This Isn't Working

Last week , we talked about cutting away the parts of yourself that perform and please to get approval. But what about the deeper layer—the self-judgment that keeps you hiding parts of yourself because you’ve decided they’re too ugly, too bad, too weird, too gross to be seen? In this deeply vulnerable episode, Meg shares her journey from childhood body shame to secret binging, and the moment her p...

We always hear about adding to our relationships — better communication, more connection, new tools. But what if the relationship you want isn’t about adding… what if it’s about cutting away ? In this episode, I’m sharing the personal patterns I had to cut away in order to have the relationship I say I want: one built on transparency, honesty, and vulnerability. I’ll also share what the difference...

What happens when we avoid telling the truth — not just the big truths, but the small, daily ones about how we feel, what we want, and who we really are? In this episode, we explore a hard truth: the more we pretend in our relationships, the more we erode trust, intimacy, and connection. We talk about: Why pretending doesn’t create closeness — it creates distance The hidden cost of being “the agre...

Today we dive into a subtle but powerful dynamic that shapes so many of our choices: living according to other people’s needs, expectations, or comfort—often at the expense of our own desires. We say we want something, but we hesitate, delay, or quietly wait for someone else’s permission before moving forward. Which begs the question: WHOSE LIFE ARE YOU LIVING??? Through personal stories, we'll ex...

In today’s episode, I'm breaking down one of the most common reasons people stay stuck in patterns that don’t serve them: they’re solving the wrong problem! From clients who just want peace in their relationships to those who avoid hard conversations to keep the peace—I’m walking you through how this sneaky dynamic plays out and what to do instead. I’ll share some real-life examples (including one...

We all say we want change—better communication, more intimacy, a thriving business, a healthier body. But if you’ve been circling the same patterns over and over again, it’s time to ask: are you committed, or just interested? In this powerful episode, I break down the sneaky ways we stay stuck—not because we’re lazy, but because we’re still hedging. We’re waiting for the right moment, hoping for p...

When we’re young, we believe everything is possible. We dream big, imagine superpowers, and trust that we can have love, wealth, purpose, and joy.... EVERYTHING , all at once. But somewhere along the way, we’re taught to settle. To be grateful for “enough.” In this episode, we'll explore the unconscious beliefs we adopt that tell us it’s wrong to want more—more money, more love, more freedom. Thes...

How many times have you gotten upset with your partner—not because of what they actually said or did, but because of what you assumed they meant? Assumptions are at the root of so many relationship struggles. We assume we know what our partner meant, so we get defensive. We assume we know their intentions, so we judge them. We assume we know how they feel, so we react—without ever checking if any...

What if one day could change everything? What if you could finally see the thing that’s been keeping you stuck—the hidden manual you've been following that's shaping your life, relationships, health, finances… your success? And what if, once you saw it, you could change it? In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful realization that came up when my coach, Kim Guillory, and I decided to host Have It A...

Have you been avoiding the conversation???? You know the one... You keep putting it off because it feels too big, too uncomfortable, or too risky. Maybe it’s with your partner, a friend, a family member, a child, or even your boss. But avoiding it isn’t making things better. In this episode, we’re breaking down exactly how to have the hard conversation so you can walk away feeling clear instead of...

The holidays are marketed as the ‘most wonderful time of the year,’ but for many of us, they’re filled with stress, awkward moments, and the impossible pressure to make everything perfect. In this episode, we’re flipping the script and focusing on what really matters—connection. I’m sharing my own holiday journey, from rebelling against the traditions I felt trapped by to finally finding balance....

In today’s episode, we’re uncovering a powerful strategy for stopping arguments before they even begin. It’s all about recognizing that two perspectives can coexist—yours and your partner’s—and that both can be valid, even if they’re different. Too often, we get caught up in defending our experience as the only experience, but there’s a deeper connection to be found when we make room for both trut...

In this episode, we dive into a crucial aspect of relationships—understanding the difference between reaction and response, or put another way, conscious action versus impulsive reaction. I break down what these terms really mean and how we often get caught up in reactions driven by our emotional triggers, which can lead to conflict and disconnection in our relationships. We explore emotional trig...

In this episode I dive into how our perceptions and the stories we create in our minds can control our behavior and reactions in relationships. Often, we’re not responding to what’s actually happening but to the narrative we’ve built around it. I share a personal example from my relationship with Walt, where I realized I was reacting to a story rather than what was happening in the moment. I'll ex...

In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story about a moment in my relationship that challenged me to rethink how I show up with affection and vulnerability. When Walt brought up how I was responding to his attempts for affection, my initial reaction was resistance and blame. I’ll walk you through the feelings that surfaced, how I realized my judgments were based on old memories and past fears, an...

In this episode of This Isn’t Working, we’re diving into the idea of “unspoken agreements” in relationships—those expectations we carry around in our minds without even realizing it. We explore how these unspoken agreements can create tension and frustration when our partners don’t live up to the rules we’ve set in our heads. I share a personal story about how these unspoken expectations showed up...

In this episode of This Isn’t Working , we explore the power of turning your focus inward when you find yourself reacting to your partner. Meg shares a personal story about a recent experience with her partner, Walt, where she found herself caught up in trying to control an external situation which really had nothing to do with her feelings. Instead of continuing the cycle of reactivity, she reali...

In this week's episode I dive into a common, yet rarely discussed, issue in long-term relationships: the loneliness and isolation that can arise even (or maybe especially) after years of being together.  Episode Highlights: The Trap of "Should": We explore how the tendency to behave in ways we think we "should" or that are "good" for others can lead us away from our true selves. This dis...

Continuing on their quest for an inspiring relationship, Meg and Walt run into a pattern that leaves both unfulfilled. See how they maneuver through the patterns and have a luxurious weekend together. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

OK. So we've proven to each other that we have built up a system that can handle the triggers and whatever else gets in the way of loving each other. So now what? How do Meg and Walt present themselves to each other if there's nothing to fix? It's a little like being empty nesters. So now what? Listen in to hear how two people try to live fun and inspiration with each other. Hosted on Acast. See a...

In this episode, Meg and Walt show what it's like when - for Meg - another woman connects with Walt in a way that he needs, and -for Walt - another man gives Meg something she is really seeking. What to do? How to stay centered? ... Listen to find out how they handle themselves through the emotions that pop up. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when one person in a relationship really takes time for herself on a vacation, while her partner is home living the normal life? Meg was with her children on the Atlantic and she really wanted to be present to them and give herself the space she felt she needed. Was Walt big enough to handle the separation? Hmmmm. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Meg and Walt found that they could enjoy a holiday of 22 hours, once Walt dropped his expectations of what that was supposed to look like. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When the person you love is exploding in front of you at something she/he says you did, it's time to take a look at your contribution to the blow-up. This episode gives a method to take some of the pain away from what causes these whirling emotions and most importantly, how to understand what is actually going on inside of us to cause these emotional exchanges. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/priva...

When we try to manager each other, there will always be an emotional fallout. In this episode we ran into some high emotions - publicly - but we learned what touched it off, and we learned that it made our love deeper. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.