Wake Your Dream

Annaliese and Alan unpack how personality differences and unmet needs impact the way couples connect — and why showing up as your true self is one of the most powerful things you can do for your marriage. If you've ever felt tempted to shrink, guess, or assume the worst about your partner's intentions, this conversation offers a grounded and more deeply connected way forward. You'll Hear About: Wh...

Annaliese and Alan talk about what shifts when you stop fighting or just drifting through the moment and start opening up to it. Life has a way of showing you insights in whatever the moment holds, and sometimes when you least expect it. But to really connect with those insights takes a new practice of being open and listening deeper to what you’re experiencing right now, in and around you. Learn...

Annaliese and Alan talk about what it feels (and what it takes!) to approach the midlife experience. Midlife confronts us with the quality of the life we’ve been living and pursuing. You’ll hear about the stereotypes that can feel real, but there are bigger invitations and growth that hide underneath the changes that midlife brings with it. You’ll Hear About: -Midlife reveals the gaps. There are w...

Annaliese and Alan talk about how to look for surprising evidence that you're making progress when you're on the long road of growth. Staying encouraged on the road to your goals isn't always easy — especially when progress feels slow, repetitive, or just plain invisible. Listen in to learn how to recognize your real progress, even when it doesn't look or feel the way you'd expect. You'll Hear Abo...

Annaliese and Alan talk about a more approachable way to become more patient. Patience is necessary in life, but it can be difficult to build that skill because our “normal” or comfort zone is designed around avoiding discomfort and uncertainty around waiting. You'll learn that patience isn’t something overly virtuous that only certain people can do - it’s a muscle that everyone has, including you...

Annaliese and Alan unpack how the fear of “being selfish” can quietly keep you stuck, overextended, or disconnected from your own needs. They'll talk you through rethinking what selfishness actually means so you can stop letting guilt or limiting beliefs drive your choices. Instead of living anxiously trying to avoid being selfish, you’ll learn how to grow a more grounded sense of selfhood (believ...

Annaliese and Alan talk about how self-care isn't just healthy practices — it's about building a holistic attitude of actually caring about yourself and how you feel and act in your life. If you shifted your attitude toward yourself, how might that open up your world? Self-care transforms who you think you are, what you think you're capable of, and what options you're able to see for yourself. YOU...

Annaliese and Alan talk about the ways and reasons we blame, why we think it will give us relief — and why it actually doesn't satisfy us. Blaming can feel like a power trip in the moment, but it's actually taking your power away. Understanding what you're experiencing and why gives you the info you need to feel the power of your own choice in vulnerable or uncertain moments. You'll Hear About: Wh...

Annaliese and Alan talk about how to change your unhelpful thoughts and beliefs once you discover you have them. They dig into how these beliefs have been shaping your experiences in life for a long time — and how to build new ones that open up more of what's actually possible for you! You'll Hear About: How your daily patterns — anxiety at work, struggling to trust yourself, needing constant outs...

Annaliese and Alan talk about how your hidden triggers quietly shape your emotional reactions, relationships, and everyday life. So often, reactive stories start playing in your mind (thoughts) and body (feelings) before you even realize it. When you learn to notice that inner narrative in the moment, you gain powerful self-awareness, giving you the ability to decide whether that story gets to lea...

Annaliese and Alan talk about what makes communication both effective and deeply connecting in close relationships. They reflect on how many adults eventually notice communication blind spots in themselves because different communication styles were modeled in their families growing up. This conversation explores how emotional maturity and intentional practice help us build healthier, more connect...

Annaliese and Alan talk about how fixating on outcomes in life can quietly consume your limited energy in the present moment. Annaliese shares how our deeper invitation is to notice how we actually feel in and about our lives right now—and to intentionally prioritize spending our primary resources (time, money, attention, and energy) on what we can realistically influence today. When we shift our...

Annaliese and Alan talk about perfectionism in practical ways that actually help you in the moment. Annaliese explores how perfectionism often disguises itself as the “right way” to be, think, or live—when in reality, it slowly disconnects you from your authenticity, agency, and inner clarity. You’ll uncover how perfectionism undermines personal growth by demanding control over things you can’t co...

Annaliese and Alan talk about one of the most overlooked foundations of real personal growth: learning to love yourself. This episode reframes self-compassion as more than a concept that sounds good or feels good—it’s meant to become a brand new foundation of love for yourself that effectively fuels any change you hope to make. Instead of growing from a basis of self-criticism or judgment, this co...

Annaliese and Alan dig into how the way you see yourself shapes the way you think, speak, and act. When you’re trying to grow, your inner picture matters. Annaliese shares a simple mindset tool called “Update Yourself,” a practice that helps you picture yourself as more capable, grounded, and empowered so real change feels possible—not overwhelming. You’ll Hear About: How your brain can learn a ne...

Annaliese and Alan talk about how to make healthy, effective boundaries that actually support real life and real relationships. Instead of boundaries being a last-minute reaction to discomfort or conflict, they explore how boundaries work best when they’re intentional, value-based, and planned all the way through. Annaliese share the 3 Prongs of Building a Boundary—choose it, set it, enforce it. L...

Annaliese and Alan dive into why adversity isn’t just something to survive—it’s something that grows you. They unpack how struggle, resistance, and discomfort can actually be some of life’s most powerful teachers when you learn how to work with them instead of against them. Annaliese shares an example story from the 1990's Biosphere 2 project, where scientists discovered that trees grown in perfec...

Annaliese and Alan talk about a particular way we experience growth: it can take us further. Annaliese shares how to recognize when your personal growth efforts might actually be keeping you stuck in your head rather than helping you feel the change you’re aiming for. This episode invites you to notice where you might be sitting in challenges instead of moving through them—and how to shift from pr...

Annaliese and Alan talk about one of the quiet but powerful truths about real growth: sometimes, the best next step isn’t further—it’s deeper. Instead of chasing the next big milestone, deeper growth invites you to slow down, repeat small steps, and let change sink in beneath the surface. It’s about building confidence, wholeness, and strength at your core, not just stacking up achievements. You’l...

Annaliese and Alan talk about two practical tools you can use in your day to encourage yourself on your growth path. By noticing your words and noticing your body, you’ll see what’s not serving you—and discover small but powerful ways to make real change happen! You’ll Hear About: Notice your words. The language you use in your thoughts impacts you more than you realize. Words like “can’t,” “but,”...

Annaliese and Alan talk about how to stay focused for the long-term when it feels hard to stick with a commitment to yourself. Annaliese explains how common it is to lose momentum when something is “just for you,” and how easy it is to deprioritize your own growth. You'll hear ways to get your focus back on track by reconnecting with your Why and treating yourself with compassion in the process. Y...

Annaliese and Alan talk about getting caught up in the feelings of right now can sidetrack your day, and how to bring yourself back to feeling more present and giving your day another chance. Annaliese brings up practically how to face and handle the struggle throughout the day in a self-care way so your mind can work for you, not against you! Listen to learn ways to act like you do have a choice...

In This Episode: Annaliese and Alan talk about why real change in your life starts with how you think about and treat yourself. Instead of staying stuck in self-judgment, hustling, and striving for perfection, Annaliese shares how Radical Acceptance and Self-Compassion have been game-changers for moving toward a life that feels authentic, meaningful, and satisfying. You’ll Hear About: Why feeling...

In this Encore Episode, Annaliese and Alan talk about what “Thought Work” is, breaking it down into simple, practical ways to start noticing your thoughts and feelings every day. They cover ways to learn Thought Work for yourself so you can experience accepting yourself more, feeling like the person you want to be, and live in better alignment with your values. You’ll Hear About: You can choose wh...

Annaliese and Alan show you how to lead yourself and your life from the inside out so you can make wise decisions that actually reflect your real values, thoughts, and desires. Annaliese explains how your inner compass — your sense of discernment — helps you live authentically and choose the standard you want to live by. You already have inner cues to guide you toward what’s right for you. You’ll...