Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching

Enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes, originally recorded in November 2019!  In this episode, I respond to a letter writer who is struggling with anger at others around them who are prioritizing self-care at the expense of their work and relational roles and responsibilities, and asks for strategies to reframe their thoughts and interactions around this. www.aubreehenderson.com&nb...

Ever notice how your brain will take a gap in information and fill in a whole catastrophic narrative that leaves you feeling like shit about yourself? Let’s talk about that.

So many of us have been reminded to be "nice" to keep others comfortable - but how is this different from being kind? I break down the difference and why I will always encourage my clients to pursue one over the other. www.aubreehenderson.com  INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree

I answer 5 listener questions from the archives, including: How do I set boundaries with myself? What's your approach to trust? Do people start with all your trust and it's theirs to lose, or do they start at zero and have to earn it? Why is it so much easier to give grace and forgiveness to others than to be kind to myself? What do you think of the idea that "You can't love/be loved by someone el...

A few of my favorite guided meditations to support you in a difficult week - not to distract you or tune out the world around you, but to tune you in to  yourself. 3:41 Centering Meditation 12:16 Loving Kindness Meditation 20:54 Worthiness Meditation 32:51 Self-Love Meditation

This week, I’m sharing my conversation with Karen Maloney from her show, the Curiosity & Consciousness Podcast. In this episode, we talk people-pleasing, self-worth, codependency, and more. Love this conversation? Check out the Curiosity & Consciousness podcast wherever you get your podcasts!

A listener asks: how can I be friends with someone I was once attracted to? What does it look like to move a relationship from a romantic or sexual place into platonic friendship? Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator by Amy Gahran  "In A Secure Relationship" post by @thebraincoach on Instagram

A mini episode answering a question I get all the time - "where/how do you get your confidence?" I'll share why that memory transports me directly to the year 2004, and three strategies for strengthening your own self-confidence.

A listener asks: How do you recommend that new coaches remain grounded in their self-worth and combat self-doubt? A pep talk for anyone thinking about starting something new, pursuing a dream, or following a desire but dealing with some self-doubt along the way. Website: www.aubreehenderson.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/ahhhhbree Facebook: www.facebook.com/aubreehendersoncoaching

A guided meditation to build self-compassion and increase positive self-talk in the face of disappointment and rejection.

Will you do anything to avoid being disliked? Are you more comfortable feeling like everyone and their mom likes you than living as your authentic self? In this episode, we break down the three reasons why this mindset isn't serving you and how to begin to move away from it.

Do you struggle to make big decisions (or even smaller ones!) because you're too bogged down with all the options in front of you - not to mention what other people might say or think - to know what you really want? You're probably out of touch with your intuition. Don't worry - I used to be, too! But in this episode, I'll share a tool I use that has helped me, my coaching clients, and tons of oth...

"Why self-worth coaching?" I get this question ALL the time - in this episode, I share a bit about why I choose to focus on self-worth from the start with my clients, and why I believe that self-worth is one of the most powerful levers for changing our lives.

Reflections on self-compassion when you’re riding the waves of grief and overwhelm, and a guided meditation for radical self-acceptance.

Two listener questions this week - one asks how to support someone in a toxic relationship, while the other wants to know if jealousy is inherently unhealthy and unhelpful. Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld...

In the final episode of our people-pleasing miniseries, I share strategies for strengthening communication and setting boundaries in your relationships so you can maintain connections without abandoning yourself. Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first...

In part 3 of our people-pleasing miniseries, I share a strategy for reflecting on and uncovering the fears that are driving the people-pleasing habits and behaviors in your life - and why people-pleasing isn't actually protecting you the way you might think it is. Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care i...

Part 2 of our people-pleasing miniseries - WHY do we people-please? We'll dig in to 3 big reasons why we engage in patterns of people-pleasing, the needs that people-pleasing is fulfilling, and some strategies for deeper self-reflection. Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE1...

This week, I'm re-sharing an episode that first aired back in January of this year to set us up for a new series on people-pleasing! This week we answer the question "Am I a people-pleaser?" Whatever your answer to this question, it's a big HELL YES from me. Let's dig into what being a "people-pleaser" actually means, why it might be hurting you, and what steps you can take to move in a healthier...

So many of us have bought in to the toxic belief that our worth is attached to our weight, size, and appearance. This episode contains reflections on body image, weight, and worthiness - along with some strategies for beginning to believe that your weight and your worthiness are completely unrelated. Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to g...

A listener writes about her struggles with self-sabotage as she works toward her personal health goals, and we dive in to three big reasons WHY we self-sabotage and how to better understand how these might be showing up for you. Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for...

We are socialized to believe that conflict is mean, impolite, and leads to disconnection (hello, white supremacy culture). But the reality is that, when approached in a healthy way, conflict doesn’t drive us apart - it actually creates deeper intimacy and more meaningful connection. THE CHARACTERISTICS OF WHITE SUPREMACY CULTURE - From Dismantling Racism: A Workbook for Social Change Groups , by K...

A guided meditation to cultivate relaxation, calm, and safety to acknowledge your emotions and experiences. Featuring an excerpt from "Principles" by the poet Danez Smith. Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld....

Guilt is adaptive - we feel bad when we screw up or when we realize that our actions have harmed others. But unless we do something with it, staying in our guilt isn’t useful - and is actually really selfish.

To my fellow white folks in this community: making ourselves feel better by looking away from Black people's pain and pretending that we haven't perpetuated it is not self-care. Anti-racism is a lifelong, at times deeply challenging and uncomfortable, ongoing commitment - not a one-time personal development course or a self-help book we can put down and check off the list. Come on in - we need to...