Your Real, Your Ideal

Come January 1st self improvement is on everyone’s mind, including Sandy and Amy’s.  What can we do different this year to be better?  Research shows that of the 50% of adults that make resolutions only 10% will keep them more than a few months. Yep, we’ve been there. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:   https:...

Change is hard. Leaving relationships along with the security and the investment that went into them is even harder. We hold on to what brings us comfort. And then there's death and mortality, the ultimate fear for most.  So much in this conversation! Some tips we discussed: 1. Don't rush your goodbyes; it's a continual process so start early. 2. Keep objects as a memory prompt. 3. Pinpoint e...

Ugh, feedback. It can be well received or ruin your day. If you fine tune the way you give and receive feedback, it can help you in life long self awareness and improvement.  Sandy and Amy are doing a book discussion about “Thanks for the Feedback” by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram: &nbs...

Where would you live if you could live anywhere?  Where we plant ourselves can be different in each phase of our lives.  There are many things that brings us to where we are currently living.  Maybe we’ve always lived in the area, or maybe a job brought us here.  These days, with more and more online work, many of us could be living anywhere.  What makes your city your hom...

Have you heard that 2020 has been a rough year?  We’re hearing a lot of people just wanting 2020 to go away.  We’re taking a different approach by looking at 2020 through the lens of gratitude.  This little shift in perspective can help all of us appreciate the good that also happened in 2020. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Foll...

If we lead and are self-assured women, does this make us bossy? Being told we are confident and in charge feels good. Being told we are bossy and controlling feels judgy. What is the fine line between the two and how do we best present ourselves to come across in the most effective way?  In this episode we talk about  #BanBossy. You can get more info as a teacher, parent  or manager...

 We were looking for a little advice to talk about so we asked our listeners to share their best advice.  We got so many submissions!  We picked a few and took a deep dive in this podcast. We had fun reading the advice and sharing why it resonated with us.  If you want to read all the advice we got, you can find it HERE .  Enjoy! Email your suggested conversation topics an...

  We find women in my life apologize A LOT! And for things they don’t need to apologize for. They overthink situations and then go back with regret on what they say or felt. Why do women have the knee-jerk reaction of apologizing for how they feel? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:   https://www.instagram.com/yourr...

We talk about the real in all of our discussions. But what about hopes and dreams? What about the dreamers? Should we always be realistic in our thoughts or do we need space in our brain to dream for what may seem unrealistic?  Amy and Sandy explore how to encourage and support the dreams of others plus when (and if) you need to step in with some reality. Email your suggested conversation top...

What are you doing tonight...same thing as last night? If you have tried to simplify your life in the past, this moment in time with the pandemic could feel boring.  We can embrace the ordinary knowing that this time will pass, but what do we do with all this free time?? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:   https://...

We’ve all heard “Anyone can be an activist”.   There is a moment in your life when you have all of a sudden feel like you have the time to do small things to help a cause.  Then, you might notice yourself doing bigger things.  What’s the cause you’re willing to give your time too?  It’s never too late to “Just do it” Please rate and review us!!  We love hearing from o...

Money can be a blessing and a curse. The more we make, the more we spend. Our monthly financial obligations can turn into a ‘handcuff’ against making desired life decisions. “I can’t change careers because I can’t make what I make today.” “I don’t have enough spare money to cover cost of the course I SOOOOO want to take.” Starting with a zero budget and analyzing every cost as needed, wanted, nece...

Aging is tough. We are all doing it, but in different stages. The last phase is the notably the hardest, given our mortality stares us in the face and our vessel of a body can not do the things it could do at a younger age. The key is in handling hard life choices and the aging process with human dignity and leading with this driving principle. Email your suggested conversation topics and question...

It is so easy to jump to judgment and offer your two cents, state your point, before anyone else. We all want to be heard, especially when we feel passionate about something. The problem is we miss the input of others when we talk over them. Collaboration is a great thing and true collaboration involves active listen and understanding others points of view. This applies both at work and in persona...

Let’s turn things a little upside down.  Instead of doing magical thinking, let’s be realistic.  Let’s fill our lives with the essential, not everything.  Let’s be authentic and not just follow the crowd.  And lastly, are we creating a life that’s livable.  Are we thriving or just surviving?  The episode we talk about all these aspects of being REAL in your day to day...

 Too often we equate being successful at work or growing our client base to requiring whatever it takes to move up to the next level. But good work relationships do matter. No one gets a pass for being an asshole. Not every relationship is a good fit, but being an asshole is a non-negotiable. Life is too short to work with assholes. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to Yo...

It is a common theory that to be your best person is to be humble, definitely not vain. And is a level of vanity bad? Looking and feeling our best brings out our best in our words, actions and outlook. How do we distinguish between self-care and vanity?  Amy and Sandy dig into this topic and share their "vain" moments. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdea...

Taking responsibility for your mistakes can be hard.   No one is perfect, you can tell when people are not stepping up, there is an appreciation for people who do take responsibility, comfort in knowing mistakes are ok.  We are at our best when we can create a safe space for ourselves and others to come clean. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gm...

How happy are you? Ask yourself on a scale from 1 to 10, how consistently happy are you at this stage in your life? There is so much talk on the quest to find happiness and joy in life. We will discuss the real behind the happiness factor and what affects this and the formula (yes, there is one!) behind achieving your ideal highest and most consistent state of happiness. Email your suggested conve...

How do we create positive change in the face of all racial and political oppression of today? When is it courage to speak up or wisdom to way nothing? How do we navigate through oppression to enable positive steps forward? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:   https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https:/...

  Why do we feel so inclined to parent under The Life Script Model?  What does stepping outside the life script look like?     “There is an overwhelming desire for people to follow the ‘life script model’. When people break it, it becomes very noticeable.”~Kate Bowler. The concept was introduced to us when listening to a Kate Bowler “Everything Happens” podcast. She t...

Just like the classic line from "Harry Met Sally", people too often chase happiness by wanting to mirror others. Sandy and Amy discuss the misnomer of trying to achieve this Sally zen by duplicating actions and lives in a quest to obtain the same. “I’ll have what she’s having” seems so simple an ask. Yet just like the humor of this movie moment, it is rarely a reality. Email your suggested convers...

Amy and Sandy discuss their lives post-shutdown (coronavirus). The new normal is happening and we’ve decided to start a conversation.  We are two women taking on life’s questions. Through our unique journeys in weathering life to date we will tackle the probing questions and issues by first recognizing the real in life’s situations to get to the desired ideal. Practical. Honest. Fun. Curious....