Total Woman Podcast

In this heartwarming episode, I deliver on my long-awaited promise by bringing a special guest Dr. Istifanus Bako (My Husband), to join me. Together, we share our beautiful love story, exploring how faith and serendipity brought us together. Dr. Bako reflects on our first meeting at a medical outreach in Langtang,  Plateau State, recounting how he nervously asked for my number as a broke medical s...

In this episode, I discuss how I met Mr Right. I went through the acute fear of getting married because of failed marriages. It became a question of, "What version do you bring to the table to ensure he is the man?" Marriage is where we cultivate each other. I aimed to embody the qualities I sought in a man, prioritizing spiritual alignment. Despite having spiritual direction, my vanity...

In this episode, I explore the journey of understanding relationships and personal growth. After gaining insight into how God operates, I felt it was time to reevaluate my views on men. I realised that everyone struggles with something from their past, including those who may have wronged us, and this understanding helped me learn to extend grace. I had lost faith and confidence in men, but I deci...

In this episode, I discuss my journey through church navigation, searching for a suitable place to worship. During this period, I encountered various misconceptions the church faced, such as issues with dressing and some strange doctrines. I felt a persistent sense of seeking something more, leading me to read scripture and pray more directly. The love I experienced during my initial encounter wit...

In this episode, I continue sharing my faith journey. I realised that although I had found Christ, I still struggled with my past life and worldly activities like partying and spending time with people who didn’t support my faith. However, certain experiences led me to understand prayer as a conversation with God. Over time, I felt God's love and decided to stand out and make a difference in m...

In this episode, I share my story of losing and rediscovering my faith in God. I discuss the struggles and doubts I faced after experiencing rape and feeling like a perpetual victim. In desperation, I prayed for help, and God sent a loving individual who supported me. Despite this, I found it hard to talk about my faith crisis with my parents. Throughout my journey, God sent reminders of His love...

In this episode, I dig deeper into the narrative shared in our last episode, exploring my journey into me. Despite encountering the trauma of rape, I made a conscious decision not to allow it to dictate my identity or dictate the course of my life. Instead of succumbing to victimhood, I established crucial boundaries and rediscovered my faith in God. Furthermore, I embarked on a profound journey o...

The same things that shape you can also mar you. In this episode, I discuss personal experiences that have guided me in finding a sense of family in various stages of life. From enduring physical, sexual, and emotional abuse to grappling with religious misconceptions, these experiences profoundly influenced my decisions and obscured certain aspects of life. Feeling betrayed by those meant to prote...

In this episode, I continue my discussion on family as a deterrent to purpose.  I explore the profound impact family can have on our pursuit of purpose and how fostering a nurturing environment within our familial circles is paramount. I discuss the importance of clear communication, setting communicated expectations, having shared visions and respecting individual differences within the family un...

In this episode, I explore the intricate dynamics of family and how they impact our pursuit of purpose. Family, often regarded as the cornerstone of society, can present challenges and opportunities alike. How do we navigate these challenges to harness the potential of this unit effectively? I specifically delve into the roles of parents and siblings in nurturing and supporting us towards fulfilli...

In this  episode, I explore the intricate dynamics of family and its impact on our purpose. I delve into how family interactions, cultural traditions, and religious beliefs can either propel us forward or hinder our path to fulfilment. Furthermore, I discuss the importance of rising above familial expectations and embracing realistic goals. Also, I examine the pitfalls of limited perspectives and...

In this episode, I explore the topic "Laziness as a Deterrent to Purpose." Laziness hinders purpose by impeding necessary efforts and processes. It manifests in different ways, such as procrastination, tiredness, lack of self-worth, and easy distractions. I also discuss three major types of laziness: physical, mental, and spiritual laziness. To overcome laziness and achieve one's pur...

In this episode, I explore "The Flawed Concept of Rest." Are you constantly feeling the need to rest? It might be a sign of lacking purpose. Additionally, I delve into the driving force of purpose, the importance of soft skills, and how to structure your life. Inspired by the biblical concept of God working for six days before resting, I unravel the true purpose of rest—it's about pr...

In this episode, the focus is on the factors that drive purpose beyond mere declarations. Discipline, commitment, and consistency, along with the principle of productivity, sustain one's path of purpose. The story of Joseph illustrates the impact of work ethics, commitment, and innovation in attracting respect and favour.  The importance of understanding and building a solid foundation in one&...

In this episode, we delve into the obstacles preventing us from realising our true potential. Often, despite recognizing our capabilities, many fail to reach their intended goals. Embracing growth should be a daily pursuit, a commitment to becoming the best version of ourselves. Our sense of purpose acts as a guiding force, constantly propelling us forward. However, certain factors, like rigid rel...

On this episode, I discuss the kind of productivity that God expects. God has already bestowed upon you the raw materials and it is up to you to use it wisely. Prayer can guide you in finding direction, but the actual work must be carried out by you. Remember, to whom much is given, much is expected. It's not a lack of money that hinders you from fulfilling your responsibilities, but a lack of...

Episode 8 - The Deterrent of Purpose  The essence of purpose is fulfilment, and the fundamental idea behind it is to positively impact lives. Often, we yearn for more from life but find ourselves trapped in a mindset of mediocrity, preventing us from taking actions that qualify us for greater achievements. Purpose is the driving force that motivates individuals to build from the ground up. The rea...

Today, I continue my exploration of purpose. Many people exist without understanding that life should be guided by a sense of purpose. Purpose is the intrinsic value you bring to your actions, leading to fulfilment. Sometimes, you may feel called to a significant purpose but doubt your qualifications. It's essential to nurture your soul, as the journey to discover your purpose is a specific pr...

Today, I continue my discussion on purpose, delving into the process of making it visible. Discovering your purpose doesn't mean expecting worship; true excellence attracts accolades naturally. Purpose is just the start. After finding it, you must work towards your unique mission, to lead a life of impact. With purpose, there's a defined process; it's not an instant result. Often, we o...

In this episode, I explore the concept of purpose, particularly in the context of remarkable women from history who exemplified unwavering determination. Purpose is an individual's profound guiding principle. Considering that the fundamental human purpose is to worship God, both men and women seek expressions aligned with divine worship. This leads to a vital question:  how many of us truly ta...

I begin today's episode discussing the significance of hygiene, especially as we age. Hygiene should never be underestimated. Maintaining cleanliness, including taking care of pubic hair and armpits, becomes increasingly important over time. Reflecting on my past, I share the memory of receiving my first love letter and how my father provided me with books that prepared me for puberty. Navigat...

In this episode, we continue our discussion on the transitional journey from girlhood to womanhood. We explore various aspects of this transformation, including the reactions to breast development, the significance of bra sizing and selection, as well as the onset of monthly periods. We also address the challenges associated with menstruation, such as coping with cramps, and examine natural remedi...

This episode delves into the topic of childhood upbringing by focusing on the crucial developmental stage experienced by children aged 9 to 14 years. These developmental changes include aspects such as the growth of pubic hair. Meaningful conversations regarding these changes should take place between mothers and daughters, fostering an environment where the young girl feels comfortable expressing...

On today's episode, we delve into the exciting topic of childhood upbringing by exploring the balanced approach to childhood upbringing using the case study of children aged 0-9 years old. We understand that many people may wonder what a child of this age can know and what differences exist between boys and girls at this stage in relation to upbringing. That's why we break it down into bas...