The R Spot with Iyanla

With a second season and a fun new format, Iyanla returns to dive into four caller’s issues in a single episode by asking the question: Is it him, or is it you? Each caller is dealing with something in their relationship: A partner who won’t commit, a lack of trust and even a relationship that might already be dead before it’s even really begun. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on s...

Taking an important lesson from her interview with Jada Pinkett Smith, Iyanla deep dives into the importance of self worth and where it comes from. Two callers join to discuss issues in their own self image – The first had a baby with a man she no longer wants to be with, but is keeping him in her life for the kids. And the second caller was waiting around for a man she knew didn’t want a serious...

Iyanla is back and ready to dive into more relationships for the second season of The R Spot, complete with some extra flavor for her “soup” with rapid fire call-ins and one-on-one special guests. Join her every Wednesday as she talks to you, the listeners, about your relationship issues. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In an episode all about shifting your perspective, Iyanla’s caller this week feels as though she’s the black sheep of the family, and can’t have a good relationship with her brother. After years of being mistreated and told she is always wrong, the caller is still afraid that if she lets go of the relationship, it may never heal. But to help guide the guest on the journey of acceptance, Iyanla sha...

In this intimate one-on-one with Jada Pinkett Smith Iyanla and Jada dive deep into the actresses self journey toward healing beyond the camera. In this magnetic and vulnerable conversation Jada discusses her shame about depression, forgiving her parents, and how her absent father taught her the ability to withstand hard life truths. Jada also reveals her transformative experience with plant medici...

When two callers join Iyanla for conversations about their problems with family, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue: Both women are dealing with learned behaviors where they put everyone else’s happiness above their own. The first caller has given up her career, friends and her life across the country to move home and take care of her grandfather, when her mother and aunt live nearby themselves...

When two women share their on-the-rocks marriage problems, Iyanla tells them it’s time to admit what they already know. The first caller’s husband is blaming ADHD as a reason for a lack of intimacy, while the second woman’s husband sometimes ignores her for days at a time in their own home. Both women learn to pull up their big girl panties and confront the situations head on. Do you want to be on...

What people experience as a child can have resonating ramifications for how they develop into adulthood. Two callers this week are working through their childhood traumas. One woman keeps having flashbacks to degrading and mean comments her mother made when she was young, and she feels like she can’t move on from it. Then, a second caller wants to be close to his parents, but feels like they never...

Blindsided by a sudden breakup shortly after closing the gap on a long distance relationship, one caller is left heartbroken and confused by the continued mixed messages. Another caller is certain her masculine energy is preventing her from attracting the ideal man. Iyanla has some guidance for the both of them: Choose yourself, and grow some lady balls! It just might help them both find a relatio...

Callers this week are feeling unfulfilled in their romantic relationships, but can’t get up the courage to make a change despite clear issues. Iyanla shares a story of a hound dog that has a deeper message that may help these callers make a decision with their husbands.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @Iy...

This week’s callers think there are no more good single men out there. One woman is only attracting men who take and never give in the relationship, and now she measures her relationships as a transaction. Then, the second caller believes she’ll never find what she wants in a partner, and because of that ends up finding men who leave her. Iyanla takes it all the way back to the root, diving into e...

After sharing news about her relationship with her daughter, Iyanla invites two callers to examine their desire to cut their mothers out of their lives. What may seem like an easy way to move on turns into an exercise in forgiveness and the recognition of their own dark sides. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitte...

Iyanla shares a very personal story about her relationship with her daughter, which helps spark a conversation on releasing control of a situation in order to heal it. Iyanla’s first caller is a divorced father who desperately wants his daughter to rekindle a relationship with her mother, but he’s plagued by guilt over mishandling the situation. Then, a second caller is a fixer, always wanting to...

Iyanla’s latest caller has a lot going on – she’s currently pregnant and asked her husband for a divorce, but on top of that, she’s also lost her dream job and has been struggling financially. But the problem really comes to the forefront when Iyanla askes her… “What do you want?” This week on The R Spot, Iyanla deep dives into admitting when you’ve made a mess of things, and her secret solution t...

In a powerful and hopefully-enlightening episode, Iyanla speaks with a father who was former military, and is now struggling with a divorce. He’s worried that his two adult children weren’t given a good life and may end up resenting him for his choice to leave their mother, even though it was best for him. Iyanla finds the real core of the issue and helps the caller, and maybe more listeners out t...

In the final episode of Season one of The R Spot, Iyanla reflects on an important lesson with Two women who want to discuss boundaries for very different situations. The first caller feels like she has to set a strict boundary with her stepmother, who she is in conflict with. And the second caller feels like her boundaries are constantly violated at work, so much so that she gets angry about it. I...

A young man calls Iyanla this week, looking for help in navigating the relationships with his friends and family members who all seemingly turned on him unexpectedly. However, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue and learns that the caller was keeping a few secrets, not only from her, but from his friends and family that might have caused the blow up. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyan...

When two women call Iyanla looking for advice on what to do about moving on from their current relationships, Iyanla lets them know that first, she doesn’t give advice, and second, that they should be listening to their hearts. One caller is torn about blocking her ex-husband on social media because she views herself as a good Christian woman, and the second caller uprooted her whole life for a dr...

This week, a struggling woman calls Iyanla looking to learn how she can be happy being single, but as Iyanla learns more about the caller’s situation, it becomes apparent that there’s more to the story. The caller shares the heartbreaking experience of her father’s death, and learns that her relationship being transactional might have some huge consequences for her happiness going forward. Do you...

Iyanla’s first caller this week is a woman who kept the identity of her child’s father a secret, and now ends up with a daughter who feels like she’s been lied to. Then, another caller with six children has recently forced her partner out of the house because of “poor communication.” But Iyanla gets her to admit that she still loves him, and maybe has made a few mistakes of her own. Do you want to...

This week, two callers reach out to Iyanla to share their situations. The first woman is in a relationship with a man who has never introduced her to any of his family, and only meets her at hotels for the weekend. Iyanla thinks there might be something suspicious there. Then, the second caller has her abusive mother living in her home as a favor. In both instances, Iyanla warns the callers that b...

A mother is at her wit’s end with her son, who is now lashing out at her and calling her names. Despite the caller’s best efforts to be a good mother and provide everything for her son, who she adopted and raised as her own, things in their relationship have devolved to threats of violence. Iyanla guides the caller toward letting her heart break first, and then finding a way to move forward. Do yo...

Two callers join Iyanla this week to recount their stories about how poor communication with their boyfriends has caused the downfall of their relationships. However, when Iyanla hears what’s really going on… She’s not so sure it’s a communication issue. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant faceb...

This week, Iyanla dedicates an episode to Grandma Schnookums – a particular type of elder woman of an older generation. Iyanla’s caller is a 30-year-old man who is in conflict with his grandmother after calling her out for being rude and embarrassing on Facebook. But Iyanla takes the conversation down an unexpected route – Should the caller be taking 100% of the responsibility for the breakdown of...

Two callers this week believe they can’t get over their relationships. The first woman, only 26 years old, is still hung up on her ex who chose a dog over her. And the second caller got re-married to her ex-husband, but is now seeking a second divorce after learning he paid for sex.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram &...