The Hook Up

Have you ever dated someone who's family was too involved, or a bit too close? (Anna Paul and Atis???) Whether it’s your own or your partners - we hear how families with no boundaries, cultural/religious differences, and mummy’s boys/daddy’s girls have messed with your love life. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au...

If you’re looking to read about queer joy, pain, heartbreak, love and hot af sex - A Language Of Limbs is for you. The story follows two lives over three decades as they navigate their queer identities, the beginning of Mardi Gras and the AIDs epidemic.  Dee chats to author Dylin Hardcastle about the process of writing their novel, portraying queer sex and the importance of trans joy.  DM us your...

Everyone’s talking about Netflix’s new crime drama Adolescence atm. The series is about a teenage boy accused of murdering a female classmate and it’s triggered a huge cultural conversation around toxic masculinity, incels and the gender divide.  Ryder Jack from Tomorrow Man joins Dee and Pip to unpack your thoughts on the series and your experiences as guys dating women. SHOW NOTES: Tomorrow Man...

If you’re someone who struggles to talk about sex, or you feel uncomfortable asking for what you want (or don’t want) in the bedroom, this ep is for you! Psychologist and sexologist Laura Lee has some great tips to get you yapping your way into a hotter sex life.  SHOW NOTES: Laura Lee Website Resources DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email u...

'Good sex' is one of those things where you kinda just know it when you have it. But how do YOU define it? From communication, safety and enthusiasm to compatibility, dirty talk and aftercare - we hear what you reckon makes someone good in bed. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produ...

A new groundbreaking study has found that the most common vaginal infection bacterial vaginosis (BV) is actually an STI. This is huge news! Especially if you’re someone who keeps getting BV again and again.  In this ep, Dee chats to the two lead researchers behind the study Professor Cat Bradshaw and Dr Lenka Vodstrcil to find out everything we need to know.  SHOW NOTES: Professor Cat and Dr Lenka...

There’s new research saying that women who use dating apps are more likely to get cosmetic procedures. So how are you feeling about getting work done and dating?? We hear from you about whether it’s affecting your body image, your partners, and your experience on the apps. SHOW NOTES: Research on dating apps and cosmetic procedures https://www.unisa.edu.au/media-centre/Releases/2025/swipe-style-su...

Recently we did an ep on post nut clarity and 50% of you said you felt shame, disgust or embarrassment after orgasming. So in this ep, sex therapist Aleks Trkulja chats to Dee about why it’s so common and how to work through those feelings.  SHOW NOTES: Post Nut Clarity vodcast DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au Th...

Have you ever finished and had a massive realisation about your life, a partner, your sexuality? Maybe you find energy, peace and creativity? Or do you get hit with a wave of shame, disgust, and anxiety?  We find out what happens when you cum to your senses and experience post nut clarity. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@a...

In our last ep we spoke about game playing in dating - things like playing hard to get, posting thirst traps, not double texting, withholding sex for the 5th date etc. 86% of you said you don’t do it, but what does the research show? And is ‘game playing’ as problematic as you said? Dee chats to psychology and relationship researcher Dr Beatrice Alba to find out.  DM us your thoughts, questions, t...

From never double texting and taking days to respond back, to giving mixed signals and posting thirst traps just to get a reaction - we hear how you feel about “doing the dance”, and if playing hard to get is a necessity in dating, or if it’s just toxic. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podc...

Mardi Gras celebrations kick off in Australia this weekend - so whether it’s the parade, hooking up at after-parties, or finding your people - here’s everything you need to know about the LGBTQIA+ protest/celebration with author and psychologist Dr Chris Cheers.  SHOW NOTES: Sydney Mardi Gras details DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us:...

Have you ever set your friends up on a date? 89% of you would rather meet people this way than use dating apps, but there are some rules you gotta know before you play matchmaker. We hear your stories, advice and tips for setting up mates. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced b...

In our last ep , we spoke about how young people are the most politically divided generation ever. So why are guys turning to the right and becoming more traditional? And if progressive feminist women are choosing to be single is that even a bad thing?  In this episode, Dee unpacks what's going on for men with Clinical Psych Dr Zac Seidler. SHOW NOTES: Last year's ep with Zac: How To Date In The C...

Research shows that women are getting more progressive and men are becoming more conservative - so how is this growing political divide affecting your love life? We hear your experiences of right-wing dudes wokefishing on dates, and your takes on how the algorithm is making you want to quit dating altogether - and if going boy sober is a bad thing. SHOW NOTES: Research on gender divide in politics...

A lot of people think if you argue in your relationship it means something is wrong, but relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton says it’s actually a good thing - it just depends on how you fight. In this ep Dee Salmin gets all the advice from Lucille on how to deal with conflict with your partner in a healthy way.  SHOW NOTES:  Lucille's Instagram Lucille's book All In Gottman In...

‘Micro cheating’ is the new trend online, and everyone’s got a hot take on what it looks like. So what do you consider ‘micro cheating’? And is it worth ending a relationship over? DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri p...

A lot of the time if we’re struggling in our love lives, whether that’s attracting the wrong people, or ending up in bad relationships, we usually blame the other person/people.  But sometimes it has a lot to do with ourselves.  In this episode relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton chats to Dee about the ways we can unpack our bad dating habits and create the safe and healthy lo...

From moaning names and describing your hottest fantasies, we ask you what you think about dirty talk - what you love about it, what you hate about it, and how you reckon you can level up your vernacular in and out of the bedroom. SHOW NOTES: Articles on audio erotica:  https://www.allure.com/story/sensual-auralism-dirty-talk https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/58354/1/why-so-many-wom...

We’re back and we have a LOT to discuss - from debriefing our debauchery to hearing all about your summer secrets.  ALSO!!! Pls pls pls fill out our survey!! We want your feedback on the pod - what you’re loving, what you want to hear more of and what we can do to make it better. It only takes a few minutes and you can find it here —> SURVEY DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just ve...

A lot of you told us that you think you either have sexual chemistry with someone from the beginning or you don’t.  So if you’re dating/sleeping with someone and you feel like the spark just isn’t there, is it worth sticking around?  Sex coach Georgia Grace has A LOT to tell you. Plus, he gives us a spicy hot take and sings some original songs for you. cs, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  or...

Comedian Morgan Jay comes through the Hook Up studios to give us the sweet sweet sounds of autotune. Dee and Pip get the goss on his tour, dms, dirty talk and his open relationship.  Plus, he gives us a spicy hot take and sings some original songs for you. cs, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorde...

Content creator Evelyn Miller was born with complete uterus didelphys, a medical condition which means she has two vaginas. She has to use two tampons, can have two babies from two different guys at the same time and can have double the fun in her sex life. We chat to her about what her vulva looks like, how sex feels and what it's been like being an Only Fans creator with her husband. DM us your...

Tradwives are women who believe in traditional gender roles - they’re full time homemakers, living to serve their husbands and children. Now they’re going viral on tiktok, alongside their aesthetic carefree cottagecore lives.  We deep dive into the world of tradwives with author, content creator and kinky historian Esme Louise James to find out whether this trend is a dangerous fantasy that no one...

Loneliness, trust issues, cheating, and casual hook ups with colleagues - these are just a few of your experiences dating FIFO workers. For this episode, Dave Marchese from the Hack podcast brings us your stories. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded...