The R Spot with Iyanla

This week’s episode is all about mothers-in-law, when two women tell Iyanla that they’re both in conflict with their partners’ overbearing mother. The first caller feels abandoned by her own family and her husband, leading to a revolutionary breakdown. Iyanla’s second caller is dealing with a mother who micromanages everything, texting about every detail, like if her son has eaten for the day. Do...

Iyanla’s caller this week is dealing with two major issues: An absentee partner and family members who are recently estranged. The caller recently lost her mother and during the months before the end, she went to take care of her. She now feels disconnected from the rest of her family, and in the meantime, her partner stayed at their home and never visited or supported her. While the caller is uns...

This week’s callers might seem very different on the surface: The first experienced abuse as a child and keeps finding herself in abusive relationships, while the second caller had a happy home life, but feels that she’s not being loved the way she needs to. But, as Iyanla gets deep into the conversations with both callers, she realizes that they’re both dealing with a similar issue: The struggle...

Two women reach out to Iyanla today about similar issues: Feeling lost in their relationships with their husbands. The first caller’s husband told her that he wants to have multiple wives, completely out of nowhere. Now she’s not sure how to stay and deal with it, or leave him. Iyanla’s second caller has been a victim of physical and verbal abuse from a man who doesn’t help her raise their kids. B...

When a caller joins Iyanla to express his fear about ending his marriage, it becomes apparent that he’s got no exit strategy in place. The caller is unable to take ownership of his desire to end the relationship, which means he might not actually be ready to move on. And, as Iyanla digs deeper, she uncovers that he may be getting emotionally blackmailed. So, to get to the core of his fear of the f...

Iyanla shares a very personal story about her relationship with her daughter, which helps spark a conversation on releasing control of a situation in order to heal it. Iyanla’s first caller is a divorced father who desperately wants his daughter to rekindle a relationship with her mother, but he’s plagued by guilt over mishandling the situation. Then, a second caller is a fixer, always wanting to...

Iyanla’s heard the same relationship issue again and again – when people self-diagnose the problem, which ultimately leads to misdiagnosis. In this episode, Iyanla’s first caller is a successful businesswoman who keeps finding herself attracting partners who battle drug addictions. A second caller has convinced herself that her marriage is falling apart due to her anxious vs. avoidant attachment s...

Iyanla’s latest caller has a lot going on – she’s currently pregnant and asked her husband for a divorce, but on top of that, she’s also lost her dream job and has been struggling financially. But the problem really comes to the forefront when Iyanla askes her… “What do you want?” This week on The R Spot, Iyanla deep dives into admitting when you’ve made a mess of things, and her secret solution t...

One caller is left wondering whether or not he should leave his marriage in order to gain a clear peace of mind. He feels selfish for wanting to separate from his partner that he currently has four children with. Another caller wants her partner to value and appreciate her. But should she keep her family together, or leave the rocky and abusive relationship, knowing that he has cheated on her? Iya...

Iyanla welcomes two new callers this week, and listens in as they each look for the answer on how to have healthy relationships given their toxic situations. The first woman is trying to figure out how she can continue having a relationship with a partner who is attracted to substance abuse. The second caller is a woman who is trying to attract better relationships and stop ending up with guys who...

Iyanla dives deep into sibling and parental relationships in an episode with a single caller who is having a breakdown with her “Guardian.” The caller, a 29-year-old woman was raised by her older sister after their mother died at a young age. Now, the caller resents her sister for the way she was raised – with physical and emotional abuse that led to a combative adult relationship. Iyanla’s caller...

Two callers seek Iyanla’s guidance this week, each looking for the answer on whether to stay or go in their relationships. The first woman has recently been betrayed by her husband for the second time, and she’s not sure if she can go through the heartbreak again. The second caller, a woman who continuously breaks up and gets back together with her partner feels as though she’s only sticking aroun...

When a young woman calls in search of help finding her place in the world, Iyanla shares a personal story that sparks an idea – Maybe what’s missing today is a type of Auntie guidance where the past generations share their knowledge and experiences with young women. So, Iyanla shares her wisdom with the first caller, a woman who feels unhappy in her current life path. Then, Iyanla dives deep into...

This week, Iyanla explores the idea of the broken parts of ourselves that everyone holds inside them, yearning for what they never got as children. Iyanla’s first caller is a woman who feels like she can’t heal the broken parts inside of her, even though she can recognize that there’s a problem. And the second caller desperately wants to be able to love and take care of her mom, who is ill, but ca...

When a struggling young man calls in with issues surrounding his own identity, Iyanla finds a way to get to the core of the issue. Her caller today feels like he’s constantly held down by his mother and sister, who diminish him as less of a man. Unfortunately, he’s financial dependent on his mother, and feels more like her emotional partner rather than her son, so isn’t sure how to stand up and be...

Iyanla noticed a pattern – whether it’s socks or a pair of pants, what she puts inside the wash is exactly what she gets back out. So when two struggling callers share their experiences with Iyanla, she decides it’s time to look at what they’re putting into their relationships from the start. The first woman feels like she’s putting her all into every romantic relationship she’s had, but when she...

In an episode all about shifting your perspective, Iyanla’s caller this week feels as though she’s the black sheep of the family, and can’t have a good relationship with her brother. After years of being mistreated and told she is always wrong, the caller is still afraid that if she lets go of the relationship, it may never heal. But to help guide the guest on the journey of acceptance, Iyanla sha...

When two callers join Iyanla for conversations about their problems with family, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue: Both women are dealing with learned behaviors where they put everyone else’s happiness above their own. The first caller has given up her career, friends and her life across the country to move home and take care of her grandfather, when her mother and aunt live nearby themselves...

When two women share their on-the-rocks marriage problems, Iyanla tells them it’s time to admit what they already know. The first caller’s husband is blaming ADHD as a reason for a lack of intimacy, while the second woman’s husband sometimes ignores her for days at a time in their own home. Both women learn to pull up their big girl panties and confront the situations head on. Do you want to be on...

This week, two callers are unsure if they should put up with behavior they’ve been unhappy with from their partners. The first guest feels like her partner has lied to her about being divorced, and that’s a huge no-no for her. Then, another caller believes her partner’s kids and ex-wife are the problem in her relationship, but Iyanla thinks the issue is with her judgement of the situation. Iyanla...

Iyanla says that sometimes one of the hardest things to do is to accept that people can come from toxic roots, and that it’s their job to uproot the toxicity. This week, two sisters join Iyanla for an extended episode where they share their own family traumas, ranging from emotional to physical abuse. Now, as adults, both sisters want to figure out how to have a relationship with their toxic paren...

Iyanla shares the story of her estranged relationship with her sister, which changed her view of every woman who enters her life. So when two women call in with breakdowns in relationship with their own sisters, Iyanla is ready to listen. The first caller recently learned that her and her sister had different biological fathers, but she doesn’t know how to bring it up to her sister for fear of her...

In a powerful and hopefully-enlightening episode, Iyanla speaks with a father who was former military, and is now struggling with a divorce. He’s worried that his two adult children weren’t given a good life and may end up resenting him for his choice to leave their mother, even though it was best for him. Iyanla finds the real core of the issue and helps the caller, and maybe more listeners out t...

This week, two callers have set themselves up for experiencing exactly what they don’t want in their relationships. One caller is dating a man who has a son, while she doesn’t ever want children – yet she believes the issue is with her partner. The second caller is considering returning to a toxic relationship because of the pressure from her children and her ex. Iyanla recognizes the issue in bot...

Two callers this week believe their problems are in their current situations – one who is a self-proclaimed people pleaser, and the other, a returning caller who can’t seem to make progress in fixing her life. However, Iyanla notices that they’re both dealing with scattered thoughts. Both callers have been traumatized and must ask for the help they need to heal. Do you want to be on the podcast? F...