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The term gaslighting was introduced in a play that featured interaction between an abusive husband who created an elaborate deception explicitly designed to control and disrupt his wife's emotional equilibrium. In 2014 I first discovered this term and created this piece. The term is currently ubiquitous, so I decide to publish because I believe that this story has relevance to emotional abuse and...

Making necessary changes to get to our place in life. Such changes can be well thought out and executed. At another time, change becomes unplanned and sudden.

The conventional wisdom is, look before leaping. In this instance there was no time to look or to think. The reality of the situation demanded a spontaneous reactive response with no room for contemplative thoughts. I looked; I saw and leaping into action was the solo requirement at that time.

As I sat in the parking lot of the eye doctor my thoughts came at me like a flood. I was reflecting about my father on the anniversary of his passing. I remembered that he had 2 eyeglasses which I never fully understood until it happened to me. Yep, I needed two pairs for divided vision. One for driving and another for the computer and for reading.

This talk was incidental and unplanned. Initially, my intention was just to sing into my digital recorder, one of my Favorite songs. It began with the song "the love inside" by my favorite singer, Barbara Streisand. That last note "Loving Me" left me haunting, wanting and then became a meaningful precursor this talk. Thoughts from an earlier interaction floated into my consciou...

On June 3rd 2020 I received a gentle reminder that my life clock was inching towards midnight.. My outdoor thermometer delivered the news through its digital display. It informed me that it was 65 degree outside and that I had just turned 65 years old. This seemingly innocuous  coincidence brought  a smile to my face and a chuckle to my heart. Turning 65 is, in it self, a big deal, a reminder that...

This recording was done in 2016 while I was driving my 1994 Honda Delsol to Connecticut to see my brothers. It performed admirably that day and on all subsequent trips. As of today its current mileage is 143921 and still lights up by just a simple cracking  of the ignition. It is a two-seater with a responsive steering capable of making tight turns. My eldest daughter, Christine, drove it in...

Children are essential to life not just because thy are our replacements but that they they serve up that added flavor to our living. Without them living would be a drag with nothing but work. It is the child in us that allows us to be nonchalant and free spirited. This new entrant into our lives brings energy anew. 

Building strong families on that sturdy platform called love

Fathers, It not enough for your children to know of you or for them to just be aware of your presence.  You must not only be the provider of the sperm that fertilizes the egg that produces the child that we now see. Make a concerted effort to participate in the motion of their lives. It is important that  do things for and with them . That is your gift to them.

Marriage is important to the well being of the individual and to  our society. We can call it anything we chose but its value still stands. It is true that the rate of marriage is decreasing, but that because they are calling it something else.  The principle of declared commitment remain solid.