40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

Let's be honest. The planet is a little crazy these days, from politics to divides amongst us as humans on a wide variety of issues - including our rights being stripped away for being LGBTQ+-  it is only going to get more challenging for many of us in marginalized communities. Today's podcast is for you gay men, truly for you, to help you find ways to navigate these challenging times and to stay...

Disco! For most gay men of a certain age - like those of you who listen to 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk - Disco represented so much of our lives then and now. It was the age of freedom, fun, pushing the "extremes" and also the age of loss due the HIV/AIDS epidemic. In his newly released book, Author Frank DeCaro, takes us on a frolicking, entertaining, yet serious tribute to the overlooked art form...

Some of the deepest challenges we face as gay men, is letting go of shame around virtually everything we do. From sex and relationships, to body image and the overt need to prove ourselves in our careers. Today, along with my guest, Brandon Simpson, we cover a wide variety of topics to help you bring more joy into your life as a gay or bisexual man without letting today’s world, steal your confide...

Sex, intimacy, and connection—beyond the labels and limits. Society teaches us, as gay men, to define sexuality by where it happens, but what if it’s really about how we connect with ourselves and other gay men? Whether it’s a hookup or a long-term partnership, intimacy and liberation are possible everywhere. It’s all about unlocking your body’s wisdom as a gay man and embracing the full spectrum...

In this episode, we explore Boy From the North Country, the powerful self-help memoir by Dr. Durant. With the intensity of a car chase, Dr. Durant shares his journey from the volatile backroads of rural Northern New York to the vibrant but challenging world of gay San Francisco. Part memoir, part psychological insight, this story unpacks how trauma shapes us, how mindfulness can aid in healing, an...

Mindfulness, meditation, self-mastery - all buzz, buzz, buzz worthy words these days. However, they are more then buzz words. They are are practices that as we ease out of the craziness of the holidays and 2024, can support all of us as gay men to embrace life through a new lens and settle into the daily chaos that can drive us crazy.  From dating and relationships, to careers and the pursuit of p...

Let's be honest. Building a meaningful gay relationship doesn’t come with an instruction manual— or does it? I say it does. Enter The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men  by Tom Bruett, the ultimate playbook for navigating love, connection, and everything in between. Whether you’re struggling with communication, intimacy, or just figuring out how to meet someone who doesn’t ghost you after date t...

When life hands you lemons, you go camping, even if you didn't think you liked camping. Inspired by his journey of recovering from divorce and an abusive relationship, Author Upton Rand shares how he found peace and a path forward even when his life was at it's darkest moments. In his books, Upton blends humor with heartfelt experiences as he recounts hilarious misadventures—from wrestling with un...

Sex, pleasure, gay men. How do we find the pathway to enhance our sex and pleasure while letting go of the shame of growing up gay? First and foremost we embrace that we deserve to be gay men and experience pleasure. Helping us unpack the journey to pleasure is Dr. Israel Martinez with his new book Enhancing Pleasure for Gay Men: A Clinical Guide for Healing and Acceptance Through Better Sex. Duri...

It’s time to break the stigma and reframe the narrative around gay sex workers. When we realize it is  legitimate work, we create a safe space for respect, dignity, and safety for those in the industry. Today's episode with gay sex worker and legal expert - Matthew Roberts, challenges outdated taboos, promotes understanding, and showcases how he advocated for policies that protect and empower sex...

Trauma has impacted us deeply—especially here in the U.S., where the 2024 election brought new waves of confusion and fear for us as gay men. How do we heal from these experiences? Where do we find the strength to move forward? In this episode, I’m joined by fellow life coach and podcaster Wil Fisher to explore how healing ourselves creates ripples of healing for others and helps us rebuild our co...

In life, we're all playing the role's of Master and Slave. Don't cringe. It's true! You're the master of your destiny or a slave to everyone else's expectations. You're the slave to your job, or the master of finding balance between work and life. You're the slave to your fetishes, or the master of them. Today we take a provocative dive into the culture of Master and Slave Fetishes and expose how...

To be queer is an affirming move. Yet, it takes a lot of coming to terms with our queer selves and knowing how to hold ourselves in our highest self-esteem. Whether it is about being sex positive, owning your non-monogamy, or simply affirming your way of being the LGBTQ+ space as a Christ believer, you get to determine how to be and do you as a queer person. Ann Russo joins us today to talk all as...

It's November 1st. 5 Days before the most consequential election in U.S. history in my lifetime. To be honest, I'm nervous and concerned, but I am also a believer in that whatever happens our LGBTQ+ community will rise to the occasion. It's time to walk in the footprints of all those beautiful ancestral colors of the rainbow who have marched before us and ensure, that whatever comes in the days ah...

Ah. The pursuit of love. We all want it, whether it is for a lifetime or point in time. Yet, as gay men we often lose our minds and ourselves in the pursuit of love with another man and then we wonder WTF! We're did I go wrong, why is this happening to me, blah, blah, blah. Here's your wake up call guys. Todd Baratz, author of, "How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind," get raw, real, and lay...

It's a charged world these days. From politics to religion. Even in our own gay world. It seems that from the apps to even in person meetings, we throw shade at each other without exercising empathy and understanding. Yet what happens when you to take a second look? When we slow down and exercise empathy and understanding, rather than staying in your apathetic ways of being in your beliefs and onl...

It's National Coming Out Day. A day we celebrate coming out and being our authentic self. Today is also a day that I am calling all gay men, LGBTQ+ individuals, and allies to come out and vote as if your rights depend on it - because they do. I'm passionate about supporting people coming out and passionate about getting out to vote and here's my take on making both happen. Join Our Live 40 Plus Ga...

Fact: We're all sexual beings. Fact: That doesn't mean we all approach sex and our sexual fantasies the same way. Fact: Just because you are a gay or bisexual man, doesn't mean how you do sex and own your sexuality has to fit into a societal expectation box. Instead, heed the calling from KK Homme - produced by founder Emma Sayle - and release yourself into an inclusive space and that challenges o...

For most men, especially many gay men, the size of their penis is directly related to their confidence. Whether it be the length or girth, many gay men allow there manhood to rule their world. No judgment, just speaking the truth. If you are a guy who struggles to love your penis, in a healthy way, Dr. Joel Pash shares how girth enhancement, might be an avenue for you to explore to bring you more...

Gay men. They are all about sex, raunchy sex, and lust. Wait, hold that thought. Not always true. Yet, many gay men find connection in sex, raunchy sex, and lust - and that's ok, if that is there way to show up in the world. Everyone has a right to be themselves in the world provided it is not hurting someone else. Even if that means frequenting bathhouses and sex clubs to create those connections...

As gay men, there are monsters in our closets that are frightening and the comical. For most of us the monster of coming out is one that terrifies and terrified us the most. Capturing the essence of that journey, in comic book form, Author Mark Julien joins us to share about his desires to use his creativity to help us discover the nurturing power of love, and the belief in one's self, can act as...

Erotic. Pleasure. Being authentically yourself as a sexual being. Some would have us shamed into oblivion for thinking that we deserve to be, being of pleasure. Not today. Joining me is today, erotic and pleasure expert - Ayce Kyptyn. Bringing his full trans masculine gay self to the conversation, Ayce shares his journey to his truth and how it brought him the pleasure of becoming an erotic expert...

Sex and religion. For many, especially gay men, and even more so for gay men who are religious leaders, the thought of erotic pleasure is a "No, no!" Really? Why is that and who made it that way? Exploring the concept that we are all erotic and spiritual beings who desire pleasure, turns the tables on this kind of archaic thinking. You can be erotic, sexual, have desires, and seek pleasure while s...

Throughout history, all we have heard as gay men is that being gay is WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. Yet, we often ask ourselves, "How can we be wrong?" Debut author Max Austin, shares his insights about his life in the '90s amongst the HIV/AIDS crisis and the shame, vile bullying he experienced as a nurse, which led him to constantly ask the question that is the title of his book, "How can we be wrong? In...

Daily life is a culmination, in the moment, of all the history that has preceded our lives. For gay men, there is such a rich history of gay men and others in our LGBTQ history that have brought us to these moments. And, as gay men we need to be the flag bearers of continuing to make history for the generations to come. Joining me today is Journalist and author Eric Marcus, founder and host of the...