The Worthiness Lab

In this episode, we explore how love languages can help — and how they can quietly limit us or loop us in complacent patterns. I’m unpacking the shadow side of relying too heavily on “this is just how I love,” how our primary love language may be connected to what we didn’t receive growing up, and why real intimacy requires emotional range. We’ll also explore alternative love languages — like emot...

Today I’m joined by the incredible Karla Maree for a rich, expansive conversation on identity dissolution, going all-in on your dreams, alchemizing the shadow, and learning how to truly receive — and hold — wealth. Karla is the creator of the 7 Figure Business Blueprint, an AI-powered tool that bridges astrology and human design to give you an accessible business and life coach right at your finge...

What’s the difference between emotional intelligence and trauma conditioning? And how can you tell if you’re in a trauma bond — or just mistaking intensity for connection? In this episode, we break down the red flags and green flags in relationships, the subtle signs someone  thinks  they’re emotionally intelligent (but isn’t), and how trauma responses can masquerade as empathy, self-awareness, or...

In this episode, we dive into the science of relationship breakdown — including the Four Horsemen identified by the Gottman's — and what actually keeps couples together long-term. We talk covert protective responses, the role of the nervous system in conflict, and why repair attempts matter more than being right. If you’re tired of looping the same arguments or feeling the slow burn of unspoke...

This episode is about the discomfort of completion, the grief of outgrowing old identities, and the power of integrating who you’ve been before becoming someone new. We talk ritual, nervous system cues, and the descent that happens between chapters. This is an episode about giving yourself permission to hold on as long as you need to, and that life is less about letting go and more about integrati...

In this episode, we explore the difference between armor and true boundaries, how to discern in your body when something doesn’t feel clear, and why setting boundaries can feel terrifying (especially if belonging once meant self-abandonment). We talk nervous system cues, resentment as a messenger, communicating needs without blame, and how to hold your edges without closing your heart. Get into Lo...

Integration isn’t about becoming someone new — it’s about relating to your story differently. In this episode, we explore what it means to re-narrate your story from both the wound and the wiser self, and how doing so allows the past to inform you without defining you. This is a conversation about identity, authorship, and choosing who you are becoming. Get into Loving Without Losing Yourself for...

This is a simple, human-to-human love note for anyone navigating heartbreak or the quiet death of who they used to be. I’m in it too. No teaching, no fixing — just honesty about identity unraveling, grief, and the strange sacredness of becoming someone new. Loving Without Losing Yourself : a 7-week self-paced course that I poured my heart into in service to you cultivating deep long lasting relati...

Valentine’s Day can activate more than romance — it can press on the loneliness wound. In this episode, we explore the origins of the holiday (they'r surprising) and unpack why feelings of being unchosen, unseen, or alone can feel amplified this time of year. Learn how to sit with loneliness and explore the initiation and learning to be alone - while holding your heart open for love. Read more...

Inner child work isn’t about being dramatic, blaming your parents, or living in the past. It’s about understanding the parts of you that were shaped before you had language, agency, or choice — and how they still show up in your relationships today. In this episode, we explore what “inner child” actually means through the lens of attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and Internal Family Sy...

We’ve been taught the Hero’s Journey — overcome, conquer, achieve, return victorious. But what if your path doesn’t look like triumph… and looks more like descent? In this episode, we explore the Heroine’s Journey — the initiatory path of unraveling self-abandonment, reclaiming exiled parts, and returning to wholeness. This isn’t about slaying dragons. It’s about integrating the parts of you that...

What if that “chemistry” you feel is actually your attachment wound being activated? In this episode, we unpack the difference between chemistry, attraction, and true alignment — and how to tell whether you’re falling for someone… or falling into a familiar pattern. G et inside Loving Without Losing Yourself ($97) - a self-paced 7-week course that helps you do exactly what the title says.

Conscious relationship isn’t about being healed, untriggered, or getting it right all the time. It’s a practice that asks for presence, emotional capacity, differentiation, and a willingness to repair rather than perform. In this episode, we explore what conscious relationship actually requires — in the body, the nervous system, and the psyche — and why this path often feels more challenging than...

This episode is a love note to anyone who learned to soften their voice to stay safe, to stay loved, or to stay connected. Reclaiming Your Voice is an invitation to remember the medicine of your expression — not the polished version, not the performed one, but the voice that carries truth, sensation, and soul. The voice that may have gone quiet in moments where it wasn’t welcomed, mirrored, or pro...

People-pleasing doesn’t always look like saying yes to everything. Sometimes it looks like over-explaining, managing other people’s emotions, or silencing your truth to keep the peace. In this episode, we explore the subtle, often socially rewarded ways people-pleasing continues to shape your relationships, decisions, and sense of self — even if you’ve done years of personal growth or therapy. We’...

If you have ever wondered if you might be abandoning yourself to maintain connection and belonging (welcome to the human experience), this episode is for you. Purchase Loving Without Losing Yourself ($97) Launching February 10th Grab your free copy of the workbook/ebook on how people-pleasing is connected to the nervous system Here's the link to the book I mentioned, Conscious Loving by Gay an...

This episode is the kickoff episode to a month-long podcast series on Loving Without Losing Yourself - and starting with a super practical and direct episode on how to discern between your intutition versus trauma! Purchase or read more about Loving Without Losing Yourself ($97)

Raya Friesen is a holistic health practitioner and in this episode we sit down to explore the profound ways our bodies hold unprocessed emotion—and how this shapes everything from posture to pain, energy, and self-protection. We trace her journey from conventional physiotherapy into the creation of the Lumina Method , a unique whole-body approach that integrates stored emotional experiences with p...

Ariana Fotinakis   (she/her) is a woman of mixed ancestry, with Anishinaabe and Greek roots. As a trauma-informed coach, founder of Decolonize and Rize, and breathwork facilitator, Ariana brings a grounded, gentle, and compassionate approach that supports her clients in their healing and decolonial journeys. Since 2013 she has supported 100s of clients across the globe with transformational change...

In this episode I talk about navigating the both/and of change and transformation, and how we can practice opening to hold more positive energy in our bodies and the nervous system. Check out my course, Loving Without Losing Yourself - a 7-week self-paced course, for only $97 to help you navigate upper limits and open into conscious relationship without self abandonment.

Next up on the quick hit talking about all things navigating change, transition and being in the chrysalis of life - in this episode I speak to the grief of letting yourself change, but also the sincere truth that you have this one wild and precious life and keeping the awareness of death close can be what helps your heart hold on to the truth of who you are becoming. If you are on a journey of be...

This episode is a quick 20 minute hit of a multi-part series coming up talking about navigating change, life transition and this idea of stripping away an old version of self to expand towards what's next. If you're in the chrysalis of life, this episode is for you. It's also an invitation to join me September 19-22nd on Bowen Island for a retreat devoted to this unfolding. Read more a...

Amy Young is a coach and mentor dedicated to helping women navigate significant life changes and personal awakenings. Having experienced the depths herself, Amy offers a relatable perspective on the often solitary and humbling journey of embracing Truth, and is a powerful pillar and lighthouse as women navigate the messy middle of the unknown. In this episode, we delve into embracing discomfort an...

This solo episode is about how to face the inner critic and learn to be kind to yourself. The inner critic can be a strong inner dialogue that does a really good job of undermining your self-worth, and there are a lot of layers! This episode is focused slightly more on practical advice for building a relationship with this part of you so that you can learn to relate to yourself in a new way. Enjoy...

Jaime is a multidimensional human, mother, intuitive channel, and spiritual guide here to support people into their soul mission and expansion. In this episode, we explore themes of personal growth, healing, and the journey of becoming one's most expressed self. We discuss the idea of readiness to "come out of the trenches," releasing old paradigms, and the impact of our conditioning that keeps us...