Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching

Most of us have stories and wounds that we carry from childhood all the way into our adult relationships. This week, I’m speaking to anyone who has ever longed to feel chosen.⁣ ⁣ FIND ME ON INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree⁣ ⁣ www.aubreehenderson.com

For many of us, pursuing a goal we're invested in is scary because it requires risk - which can sometimes tempt us to stay where we are to avoid the potential pain & disappointment that accompanies risk. In this episode, we explore the issues with this mindset and questions to ask yourself when you find yourself in this situation. FIND ME ON INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree www.aubreehenderson.com

We've talked in a couple of episodes about how to give better apologies - being specific, checking in with the other person, being accountable for your actions, and avoiding unnecessary apologies when gratitude will serve you better. But what about when you're on the receiving end of the apology? FIND ME ON INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree www.aubreehenderson.com

What are the things in your life that you are actively choosing and pretending to like, but that drain your energy? Things you’re saying you enjoy, when really they make you feel like garbage? Consider this episode your permission slip to let go of the things that make you feel like shit.

Are you a chronic over-apologizer? In this episode, I uncover the underlying beliefs that cause us to compulsively apologize and the transformative shifts that a gratitude mindset can help you make.

Three guided meditations to cultivate love & compassion toward yourself.⁣ ⁣ 2:23 guided meditation for self-acceptance ⁣ 12:15 guided meditation for worthiness⁣ 26:42 guided meditation for self-love⁣ ⁣ FIND ME ON INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree⁣ www.aubreehenderson.com

A listener asks: how can I provide my own validation and reassurance when I’m so used to needing it from other people? Why do we need attention, affection, and affirmation from others in the first place?

This week, I'm sharing a replay of an old favorite from September 2020 - a guided meditation to build self-compassion and increase positive self-talk in the face of disappointment and rejection. FIND ME ON IG - @ahhhhbree www.aubreehenderson.com

This week, I answer questions from three listeners who are all navigating boundaries and asking for what they need in three very different types of relationships. FIND ME ON IG: @ahhhhbree www.aubreehenderson.com

Does giving feedback make you want to puke? Do you get defensive at just the possibility of getting constructive criticism? This week, I'm joined by my mentor and friend Adeola (Ola) Whitney, who taught me a ton of what I know about giving and receiving feedback artfully. FIND ME ON INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree www.aubreehenderson.com

You know that feeling after you’ve shared something personal or tender or vulnerable? When the anxiety sets in or you’re worried about what the other person is thinking or you inexplicably feel like you wanna puke?⁣ ⁣ Yep - that’s a vulnerability hangover! And this week I’m telling you how to handle it the next time you have one.⁣ ⁣ FIND ME ON IG - @ahhhhbree⁣ www.aubreehenderson.com

We talk a lot about boundary-setting when someone’s behavior is hurting us - and that’s obviously important, but what about the stuff that feels good? In this episode, we talk about how to ask for what you *do* want, and why it’s important to name what already feels good in your relationships.

You know those nagging, automatic, inner-critic-driven thoughts that come up all the time and make you feel like shit? Well... those might never go away. No, not even when you’ve worked on your healing and recovery for years. In this episode, I’ll tell you why that doesn’t mean you aren’t still healing & growing.

This week, I'm sharing an interview I did earlier this year with Whytli Rogers for her podcast, In the Wake with Whytli . Whytli is a mental health advocate, certified life coach, and survivor - her podcast is a space for conversations about topics that are often shrouded in stigma and shame, but need to be talked about more. In this conversation, we talk all things codependency - what it is, wher...

This week, I answer your sex & self-worth questions - we're talking oral sex, pelvic pain, non-monogamy, sexual shame, queerness, and more. FIND ME ON INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree www.aubreehenderson.com

This week, I walk you through a guided meditation created to tune into and hold compassionate space for difficult emotions. Listen when you want to get present in your mind & body, need to sit with your feelings, or just want a yummy moment for yourself. FIND ME ON INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree www.aubreehenderson.com

I often preach about the importance of asking for what you need - but how can you do that if you don't know what it is that you need?! In this episode, I share some strategies to try when you're not sure what you need, so you can gain the clarity required to name your needs. FIND ME ON INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree www.aubreehenderson.com

Humans thrive on rhythms, routines, and rituals. In this episode, I share a little bit about the roles that rituals play in my life and how they can be a benefit to yours, too! FIND ME ON INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree www.aubreehenderson.com

A listener asks: Is it okay to feel sexual attraction for a friend? How do I deal with the guilt of having a close friendship outside of my relationship with someone of the same gender as my partner? How can I talk to my partner about my friendships when there is insecurity there?

The 4th and final installment of "It's not your job to..." - a series on the things we've been socialized to believe are our responsibility, but in reality are NOT our job! This week: it's not your job to endure being treated like shit! Why we're made to believe that tolerating shitty treatment is an admirable quality, and the mindset shifts to support better boundaries. INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree www...

Part 3 in "It's not your job to..." - a series on the things we've been socialized to believe are our responsibility, but in reality are NOT our job!  This week: it's not your job to keep other people comfortable! Why we are so quick to prioritize other people's comfort over our own happiness, and strategies to begin to unlearn these habits and move toward authenticity over approval. INSTAGRA...

This week, we continue our series on things that aren’t your job. Next up - other people’s healing & emotional wellness. Shout-out to my wife, Laura Henderson, for joining me on this one!

It’s a new year, babes! So it’s the perfect time to kick off a series about things that are not your job. First up - proving to anyone that you’re worthy, lovable, or good enough.

Enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes, originally recorded in February 2020.  “Asking for what you need doesn't make you selfish." To some, this is a simple statement. To others, it's a radical notion. In this episode, we dig into the people-pleasing patterns and experiences that make us terrified to ask for what we need and how we can break that cycle. A listener writes in about t...

Enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes, originally recorded in October 2019! In this episode, we hear from a listener who struggles with conflict and prefers to avoid it altogether, but wants to know how to approach conflict and confrontation in their relationships with confidence and health. www.aubreehenderson.com  INSTAGRAM - @ahhhhbree