Unlabeled Love

Struggling with acceptance in gender-expansive relationships? You're not alone! This week's Unlabeled Love episode is dedicated to holding space for partners on this journey. Listen and discover you're part of a community where your story matters. You can contact us: Email - unlabeled.love.journey@gmail.com Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UnlabeledLove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook - Violet S. Lee &...

Dive into our latest episode! How do significant others navigate the journey with gender-expansive partners? Violet and McCartney candidly discuss and explore the dynamics of love and support and what significant others wish their gender-expansive partners understood. You can contact us: email - unlabeled.love.journey@gmail.com Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UnlabeledLove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook - Violet S. Lee...

Violet and McCartney address common myths about cross‑dressing and emphasize how partners can communicate through them. They encourage using nonjudgmental questions, active listening, and clarifying what each person means rather than making assumptions. They highlight the importance of ongoing dialogue, especially as feelings shift over time. They also recommend setting and negotiating boundaries...

Violet and McCartney discuss how illness or hospitalization can create extra caregiving challenges when a spouse is gender-expansive and may still want gender-affirming clothing, names, and routines. They encourage couples to talk in advance, create a flexible game plan for both partners’ potential health crises, and consider end-of-life wishes and what to do with clothing and belongings after dea...

Violet and McCartney discuss why some significant others choose to stay with a cross-dressing or gender-expansive spouse. They note that acceptance, honest communication, and mutually respected boundaries can help couples navigate the change. They remind listeners that staying is a choice—not an obligation—and leaving doesn’t mean anyone failed. What reasons, boundaries, and defining moments would...

Violet and McCartney focus on whether cross-dressing is always about sex, noting it can be sexual for some, nonsexual for others, or shift over time from fetish to gender expression and authenticity. They compare experiences and emphasize that partners should examine attraction and comfort levels, set and communicate boundaries, and recognize intimacy can include affection without sex. You can con...

McCartney and Violet’s conversation centers on partners of gender-expansive spouses sometimes missing “their husband,” wanting predictability and to be the focus without managing an alter ego’s feelings. They emphasize examining what “wanting the old husband back” means, communicating boundaries respectfully, and recognizing they can’t control how their partner receives those feelings You can cont...

Violet and McCartney discuss an upcoming business cruise, during which McCartney’s spouse, Deanne, suggested presenting as Deanne throughout the trip, including on formal night. McCartney explains she is not ready to introduce Deanne to business colleagues and worries about the added stress of being on high alert, especially sailing from a local port where acquaintances might be present. Violet af...

McCartney and Violet discuss the internal struggle partners face when a spouse is a cross-dresser or gender expansive, prompted by a quote from Savannah Hauk’s book about mastering internal balance for peace of mind, body, and spirit. They describe challenges like redefining roles in a dual-gender relationship, balancing support with personal comfort, and communicating needs without guilt, especia...

Violet and McCartney discuss what it really means when a spouse says they are “okay” with a cross-dressing or gender-expansive partner. Violet shares how her own “I’m okay” evolved and describes how a communication breakdown led to feelings of betrayal. They encourage baby steps, honesty without passive aggression, considering therapy, and recognizing that while couples should try to work through...

McCartney and Violet reflect on seeing each other again at the Keystone conference, where they met listeners. They describe Keystone highlights, including workshops, the significant-other lunch, vending on the main floor, and their shared goal of helping spouses of gender-expansive partners feel less alone and more supported. McCartney and Deanne hosted a travel workshop about traveling in femme....

Violet and McCartney continue a discussion on how culture and traditions shape reactions to gender expression for partners of gender-expansive people. They describe historical and cultural examples that challenge Western norms and distinguish gender identity from biological sex. The conversation highlights double standards that allow women to adopt masculine clothing more freely than men adopting...

Violet and McCartney begin a discussion on traditions and gender norms, prompted by a passage from Peggy Rude’s My Husband Wears My Clothes about rigid conditioning around what men and women “should” do. Violet reflects on initial fear and hesitation when Katrina wanted to go out in public, realizing the reaction centered on social expectations and personal embarrassment rather than Katrina’s need...

This episode focuses on setting boundaries in relationships where one partner is gender expansive, including why boundaries matter and how they relate to trust and comfort levels. They describe physical, emotional, time, and material boundaries. They stress that boundaries should be specific, communicated calmly with “I” statements, and can evolve over time as acceptance grows. They also discuss h...

Violet and McCartney discuss practical packing and presentation tips for cruising, including mix-and-match outfits, comfortable shoes, sweaters for cool evenings, shapewear, wigs, and nails. They address strategies for building confidence on board, including choosing quieter pool times. The conversation also focuses on encouraging spouses to join for community, self-care, and mutual enjoyment, and...

In this episode, Violet and McCartney explore the pros and cons of being the significant other of a gender expansive person. Specifically, how it affects them, emphasizing that experiences vary by individual and relationship. They describe key pros such as enhanced communication, deeper intimacy and trust, creative self-expression, community connections, and even shared fashion tips. They also cov...

In this discussion, Violet and McCartney explore the emotional complexities faced by significant others when their partners reveal that they are a crossdresser. They share personal anecdotes about dealing with grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The conversation underscores the need for open communication and setting healthy boundaries. They emphasize the importance of jo...

In this episode, Violet and McCartney discuss their experiences and considerations surrounding revealing their spouses' crossdressing identities to family, friends, and the world. They share personal anecdotes about the challenges of keeping secrets, handling potential rejection, and the importance of building trust and intimacy in relationships. They emphasize the need for patience and understand...

In this episode of Unlabeled Love, Violet and McCartnie discuss McCartnie’s experience organizing and participating in the 'Girls Just Wanna Have Fun' crossdressing cruise. McCartnie discusses the initial apprehensions and logistics of their first cruise, highlighting the challenges and learning experiences of making everyone, including herself, comfortable. They also talk about the latest cruise,...

In this episode of Unlabeled Love, McCartnie discusses her journey of accepting her husband's cross-dressing over their 40-year marriage. She gradually realized her husband's preference for women's clothing, which initially left her feeling betrayed and disappointed. Over time, boundaries were set and adjusted, ultimately leading McCartnie to accept and even join Deann in related activ...

In this episode of 'Unlabeled Love', Violet narrates her 30-year relationship with her partner, Catrina, highlighting the complexities of living with a crossdresser, including managing Catrina's appearances around their children and family. McCartney relates by sharing similar experiences with her partner Deanne, highlighting emotional nuances and societal perceptions. The episode offe...

In this episode of 'Unlabeled Love,' Violet and McCartney share their experiences at the Keystone Conference, focusing on their initial discomfort and gradual acceptance.  They discuss the emotional journey of supporting their crossdressing spouses, and reflect on the emotional complexities and the gradual process of becoming more comfortable in these supportive communities. You can contac...

In this episode, Violet and McCartney share how they first learned their spouses were crossdressers and how their relationships evolved. You can contact us: email - unlabeled.love.journey@gmail.com Instagram - Unlabeledlove.podcast Facebook - violet S. Lee

In this episode, Violet and McCartnie recount how they met and how they decided to start this podcast. You can contact us: email - unlabeled.love.journey@gmail.com Instagram - Unlabeledlove.podcast Facebook - violet S. Lee

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