Untherapeutic

Send us Fan Mail What you believe is important, but what role does faith really have in our relationships.  Is it a deal breaker if two people don't share the same faith? What does it actually mean, when someone says, "equally yoked". What should people look for when they say their Faith is important to them?  Can it be used to restore relationships and overcome many of the challeng...

Send us Fan Mail If you knew this 20 years ago, what would you do different in marriage? For anyone who is married, considering marriage, or interested in a long-term relationship, learning from those who have been in the trenches can sometimes be the best form of counseling.  However, what does it really take to be married for over 20 years…  Sometimes we want to be "happily married after&qu...

Send us Fan Mail If you have ever wondered whether or not you should go to therapy, or if the problems you are experiencing warrant talking to someone, then this episode is for you.  Join Dr. Nic Hardy, and Arron Muller, LCSW as they discuss the subtle signs if you are okay or not. Although we can “push through”, or maintain a “business as usual attitude”, the impact of what we experience in life...

Send us Fan Mail The secret to happiness in our relationships is not always what we think.  More money, less arguments, more time together, better vacations, the list goes on of what we think will make us happy.  However, all too often, we focus on the wrong things and find ourselves consistently dissatisfied, both in life and in our relationships. We all want to be happy, but what does it really...

Send us Fan Mail If you haven’t already, now is the time to binge on Season 1 and review the many great episodes from the Untherapeutic Podcast.  The first season is filled with timeless insights to help you relationally and in life.  In the meantime, don’t forget to subscribe to our new Youtube channel @drnichardy and follow us on social media.  Instagram: nichardy_  Facebook: nichardycounseling ...

Send us Fan Mail Despite how much you love someone, it takes discipline to make a relationship successful.  One of the most important disciplines, is the discipline to establish healthy boundaries with those outside of your relationship. In this episode, I am joined by Anthony Flynn, CEO and Founder of Amazing CEO and execution expert.  In addition to growing multiple successful businesses, and co...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by best selling author, Jayne Allen .  In her bestselling book, " Black Girls Must Die Exhausted ", this novel takes readers on a true journey of what it means to live life, experience set backs and overcome obstacles along the way.   This book is a true must read.  This podcast episode of Untherapeutic is a behin...

Send us Fan Mail The older we get, the harder it is to remain optimistic about our relationship future, especially if we have experienced our fair share of failed attempts.  However, despite what’s occurring relationally, the importance of self-care, and maintaining a healthy perspective is vitally important. In this episode, I am joined by Bre Mitchell, founder of Brown Girl Self-Care, as we dive...

Send us Fan Mail  Has your spouse ever done everything right, but you still found yourself unsatisfied? Believe it or not, being unsatisfied in a relationship is not always because our spouse did something wrong. Is it them, or is it me?  This dilemma can lead us to misplace blame, or go in circles from one relationship to the next.  In this episode of Untherapeutic , Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Ps...

Send us Fan Mail What does self-doubt look like in a relationship? How does you questioning yourself, affect the person you are with? Can you really be supportive when you are questioning your own abilities?  When we think about imposter syndrome, we frequently overlook how it impacts us relationally.  However, the truth is, questioning yourself does more that interfere with your own path to succe...

Send us Fan Mail When there are problems in a relationship, who doesn't want their partner to change?  In an ideal world, they would just "get it" and everything would be okay.  However, this is rarely the case, especially when two people believe the other person is at fault (which almost all the time). In her Amazon #1 Bestselling book, Dr. Abby Medcalf shares how we can change our...

Send us Fan Mail When you don't feel heard, it's hard to explain. In fact, it can seem confusing and ambigous for those who are trying to understand and make sense of this problem. The truth is, this is one of the most common problems when it comes to communication in relationships. But what does it really mean to "not feel heard".  In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by r...

Send us Fan Mail The idea of work-life balance sounds great, but is it really attainable?  Balance is good in theory, but in reality, we are sometimes asked to choose between two equally important things. When the expectations of providing financially, collide with being present, what do you do?  When are lifestyle has created  comfort, but the quality of our relationships is in danger, making the...

Send us Fan Mail Infidelity is one of the hardest relationship challenges some couples experience.  The betrayal of trust and the loss of confidence that stems from one partner stepping outside their relationship, can cause the most committed couples to question the future of their relationship. However, in counseling countless couples over the years, there is a myth that surrounds infidelity. The...

Send us Fan Mail Do you know the keys to lasting physical intimacy? Have you struggled to reconnect with your spouse? If so, join millions of others who have silently struggled with physical intimacy in their relationships.    In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Viviana Coles , Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and former Married at First Sight featured expert. In her groundbreak...

Send us Fan Mail Relationships that begin with a lot of intensity and passion, sometimes evolve into relationships that are both dangerous and unhealthy.  In this episode, Kortney Simmons, Attorney and Legal Analyst for TV One’s hit show “Fatal Attraction”, discusses her experience helping couples identify warning signs and exit unsafe relationships.    It’s easy to mistake passion for possessiven...

Send us Fan Mail Finding a spouse online may feel like the new normal in today’s dating culture. However, the challenges and problems that come with online dating can be exhausting and discouraging all at the same time - especially for black women, who often have fewer options in the online dating world.  Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dating and Relationship coach Kevin Thibodeaux (Coach Kev) as he e...

Send us Fan Mail Even when we know a relationship is toxic, it’s not always easy to stop ourselves from going back.  In this episode, host Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Mindfulness Expert and Practitioner Kierra McShine-Gregory .  Kierra is a mental health counselor and mindfulness practitioner who works with adolescents, adults and families using the practice of mindfulness to support depression, an...