Anxious Attachment Solution: Taking Back Her Brain with Love Life Coach Amber Lynn

Hello and Welcome to Anxious Attachment Solution! On today's podcast I am going to be continuing a series on breaking down the 4 obstacles of Anxious Attachment with obstacle number 3, the Fear of Abandonment In the last episode, episode 40, I taught Obstacle 2 Uncomfortable Emotions. I taught about why learning how to feel hard emotions is the key to soothing our anxious attachment triggers, and...

Hello and Welcome! On today's podcast I am going to be continuing a series on breaking down the 4 obstacles of Anxious Attachment: Overthinking, Feeling Uncomfortable Emotions, Fear of Abandonment and Seeking Validation Last episode 39 was about overthinking so if you didn’t get a chance to hear it go check it out. Today I want to talk about Uncomfortable emotions and why they trigger us with anxi...

On today's podcast I am going to be introducing a three week series on breaking down the 4 obstacles of Anxious Attachment. In these episodes I am going to talk about the 4 major obstacles I have noticed that people with anxious attachment have and how to overcome them using thoughtwork and learning how to develop the skill of feeling hard emotions. As I really reflect on my life with anxious atta...

People ask me Amber what is life coaching? I think of it as mental and emotional maintenance, where you learn mental and emotional tools and strategies to transform your life. its learning and unlearning thought patterns that are keeping you stuck, so that you can get unstuck and get the life that you want. It’s learning how to feel and process uncomfortable emotions so that your emotions don’t co...

During these situations - I believed my feelings were true, If I have this feeling it must be true, it must mean I have to reach out- I must have to connect with them- I must really really love them. I really won’t be able to live without them. The hard part about “trusting our gut or our feelings” as anxiously attached people- is that we have to clarify is this my gut, my intuition or is this fea...

So to recap When you get triggered- when you start to have a big emotional reaction- because of someone’s thoughts or behavior write it out What happened? What am I making it mean- about me, about my relationship? How does that make me feel? Is it true? Is it reality? Other tools and strategies: A thought download- write all your unfiltered thoughts down for 2-3 minutes. What happened, write it al...

To summarize- The thoughts we think often become beliefs. The thoughts we think also create our feelings. We have thoughts in our head that create our self concept and our belief of our lovability. Right now those thoughts could be telling us that we are not very lovable. So in order to stop believing that we have to create new thoughts on purpose and practice them in order to create new self beli...

I realized today that my brain has been extra mean to me lately and I have been less proactive in thinking thoughts about myself on purpose to neutralize my mean brain. The volume of my negative self thoughts had been getting louder and coming more often, worse I could see myself start to believe them again. My insecurities started getting louder- and I started getting quieter- I let my brain talk...

5 Steps to stop this cycle  You have to become an observer of your thoughts and feelings. What thoughts are you thinking, how do they make you feel? You have to grow your capacity to feel the intense emotions without taking action. This looks like naming the feeling in your body, where does it sit, how does it feel, while acknowledging how uncomfortable it is to sit with these feelings. You h...

Do I still have goals and dreams I am working to achieve yes. Have a achieved them all-no, and to be honest I never will because I am a Life Long learner and doer, I will be forever making goals and accomplishing them, or changing paths- and I have come to love my rhythm. So I hope this podcast is a reminder to you that internal successes and celebrations ALSO Count. No one gets to decide what “Ma...

Our brain likes things that are familiar, that “Feel” safe- things that it already knows. So no matter what your goal, or dream is- if it is something “new” or “different” your brain is going to have a hard time adapting to it and it is NORMAL. Do not take this resistance as a signal to stop or that this is not for you- take this brain resistance as part of the process of doing and learning new th...

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I teach my clients how their thoughts create their feelings and I teach them how to take back their power and control. Do you find that you take everything personally? With relationships? Friendships? Siblings? That text from a partner, from a friend, that conversation with that other human ? Do you find yourself comparing yourself to other women, comparing yourself to other mothers? Comparing you...

Hello Everyone thank you for joining me today on Episode 28 Taking Back Her Brain with Love: The Art of Emotional Freedom. I am Life Coach Amber Lynn, I teach women the Art of Emotional Freedom through taking back their brain from social constructs, from their harsh inner voice, from anything that is holding them back from living the life they want. Through The Art of Emotional Freedom my clients...

Learning to accept all of you. Learning to recognize that your brain patterns (depression, anxious attachment are not your personality, they are a brain response)

Rule # 1 for having a managed mind So I had two rules tied for number one, and I still can’t figure out which comes first, so they are tied All Circumstances are neutral AND You have to Feel Your Feelings Rule # 2 Our thoughts create our emotions Rule # 3 Our Feelings Drive our actions Rule #4 Our thoughts create our results Rule #5 Other people’s opinions/ thoughts of us don’t matter Rule #6 Know...

Episode 25 Not making our feelings mean something Hello There and Thank you for joining me today on Episode 25! Today we are going to be talking about the importance of feeling our emotions AND not making them mean something that just isn’t true. Oftentimes our brain has programmed us that if we feel fear, failure, or hesitation it is a “sign” that we are making the wrong decision. This could be a...

On the way to work and wanted to share some road thoughts!

Learning to hold space for our kids. Learning that kids are allowed to feel their feelings, learning that their feelings are okay. Teaching our kids how to feel their emotions. When we learn to hold space for ourselves as parents, we soon learn how to hold space for our children to have emotions and feelings. The more our children learn to feel their emotions, the more their brain learns that thes...

In today's podcast we are learning what it means to hold space for other people. Lately a common theme I see with my clients is this sense of needing to make other people feel better. So often we take on the responsibility to make other people feel a certain way… Sometimes this comes from a place of love (we just want them to not feel the way they feel) Sometimes this comes from a place of control...

They said it is your turn to be an example of what is possible. So in order for me to become an example of what is possible “I had to trust myself, trust the process, and decide to have my own back NO Matter how my decision turned out. Within a week of being home from Mastermind, I had decided to request a shared contract for the year 2022-2023, where I will have the opportunity to continue teachi...

It is their love for me, their belief in me, that helps me talk back to my brain when it whispers all my self doubt. It is their support for me that allows me to have the determination to keep pushing through my brain's insecure chatter. Before thought work, finding self coaching, and hiring my own Life Coach. I knew my sisters "supported me" BUT I thought they were "judging" me way more than supp...

What we think is happening versus what is actually happening. What we think we should do and what we actually need to do. We think we this is what is happening: Experience a circumstance Attachment System Triggered Take Action What is actually happening: Experience a circumstance We have a thought a. I'm not good enough/ they don't love me/ they are going to leave me Attachment System Triggered We...

This thought error leads us to indulging in false pleasures, taking action to feel better, to get out of the feeling which is only temporary. We stop going towards our dreams or our goals because it doesn’t always feel good, so if it doesn’t always feel good I am doing something wrong, which leads to us not taking the action that needs to be taken to reach our goal. When this feel good myth appear...

hat if, instead of shaming ourselves for not following our diet plan, for missing that exercise appointment, for not painting with our children or for not doing that 'pinterest' thing we wanted to do with our kids, we got curious and asked ourselves why. We didn't follow our plan? Why didn't we follow our schedule? How could we show up for ourselves with love and compassion when we are NOT perfect...