This Is Not What I Had Planned

Here's your podcast summary in the established format: Ever wondered what questions you can and can't ask about trans people? In this episode, Connor and Carolyn tackle the most common FAQs they get asked - from bathroom etiquette to dead names, from medical costs to finding good doctors. They share honest answers about the practicalities: what happens when you use the wrong pronouns (spoiler: you...

Connor and his mum Carolyn dive deep into the medical side of transitioning, sharing their real experience navigating hormone blockers, testosterone, and top surgery from ages 15-18. They discuss the practical realities - from choosing between pills and injections to finding the right GP - whilst also tackling the recent Queensland legislation changes that have made access harder for young people....

Ever worried about whether your trans child will find love and happiness in relationships? The world can be a cruel place, so what can you do to make it better? In this episode, Connor and his mum Carolyn dive into the realities of dating and relationships as a trans person - from finding safe spaces to navigating when and how to share your identity with potential partners. They explore how Connor...

Trigger and potty mouth warning : Please note this episode discusses suicidal ideation for a brief moment. And sorry but we also drop a couple of F-bombs in this one. About this episode: Ever wondered how to help your child face the world when it feels like everyone's watching? In this episode, Connor and his mum Carolyn tackle the tough stuff - dealing with haters, building resilience, and suppor...

Trigger warning : In this episode we do speak about self harm as it relates to body mods, and the blurry line there can be between the two. If you're concerned about listening with your child, maybe listen first and decide if you think it's appropriate. ReachOut have some excellent resources about self harm here: https://au.reachout.com/mental-health-issues/selfharm/help-services-for-self-harm We...

Connor and Carolyn chat about the early days of social transition - from trying out new names at Starbucks to dealing with high school friend dramas. Lots of practical chat about what worked, what didn't, and why your mum might get a bit punchy at the markets (and why she'll never be sorry about it). The Good Stuff We Cover: • Why friends are usually a great first testing ground (and why that can...

Ever wondered how to start that conversation about gender identity with your family? You're not alone. In this episode, Connor and his mum Carolyn share their journey - from those first uncertain conversations to building a stronger relationship based on trust and understanding. They share the real stuff: the worries, the wins, and the stuff they both wish they'd handled better. Whether you're que...