The Reconciled Relationships Podcast

"My daughter said she needs space. It's been eight months. How long am I supposed to wait before I reach out again? And what do I even say?" So many of you have asked me some version of this question, so this episode is for all of you. Waiting while your adult child asks for space? Let's talk about your next step. Book a Heart-to-Heart Consultation: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ?utm_source=p...

You've apologized to your estranged adult child, maybe more than once. You've listened, taken responsibility, given them space, and tried to make things right. And nothing has changed. So what do you do when your apology is never enough? Ready to stop feeling stuck? Apply for the Breakthrough Accelerator (next group starts November 2): https://www.sally-harris.com/BreakthroughAccelerator?utm_sourc...

Have you prayed over your estranged adult child, surrendered them to God, and then found yourself taking it right back? You're not alone. For a mom whose child has walked away, surrender can be one of the hardest things she'll ever do. In this episode of The Sally Harris Show, I answer a question I hear all the time: "How do I actually surrender?" We talk about why letting go feels so hard, the si...

Done waiting? Join the Breakthrough Accelerator. Our next group starts Nov 2: https://www.sally-harris.com/BreakthroughAccelerator?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=libsyn&utm_campaign=accelerator&utm_content=stopped-waiting Are you still waiting for your estranged adult child to change before you can finally feel peace? Maybe you've spent months or even years checking your phone, replaying conversati...

Your husband can't fix this pain, and you don't have to carry it alone. When your adult child is estranged, the pain can feel unbearable. But what happens when your husband doesn't seem to understand what you're going through? While you're grieving the silence, worrying about your child, and struggling to get through each day, he seems to be carrying on with life as usual. Does he even care? In th...

The holidays are supposed to be filled with joy, family, and togetherness. But when your adult child isn't speaking to you, Thanksgiving and Christmas can feel like some of the loneliest days of the year. How do you get through the holidays when there's an empty chair at the table? When everyone else is celebrating, but you're just trying to survive? In this episode of The Sally Harris Show, Sally...

Ready to stop putting your life on hold? The Breakthrough Accelerator is a six-week, small-group coaching experience for just SIX moms. Apply here: https://www.sally-harris.com/BreakthroughAccelerator?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=libsyn&utm_campaign=accelerator&utm_content=didnt-tell-me Why did your adult child cut you off without telling you what was wrong? Maybe you've replayed every conversati...

If you're feeling ready for support and want to learn more about working together, start with a short application for a Heart-to-Heart Consultation: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=libsyn&utm_campaign=consult&utm_content=criticizes-everything Does it feel like your adult child criticizes everything you do? Your tone. Your advice. The way you parented. Sometimes it...

Are you exhausted from chasing your estranged adult child—sending the texts, trying to keep the peace, over-apologizing, or constantly wondering what you can do to fix the relationship? Sometimes the harder we chase, the more stuck we become. In this episode, I'm talking about what can happen when you stop chasing your adult child and start choosing YOU. We'll talk about breaking the cycle of reje...

If you're feeling ready for support and want to learn more about working together, I invite you to start with a short application. From there, you'll receive next steps to book your Heart-to-Heart Consultation. Start here: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ When your adult child disrespects you, do you find yourself defending yourself, explaining your intentions, or getting pulled into another ar...

Do you ever get to tell your estranged adult child how much they hurt you? When your adult child finally opens the door to reconnection, you may feel enormous pressure to listen, stay calm, and make the most of the opportunity. But underneath all of that may be another question: What about me? Your grief matters. Your feelings matter. And wanting your adult child to care about your inner world doe...

Is my adult child's estrangement my fault? If you've ever laid awake replaying your parenting mistakes, wondering what you should have done differently or asking yourself whether YOU are the reason your adult child walked away, this episode is for you. Mom guilt can become incredibly heavy during estrangement. Maybe there are things you wish you could go back and change. Maybe there's an apology y...

What does a mom do when years go by and she still hasn't heard her daughter's voice? In this episode of The Sally Harris Show, I sit down with a mom who has been estranged from her daughter for more than six years. She shares the heartbreak of missed birthdays, holidays, graduations, unanswered attempts to reconnect, and eventually learning that her daughter had changed her phone number. But this...

Are you constantly wondering what to say to your estranged adult child? Maybe you've rewritten the same text five times, drafted an apology you're afraid to send, or keep searching for the perfect words that might finally fix the relationship. But what if the next right step isn't another text, letter, apology, or explanation? In this video, I'm sharing what to do instead. So many moms of estrange...

If your adult child came back into your life today, who would they find? When you're estranged from your adult son or daughter, it's easy to spend so much time wondering when they'll come back, whether they'll understand your heart, or if they'll ever notice how much you've changed. But there's another question that may be even more important: Who are you becoming while you wait? In this episode o...

If your adult child has stopped speaking to you, pulled away, or cut off contact, you may be wondering: Am I the only mom going through this? You're surrounded by families who seem fine. You sit in church, attend holidays, go to work, and answer questions about your children while carrying a heartbreak that very few people can see. In this video, I'm talking about the hidden grief of estrangement...

Your estranged adult child has asked for space. You don't want to chase them, beg for a relationship, or keep reaching out when they've made it clear they want distance. But what are you supposed to do in the meantime? In this Q&A episode of The Sally Harris Show, I'm answering a mom who has experienced 18 years of hurt in her relationship with her adult daughter. After another painful conflict, h...

Will the pain of estrangement ever go away? If your adult child has stopped talking to you, cut off contact, or created distance in your relationship, you may wonder if you'll ever feel like yourself again. In this episode, I'm talking about what healing from an estranged adult child actually looks like — and why healing doesn't mean you stop loving your child, missing them, praying for them, or h...

Your estranged adult child is talking to you again—but the walls are still up. What do you do now? In this episode of The Sally Harris Show, I'm answering a mom whose daughter has started attending family gatherings again after a year of no contact. Her daughter is cordial, but distant. She gives short answers, talks mostly with her sibling, and doesn't seem ready to let Mom back in. So how do you...

What if your estranged son or daughter came back tomorrow? Would you be ready? When you're estranged from an adult child, it's easy to spend months or even years focused on one thing: reconciliation. You wait for the phone call. You hope for the text. You pray for the relationship to be restored. But there's another question I believe every estranged mom needs to ask: Who do I want to become befor...

If your adult child won't talk to you and you're carrying guilt over the mistakes you made as a mom, this conversation is for you. Adult child estrangement can leave a mother replaying the past over and over: What did I do wrong? Was this my fault? Should I have handled things differently? How do I apologize? And how do I forgive myself when my adult child still doesn't want a relationship with me...

If you're estranged from your adult child—or walking through a difficult relationship with them—you may feel like you're constantly trying to say the right thing, do the right thing, and somehow fix what's broken. I know that feeling. For years, I held tightly to the outcome I wanted with my daughter. I replayed conversations, rehearsed what I would say, prayed the same prayers, and wondered what...

What if holding onto hope for your estranged adult child is actually making the pain worse? In today's Q&A episode of The Sally Harris Show, a mom asks a question I know many of you have wrestled with: "I've decided not to have hope anymore. Having hope keeps the hurt stirred up—and letting go of it is working for me. Thoughts?" There is a difference between living your life while trusting God and...

What happens when your adult child comes back… but the words they say still leave you questioning yourself? After years of estrangement, my daughter and I were rebuilding our relationship when she said four words I'll never forget: "You were too needy." She wasn't angry. She wasn't attacking me. She was simply telling me how she had experienced me during a season of our relationship. But those fou...

What happens when you stop reacting to your adult daughter's emotional highs and lows? In this episode of The Sally Harris Show, I sit down with a mom who spent years trying to understand what went wrong in a once-close relationship with her daughter. She questioned herself, tried different approaches, wrote letters, and searched for answers—but the relationship continued to feel unpredictable and...