40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

In this powerful and vulnerable episode I sit down with somatic sex educator and retreat leader Court Vox for an unfiltered conversation on reclaiming erotic truth, surrender, and personal power—especially as gay men navigating a heavy, noisy world. We dive into: Why rope work is more than kink—it’s about presence, trust, and release How global unrest impacts our capacity for pleasure and emotiona...

What happens when two grown men finally stop pretending and start living as their fully authentic selves? In this powerful episode, Rick Clemons sits down with Mark Dembo to talk about coming out later in life, the messy beauty of self-discovery, and the liberating (and terrifying) freedom that comes with being unapologetically you. They cover: Guilt, anxiety, and codependence in late-life coming...

Tired of swiping? You’re not alone. Tammy Shaklee—LGBTQ relationship expert and founder of H4M Matchmaking—is here to say what most of us already know: app fatigue is real, and no one’s finding true love buried in DMs and torso pics. In this episode, Tammy and I talk about how real, lasting connection happens offline —and how you can start being your own matchmaker (without settling or apologizing...

Why is it still so hard to just be in your own skin when you’re a gay Latinx man? From religious guilt to macho pressure, the layers of shame and silence can run deep. In this episode, therapist and NYU instructor Lucas Saiter joins us to unpack the mental health challenges gay Latinx men face—and how we can finally stop carrying everyone else's expectations. Lucas brings powerful insight as a cli...

The world has become galvanized, polarized, and hell bent on not talking and seeing each other. You're either on my side or out...even in our own LGBTQ+ Community. So how do we find center, find each other, and let each other be the gay men we are, without throwing each other under the bus of hate? David Grass, journalist and television commentator joins us today to share his perspective in naviga...

What if your anxiety wasn’t something broken—but an invitation? In this episode, I’m joined by the incredible Cory Schneider (LMFT, SPHR, CDE), a queer therapist and leadership coach who brings serious depth to the conversation around identity, mental health, and healing. We talk about how we’re living in an anxiety generation—where everything from our phones to our trauma histories is working ove...

Shame is that pebble in the shoe that many of us as gay men just can't seem to get away from. Whether its religious shaming, masculinity shame, or simply the shame of "being gay," there is nothing sacred about owning shame. It's time to uncover the shame of our past, deal with it in our present, and not allow it to leak into our future. Sacred intimate and founder of PostShame.org, Adam MacLean br...

As Pride 2025 is upon us, what are we really celebrating— and what are we resisting? In this urgent, unflinching episode, Brad Pritchett ( he/ him), Interim CEO of Equality Texas, joins us to unpack how Pride must return to its roots as a community- centered movement, not a corporate spectacle. We dive deep into what the political right is really afraid of when it comes to trans rights: visibility...

What exactly is Queer Joy ? How do you create it? And where can we, as gay men, unleash its power to make the biggest impact? I’m sitting down with Revry TV Co- Founder and CEO Damian Pelliccione (They/Them) , who knows a thing or two about it— after all, their unapologetic Queer Joy helped land them on Goldman Sachs’ Top 100 Most Intriguing Entrepreneurs list. You might be thinking, Why does this...

Pride season is supposed to be all glitter, joy, and celebration—but for many, it can bring up waves of anxiety, loneliness, and even depression. So how do you keep your spirit lifted when everyone else seems to be riding rainbows, and you’re just trying to stay afloat? In this powerful and heart-centered episode, we’re joined by the fabulous Will Dempsey—licensed social worker, drag queen, and fi...

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Rahim Thawer ( he/ him)— psychotherapist, educator, and queer Muslim thought leader— joins us to unpack what sets queer men apart from our straight counterparts. From anticipating rejection in dating and navigating body image pressures, to managing our sexual health with a unique blend of hypervigilance and shame, Rahim explores how systemic oppression...

Today the word "Christian" is polarizing. In fact for many it conjures up words like hate, nationalism, evil, fear. WOW...it should not. Then couple that word with Queer, and you might as well be burned at the stake! Let's not do that. Instead, let's invite Queer Christians to the table to embrace their love of goad and faith, and invite others who do not believe you deserve a place at the table,...

Maybe you find yourself bored in your couple. Then you decide playing together with another guy could be fun...and it is. Then you decide that maybe having another guy in the middle (so to speak) on a permanent basis will make your relationship thrive (so to speak). And then it doesn't! Helping us explore this whole concept of the Throuple live, is TV producer and Author Jeff Hudson, sharing his b...

Navigating gay relationships isn't easy, but it can be worth it. Yet, for most gay men, that 1st breakup can be a doozy and waht we often don't realized is where that pain is rooted...it's not where you think. Shedding light on how to overcome trauma, is RTT Therapy specialist, Lonay Halloum, who guides us to explore a powerful therapy technique for navigating relationship pain in a new way. In th...

Relationships are messy - gay or straight! So what happens when you have that candid conversation with your spouse, letting her know that your biseuxal, but you mutually decide that for the betterment of each other, your family, and your future to have a non-monogamous open marriage? What could go wrong? What could go right? Today's guest, and debut Author Wayne Scott, shares about his journey as...

Financial uncertainty in 2025? Don’t panic— David Lester , TV money expert, coach, and author, is here to help! Known as "Your Money Gay Best Friend" (MGBF) , David dishes out tough love, smart money moves, and a little fabulous flair to get your finances in check. Key lessons you'll learn: How to build a rock-solid money mindset Smart strategies for navigating financial uncertainty Why investing...

Connection. We all yearn for it in different ways - personally, professionally, and erotically. Plus, connection in so many other ways. Yet what happened for me over a 4-day Connect Retreat with Court Vox - Certified Intimacy and Sex coach, was surprising, intriguing, scary, exiting, and led me places I never would have imagined - in all areas of my life. Today I share my raw truths, experiences,...

COVID changed everything—our priorities, our beliefs, and the way we see ourselves. For celebrity hair colorist Corey Powell, it sparked a deeper calling: to help others in the LGBTQ+ community break free from the stories holding them back. After years of coaching clients from his salon chair, Corey took the leap to become a life coach, guiding the LGBTQ+ community toward living their most authent...

We all love a good adventure, but let’s be real—traveling as a gay man isn’t just about picking a destination; it’s about finding places where you can truly feel safe, seen, and celebrated . So, where in the world can you be your fabulous, free self without worry? This week, I’m joined by LGBTQ+ travel expert & Queer Adventurers founder , who’s here to drop all the tips on traveling smart, saf...

Life feeling a little too much lately? You’re not alone. But what if you could hit reset and find your calm—no matter what’s happening around you? Even if that means you relinquish your family upbringing, get ex-communicated from your church, and finally start living your truth as a gay man, as you always meant to be. Enter Chad Michael Hardy, author of Law of Zero , here to help you ditch the str...

How do you balance faith, sexuality, and life—without losing your mind? Finding the just right path to authenticity can feel overwhelming, even chaotic. But here’s the truth: authenticity is a journey, not a destination. And living your most fulfilled life as a gay, Jewish Rabbi (or whoever you are) is exactly the path you’re meant to walk. Joining the conversation today is Rabbi Steven Greenberg...

HIV may be a lifelong journey, but it is not a death sentence. Yet, for Black gay men, that journey often comes with unique challenges—stigma, erasure, and systemic barriers that make living openly and authentically even harder. As we close out Black History Month, we sit down with Jordan J. Edwards - Deputy Director for the Normal Anomaly Initiative , whose candid and unfiltered approach will cha...

Black gay men don't feel safe talking about this? That includes a lot of territory. But why do they feel this way? It's because of the double margins they experience and then add to it familial socializing and you've got the perfect reason black, gay, men struggle to show themselves fully in society. Visionary leader, host and founder Dear Black Gay Men podcast, Jai The Gentleman joins me today fo...

Open relationships for gay men: a recipe for disaster or the key to thriving love? This week, we’re breaking it all down! Join me and Dr. Wade Maggert as we explore: Why monogamy might not be your vibe (and that’s okay!) How to set rules and boundaries that actually work Understanding your attachment style so you can thrive, whether you’re open, poly, or somewhere in between. It’s time to break fr...

Sex. Sexual Dysfunction. You're junk just ain't working right. Don't panic gay men. But get the right help. Today, Dr. Joshua R. Gonzalez, a board-certified urologist and sexual health specialist based in West Hollywood, dives deep into the world of gay mens sexual health, hormone balance, and of course the overall biggest challenge - erectile dysfunction. Trust me this Doc delivers!!! Today we ta...