Is this normal?

A guided meditation to cultivate self-love and radical acceptance of yourself exactly as you are, and to create a safe home within yourself for whatever emotions you are experiencing.

An interview with a listener who was tested for COVID-19 in New York City, and wanted to share about his experience being tested, isolating in his apartment, awaiting his results, and maintaining his mental health through it all.

My wife, Laura, joins me to answer more listener questions about foster parenting, including: -What’s it like going from two kids to three? -How is foster care different right now in a global pandemic? -What’s the best part of being a foster parent? What’s the hardest? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future epis...

A listener asks how to balance supporting a loved one who is struggling with mental health challenges with maintaining their own self-worth. Also, a guided meditation in the last 8ish minutes (inspired by a Self-Love Meditation by Samantha Feller). Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a questio...

We’re all practicing responsible social distancing - so how do we stay connected and keep ourselves from spiraling into stress? Aubree shares her thoughts, and a relaxing guided visualization for the moments when you need to pretend you’re not stuck inside your apartment. Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future e...

Listeners share their struggles with setting and maintaining boundaries at work - whether it’s saying “no” to your boss, not letting work be your whole life, or setting boundaries with your coworkers. Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehe...

Aubree shares her personal perspective (as a white woman doing her own work in this realm) on some common questions about what it means to be a white ally to people of color, including: What are tangible actions I can take to be an ally as a white person? What if someone tells me they don’t want me to be their ally? What if someone yells at me for expressing anti-racist views? —— ARTICLE: “For Our...

(CW: references to sexual harassment, violation of physical boundaries). A listener asks for advice about how to advocate for yourself when others are violating your boundaries - I offer strategies for rethinking how we approach consent, accountability, and boundaries. Also, a guided meditation in the last 5ish minutes (because of course there is). Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area...

Ever feel like you're barely keeping your head above water? Juggling a million priorities and afraid at any moment that an important ball is going to drop? Me too, babe. In this episode, I share my strategies for holding it together when life feels out of control. Skip to the last 5 minutes for a guided meditation to ground you in your body and breath. Struggling with your own dilemma or have an a...

"Asking for what you need doesn't make you selfish." To some, this is a simple statement. To others, it's a radical notion. In this episode, we dig into the people-pleasing patterns and experiences that make us terrified to ask for what we need and how we can break that cycle. A listener writes in about the pain of rejection. Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you...

My wife, Laura, joins me to share about our journey to becoming foster mamas, including responses to some listener questions about foster care and a critique of a recent NY Times article about foster parenting. Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast a...

Let's talk about disappointment. Do you find yourself consistently disappointed with people or situations in your life? Struggling with disappointment in yourself and even guilt when you don't live up to your own goals or expectations for yourself? Have trouble calibrating your expectations appropriately when others aren't meeting them? This week we'll talk about all of this and more, babe. Strugg...

A listener asks “[When someone asks ‘how are you?’,] I don’t know why I can’t tell the truth about how I’m feeling when I’m in pain or having a hard time... I know it’s normal to go through ups and downs but I can’t help but feel like no one actually wants to hear about that. Is this crazy?” Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be fe...

Whatever your answer to this question, it's a big HELL YES from me. Let's dig into what being a "people pleaser" actually means, why it might be hurting you, and what steps you can take to move in a healthier direction. Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next...

In the last episode of 2019, I share thoughts about New Year’s resolutions and practical tips for goal-setting in a more holistic, intentional, and ultimately more impactful way. Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcas...

In this episode, I coach a client who wants to enjoy a slower, less stressful season of life, but is struggling to slow down her brain and body when she's spent so long being busy and having to hustle to get by. Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question...

Sitting down and talking mindfulness, body image, and more with my dear friend and colleague Charisse M. Williams. Charisse is a Leadership Coach and Yoga Teacher helping individuals and teams harness their strengths so they can achieve their goals and flourish. Find Charisse on LinkedIN | Instagram Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your ow...

Quick responses to a few listener questions from my inbox: Are soulmates real? What exactly is life coaching? Will you ever cover the Enneagram on the podcast?  Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehe...

In this episode, my wife Laura joins me for a conversation about reality dating shows (aka “love competitions”) like the Bachelor/Bachelorette, Are You the One, Temptation Island, and more - along with the lessons they can teach us about romance and relationships in our actual lives. (This episode does contain spoilers for past seasons of these shows! Beware!)  Want your own free coaching ses...