The Frequency of Joy

Whether it's been one year since you graduated college or 10 odds are you've learned a lot and grown a lot since you were a bright eyed and bushy tailed college graduate. Since graduating I've lived in three different cities, made new friends, lost a few friends, and done a whole lot of learning on what it means to be an adult. Adulting is not something that ever comes with a manual...

This podcast episode is probably the most personal and vulnerable one I've put out, but I'm doing it in case anyone has encountered similar situations previously. There are certain life moments that are such curve balls they leave you feeling shocked and unable to (emotionally) move. And yet at the same time you aren't really given time to stop and process - life keeps moving forwar...

We've all more than likely stayed in situations, jobs, relationships long after we are no longer feeling fulfilled by them. We do this because there is a sense of comfort in remaining in the status quo. What we don't realize is the damage we are doing to ourselves by remaining in this situation we've outgrown. In worse case scenarios, this damage long outlives the situation we were...

New Years is upon us and with it a slew of New Years resolutions and intentions. As we are encouraged to hit the ground running this 2024, I wanted to give you some thoughts from the heart on lessons I learned the last few weeks of 2023 and how I'm taking them with me in this new year. If you're reading this and listening in my second year with this podcast thank you so much!! Please alw...

Somewhere, somehow, something changed. The things that used to excite you, now feel like one more item on the to-do list. Every day you wake up 5 minutes later until you just barely roll out of bed in time for work. There are subtle remains of your morning routine, but everything feels like a big jumble. Whether due to seasonal depression or adjusting to new change in your life, here are some tips...

This episode was recorded pre-NYC marathon, as I was feeling both incredibly excited, but also nervous at the daunting task that lay ahead - 26.2 miles. While this episode discusses me about to take on the NYC marathon, it is not running specific. There are many things in life that both excite us and make us nervous at taking them on - maybe it's moving to a new city, taking on a new job, sta...

The say that if you do what you love, you'll never work a day in your life and boy if it were only that easy. As kids we are encouraged to be curious, to try new things, to fail, to try again - to really just have fun in the journey. However as adults the pressure is on to figure out what you want to do for the rest of your life and stick with it. Yet many people find themselves in decades lo...

The NYC marathon is only 2 weeks away and this seemed like the perfect time to do some reflecting on what the past few weeks of marathon training have looked for me. A lot of these lesson are applicable even beyond the running world; from the importance of community to chasing big scary dreams and more! If you want a full on Q&A episode on all things marathon training let me know on Instagram!...

Seasons of change -- whether a change in relationship status, careers, general adult pathways-- can be difficult. Our first instinct may be to reject the situation or to question why a certain opportunity didn't present itself when it felt so perfect so...*aligned*. I've been through my fair share of these (and am currently going through so many shifts in my own life!!) so I thought I wo...

In today's episode we talk about how to listen to those intuitive nudges that begin to push in the direction of making a potentially uncertain (yet exciting!!) decision. How do you listen to it and move forward. From moving across the country to deciding to leave my corporate job, I walk you through how I navigate big seasons of change and figure out what opportunity feels most aligned with m...

In 2020 I moved to Jacksonville, FL. In 2021 I moved back to Chicago, my hometown. In 2023, I moved to NYC. Each city had it's own meaning to me and it was much needed for that season in my life and I could not be more grateful. At the end I get a little into what my second summer in NYC has been like compared to my first.  Connect with Jess on Tik Tok and IG: @ilayalith_jess Buy Spread Your...

While change is a natural part of life, it isn't always easy to deal with. Today we talk about growing pains and some of the strategies I've utilized to work through change in situations that leave me feeling disoriented, confused, sometimes even hurt. If you are recently going through a big change in your life then this is definitely the episode for you!! Connect with Jess on Tik Tok an...

We often hear that our thoughts manifest our reality, but is that really true? In this weeks episode we dive into that question through a visualization exercise to learn more about how may be interpreting the world around us. This episode includes a step-by-step-process of how identify negative thoughts, begin to address them, and also be intentional about how we choose to plan into the future. La...

Relationships can be some of the toughest, yet most fulfilling things that we have. These are 5 of the biggest lessons I learned in relationships that I wish I could go back and tell my high school self. These aren't just for romantic relationships, but are applicable across all areas of your life. They are my North Star, how I choose to show up as my best self while also providing ample grow...

We can pray, journal, visualize all day every day, but what do we do when we don't see any of our desires coming into fruition? In this episode we dive into what is happening behind the scenes, the lessons we need to learn in the meantime, and how to keep the hope in moments of rejection. I am so happy and blessed to be back recording and sharing with you all. If you like this episode, please...

From going to a mostly Latino elementary school to a predominantly white school for 8 years this is my story.  Latinidad, for me, has felt like a constant ebb and flow...a balancing act between being "too white" and "too ethnic" for the spaces I find myself in.  I am incredibly proud to be Latina and have been an advocate for greater representation in the corporate world, howev...

It's no secret that fear can hold us back from making decisions in our life and expanding our current existence in ways we can't even dare to imagine. In this episode, we dive deeper into  the fear of success and the fear of failure . We talk about what each of these is, how they manifest in your life, and what you can do to overcome them. Working through these sorts of limiting beliefs...

In this week's episode we talk about all things manifesting; from what it is to what it is not,  to tips that you can you use to start incorporating manifesting into your daily practice. Regardless of if you're a believer or a skeptic there is something in here for YOU! Connect with Jess on Tik Tok and IG: @ilayalith_jess Buy Spread Your Wings and FLI: How to Effectively Navigate College...

Life is inevitably full of change; both change that we seek out and change that is brought on by the forces that be. Unexpected change, especially can get us feeling in a bit of a rut spiraling into feelings of imposter syndrome, unworthiness, and more. In this episode, we talk about how to start getting over a rut by balancing treating ourselves with grace and acknowledging our raw and authentic...

In the moment it can be hard to know if a decision is the right you. You might way pros and cons, talk to your friends, or watch YouTube videos of people who’ve made similar decisions. The truth is, in the moment you will never know if a decision is 100% the right one, however I have discovered a life hack to tell me if I'm on the right path and that is… Join me this week as I let you on how...

It’s easy to see people doing things you wish you could do or want to do, but here’s the thing…what you see on social media or what they choose to share may not be the whole picture. I moved to NYC 8 months ago. People called me brave, adventurous, maybe even a little crazy. And I’ve shared a lot of the good; brand parterships, a basketball squad, happy hours with work, workout classes, but what I...

Have you ever felt like you are "good, but not good enough?" In this episode, I talk about how I've personally struggled with this concept. For example, I was "smart" for getting into the high school or college that I went to, but not "smart enough" to ever graduate with honors.  How do you overcome this feeling? And what does this mean for the 'crazy'...