The High Conflict Blueprint | For Stepmoms Dealing with a Toxic or Narcissistic Ex

Stuck on the emotional rollercoaster of hoping that the high conflict ex will finally be reasonable?  In today’s conversation, I talk about why she keeps acting the way she does, why your expectations (however fair) keep getting crushed, and (most importantly) what to do about it.  If you’ve tried everything and nothing changes, this episode will get you unstuck. 👉 Episode Show Notes: highconflic...

Your partner won’t set boundaries with his ex – and you’re paying the price. Maybe he fears retaliation. Maybe he's terrified of conflict. Either way, it feels like the high conflict ex still has emotional control over your partner and far too much influence in your lives.  You’ve tried raising it gently. You’ve tried stepping in to help. But now you’re stuck in the middle and it’s eroding yo...

Struggling to set boundaries or hold them when she pushes back?  In this episode, you’ll learn how to create boundaries that actually work with the high conflict ex, and how to follow through, even if she escalates, badmouths you, or tries to guilt-trip you into giving in.  This is your practical, compassionate guide to taking your power back, protecting your peace, your relationship and your emot...

What do you do when everyone else believes her twisted stories... and you’re left looking like the problem?  In this episode, you’ll learn why high conflict people are so persuasive, even to professionals like therapists, teachers, and court officials.  I’ll explain why people fall for her version of events, why it feels like no one sees what you’re going through, and what to do when you feel eras...

Blindsided again by your partner’s ex?  What if I told you her chaos isn’t random – but actually follows patterns you can learn to spot and prepare for.  In this episode, I reveal the hidden patterns that make her actions more predictable than you think.  You’ll learn how to recognise common patterns like the “Pre-Event Blow-Up” and “Connection Disruptor,”  that explain seemingly random behaviour....

You know that feeling when her message comes through. You immediately feel sick.  You reread the message over and over, trying to work out what to say, what not to say, how to respond without making things worse. But somehow, it always escalates anyway. Well, there’s a reason for that. And it’s not you. It’s her. Because high conflict people don’t send messages to resolve anything. They send them...

Ever spent hours crafting the perfect response to your partner's high conflict ex, only to have it blow up in your face?  In this episode, I reveal the five biggest communication mistakes you’re making that keep you trapped in the conflict cycle.  You'll discover why your well-intentioned approaches backfire and set you up for endless drama.  By the end, you’ll be able to stop exhausting...

That text from your partner's ex can ruin your entire day.  But what if you could change that? When she criticises or blames you, it feels so personal – you keep trying to figure out what you've done wrong. But here's something that might change your perspective: Her actions aren't about you at all. In this episode, I'll show you how high conflict people distort reality an...

“Why can’t she just be normal?”  We’ve all asked that question – and today, I’m going to answer it.  I’ll walk you through what’s really behind the high conflict ex's chaotic behaviour, and why it’s not as random as it seems.  There’s a pattern. And once you see it, things make a lot more sense.  If you’re exhausted from trying to fix the unfixable, this is the shift you’ve been needing.  👉...

The show for stepmums (and stepmoms) who are done with the drama and manipulation of a high conflict ex. Hosted by a stepmum and certified coach who’s lived it.  In this episode, I'll explain why “normal” advice makes things worse with a high conflict ex, and why you need a totally different approach.  I'll show you a way through the drama that works. And over time, you'll find that...