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We're back with a shared full episode (no snippet!) with the Sex Ed with DB podcast, talking all about everyone's favorite smutty gay hockey show, HEATED RIVALRY! Danielle and I discuss the secret sauce that's making the whole internet so feral for this show, and some practical tips for how to use lubricant when the show may have edited that kind of thing out. Why The Girls Want To Look At The Gay...

A caller is struggling with accepting money for Domination services, and understandably so! But this week we're talking about how to get the rent paid on the journey to the social utopia of which we all dream. Idk, my revolution involves getting a spa treatment here and there, especially if you're hard at work stepping on people. Mistress Velvet | Panel with Jill Carter | The Carter Johnson Librar...

This month on the Deep Dive series we're joined by journalist Natalie Robehmed , whose exclusive access to Allison Mack after her time in prison culminated in the podcast Allison After NXIVM . We'll explore the fine line between victim and perpetrator, and maybe roast the volleyball thing just a little bit. Cult Support Resources from  CultRecovery101.com Gift Ask A Sub!  Patreon | Substack | Cour...

This week we're joined buy Molly Lambert, host of the JennaWorld podcast all about Jenna Jameson, Vivid Video, & The Valley. We track the recent history of porn from kid Rock's open fandom to today's manosphere no-nut phenomenon and once again come to the surprising conclusion that capitalism is the problem. Gift Ask A Sub!  Patreon | Substack | Courses (code GIFTGUIDE40 for 40% off) | Office Hour...

Noelle Perdue, writer of the PORN WORLD substack and noted Thinker of Thoughts joins us on the pod this week to break down the porn industry, the power of performance, and unexpected uses for the hobby horse you left in your parents' attic. Gift subscriptions!! Substack / Patreon To get the full version of this episode  Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby subs...

A listener wants to know how to curate a conscious breakup, and Lina speaks to the unusual amount of D/s ghosts she's heard about lately.   THE ASK A SUB GIFT GUIDE - Get your person a gift subscription or package of office hours ! Or an online course! 'Healing Is Making Us Mean' by Gloria Alamrew Become a  Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, a...

This week Lina puts on her etiquette hat to solve the age-old issue of who cleans up after a scene! Also included are Mr. Dune reading assignments, a happy switching story, and bizarre kinks.   Read the substack article here. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast with...

What happens when you have to take a pause but centuries of social conditioning tell you you're not allowed to stop until your partner comes?? Follow Lina into the McDonald's drive-through and out of the endless reassurance spiral as we swirl together one of the weirder combinations of heartfelt advice and inappropriate imagery ever served up on this pod. Become a  Patreon member to gain access to...

Lina takes the mic this week to clarify a misunderstanding about the responsibility of subs in D/s dynamics, how both partners can bring 100%, and once again breaks the bad news that, yes, we have to talk to people about what we want if we want to get it (EW!). If you're looking for Halloween stuff, sign up for a paid membership on patreon or substack to get Lina and Mr. Dune talking about the Hel...

How DO you f*ck like a girl?? Vera Blossom has the answers in her debut essay collection by the same name, a trans coming of age that reads like an epic poem made out with a tumblr blog in a public bathroom. We talk passing vs creating, being Elvis Presley's long lost son, and staring into the swirling chaos at the center of the earth through estrogen-tinted glasses. Pick your gender of the day an...

Lina is back and we're easing you back in with a medium-unhinged episode title & a discussion about how to bolster communication among the neurospicy folks in your dynamic (insert us, the caller, their partner, and all of you into the classic pointing Spiderman meme — it's all of us).   Become a  Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of p...

Hey raccoons! Lina's still away on her meditation retreat so it's Mr. Dune again. Don't worry, Lina will be back next week (she's coming home tomorow 🎉) and the episode titles and descriptions will resume some semblance of capability and normalcy. But more importantly yes of course I love drag race. I have a pulse, don't I? This week, a first time long time caller rings up to ask Lina's advice on...

Hey ya'll, Lina's off on a meditation retreat out of cell phone range so it's Mr. Dune's job to write up the title and the podcast description for this week's episode, so please don't blame Lina for this week's cursed-ness. A very thoughtful caller rings Lina up for her musings on switches and switchiness and Lina dives fearlessly back and forth across the slash for answers and as always is wonder...

In honor of the Folsom Street Fair happening this weekend, we're rummaging through the Ask a Sub Supply Closet full of lube and butt plugs to bring you this gem on the history of the fair, so cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, we're taking a walking tour of the heart of leather culture in the 1970's - San Francisco's South of Market neighborhood and the many bars, clubs, and b...

Ok so if kink isn't role play for you but you want to inject some role play in your kink… what the heck do you do? This Hellraiser-style puzzle box has summoned Lina from beyond the grave to ponder the ins and outs of living truthfully in imaginary circumstances, appropriate wig usage, and what to do if someone forgets to feed the cat. Become a  Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub b...

A listener wants to enter THE THUD ZONE *guitar solo* *flames* *monster truck* and Lina activates her Special Interest mode to outline what makes a toy thuddy, why masochists love them, what to buy, and how to use them safely.   Lina & Mr. Dune's Thuddy Recs:  The Ball Crop | Paddle | Lolly Crop The Reddit Thread To share your kink journey, please send me an email at  lina@askasub.com   Become a ...

When are we being too picky with our play partners? Listen, nothing is perfect, but if your ick is "doesn't respect my boundaries" or "is unsafe" … time to yeet. Become a  Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for...

Margeaux Feldman joined me for a deep dive into their work around trauma, sexuality, chronic illness, and queerness. Get Margeaux's upcoming book 'Touch Me I'm Sick ' at your local indie bookstore or wherever books are sold.   Follow Margeaux:  Substack | Instagram Catch Margeaux on book tour in September and October!  Schedule here. To get the full version of this episode  Join Patreon at $11/mon...

Today Lina reads a piece that's popping off on her substack about the intersection of The Hunting Wives, Susan Sontag, fascism, and Leather aesthetics. Why are we horny for what scares us? Well step right up to the erotic kaleidoscope and peer in at Malin Akerman's very Victoria's Secret-coded thongs with me.   Read the article  here | Get Elizabeth Rose Quinn's book Follow Me LAUREN BOEBERT AT TH...

A caller has gone no contact with her parents and wants to know how to be mindful with not projecting that trauma on her Daddy Dom. As a bit of an expert on this topic, Lina discusses the ins and outs of codependence versus interdependence, and caring for your inner child as revenge on the cunts who did this to you and the dicks responsible . Become a  Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask...

It's summer. It's hot. It's sexy. And what's more hot and sexy than… endless scheduling and calendars? A caller wants to know how to stay sane while single and it seems that everyone in the dating pool is already partnered. Answer? Maybe some people need to take a hard look at their poly saturation point!!   Become a  Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discor...

We got a write-in question from a Patreon member wondering how to prepare for a big public kink event like Folsom, and Lina gets into creating a plan for regulation, connection, and what to do when you get super horny seeing a human doggy peeing in the gutter (FOR EXAMPLE).   Sub On The Street: Folsom 2023 | TikTok Cat Video Become a  Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits inc...

Hey it's the episode where you write in and ask about the light or deep kink questions that are on your mind! Today we're talking about how being a human ottoman can activate your parasympathetic nervous system, how to build confidence as a bottom, and get into Lina's deep-seated and probably problematic issues with romance novels. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefi...

What do online privacy, sex work decrim, fire butt pix, and clowns have in common? Well they're all special interests of our Deep Dive guest this month — Gutter! Gutter is one of our long time moderators of the Ask A Sub Discord community (a benefit of ask a sub patreon membership), and she joined me to talk community building, masochism, and more. Join us in a clown serenity prayer. For your filt...

Should we keep our friendships separate from our D/s dynamics? Should we merge all our relationships, friendships, and situationships into the world's largest cuddle puddle? What can we learn, aside from the latest scientific advances in filler technology, from reality television about the monogamy/polyamory divide? Lina tackles all that in this episode and more and because we were all good boys/g...