The Childfree Connection

Brita's story is a raw and honest exploration of one of the most challenging scenarios in relationships: the discovery that one partner wants a child, and the other doesn't. She and her ex-husband started their romance young, with the societal script of "happily ever after plus baby" playing in the background. But as time went on, that traditional script began to unravel. In th...

Ever catch yourself in a spiral of anxiety and worry? If your answer is “no,” we want your secret! Chances are, at some point in the last few weeks, you found yourself overthinking about SOMETHING. As childfree individuals, society likes to warn us about our potentially regretful future. While these thoughts may sneak in from time to time, what about all the other pesky worries that line up in our...

Should you be shouting “I’m Childfree!” to the world? We think so! In this episode, we share some powerful reasons why it's important to be vocal about your childfree choice. Even if it doesn't come naturally to you, the benefits of sharing this aspect of your life can often outweigh any potential drawbacks. We'll explain exactly why. Rick reveals the stress his brother experiences...

Ericka didn't initially choose to be childfree. She spent 10 years navigating a challenging infertility journey, leaving her uncertain about her future. She grappled with concerns about not becoming a mother and feared her life might always feel incomplete. Ericka also faced the judgement and expectation from her faith based community. When joining my program, "Is Childfree For Me?"...

We're diving into the all-too-familiar rude comments that childfree people just can't seem to avoid. You know the ones – the hurtful, confusing, and downright insane remarks that make us shake our heads. These comments have become so ingrained in our society that people often don't realize just how insensitive they're being.  In this episode, we'll tackle gems like "W...

Do you enjoy using the bathroom without little hands banging on the door? We sure do! In this episode, we dive into the unexpected perks of living childfree. From enjoying your bathroom privacy to turning that spare room into anything you want—yes, even a stripper pole room!  We also open up about how imposter syndrome has thrown us into a sea of self-doubt, making us question if we should keep th...

Has a family member ever made passive aggressive comments about your decision not to have kids? These subtle jabs can make us feel undermined and stir up doubt and confusion about the childfree choice. Today you’ll meet Amanda, who shares her decade-long struggle with a mother-in-law unwilling to accept her childfree lifestyle. Amanda's story highlights the challenges many of us face when ext...

Ever felt a bit out of place in your friend circle because everyone else has kids? Or maybe you find yourself holding back in conversations? In this episode, we unleash the top reasons why it feels so good to be surrounded by childfree friends. It's so refreshing to connect with people who understand your frustrations, your wins and also share similar opinions. And let's face it, some of...

Ever been asked what you do with your free time as a childfree person? If not, get ready – it’s likely that you’ll eventually be hit with this baffling query. In this episode, we dive into why this question pops up and why our free time is still frowned upon by society. Regardless of these silly assumptions, you know we always turn the spotlight back to the joys of our childfree lifestyle. From ou...

Rick and I will be back next time but stick with me today because I have a very special bonus episode of "Is Childfree For Me?" where my program graduates share their personal story of how they found peace and confidence with the childfree choice. Today you will meet Charlotte, a 32 year old woman from Sweden, who’s anxiety intensified when her best friend announced her pregnancy. Charlo...

What happens when you tell your family that you decided NOT to have kids? In this episode, we explore the positive and sometimes uncomfortable reactions that our childfree community has received when they break the no kids news. We uncover a common lie that childfree people resort to when faced with relentless judgment or pressure. (Please comment if you’ve done this!) Plus, I share an example of...

Rick and I are on the struggle bus in this candid episode of The Childfree Connection Podcast! We're laying it all out as we unpack the recent challenges that life has thrown our way. We considered skipping this episode but instead found ourselves inspired to tackle a question we're frequently asked by the childfree community, "Is Childfree Life Easy?". Rick shares his insight...

Rick and I will be back next time but today I have a very special bonus episode of "Is Childfree For Me? " where my program graduates share their personal story of how they found peace and confidence with the childfree choice. Today you will meet Delilah. Do you ever feel like you keep pushing back the goal post when it comes to having kids? For example, you may think– I'll have kid...

Have you ever found yourself caught in the crossfire of defensiveness or judgment from parents? Or, maybe you have felt outcasted or overlooked? Rick and I have received so many negative comments from parents that we started wondering about the root of this divide between parents and those without kids. In this episode, we share the leading causes that will shed some light on this strange “competi...

In this episode, Rick and I dismantle the Top 5 Assumptions that society often casts on those of us living childfree – we debunk childfree myths and shed some light on the actual truth of the childfree lifestyle. We go from dispelling the notion of us being baby haters to challenging the prevailing misconception that all childfree people are rich. We share with you a very special encounter that un...

In this episode, we unpack the relentless pressure that STILL exists within our pronatalist society to convince childfree people to have kids. We dissect the origin of these pesky pressures and offer some insight in how to shoo them away or support others to do so.  Rick debuts his "poem writing" skills and reads a heartfelt-ish message for childfree people to enjoy. (wait till you hear...

In this Bonus Episode, I interview an alumni member of my program "Is Childfree For Me?" The intention of this episode is to explore the intricate journey of embracing a childfree life—a path that can be marked by uncertainty, anxiety, stress and profound introspection. Rick and I will be back next week but today, I have the privilege of chatting with Vera, a remarkable woman who found h...

As a childfree person, have you ever heard someone say that having a kid makes you a better person? (We've heard that a lot!) In today’s episode of The Childfree Connection Podcast, Rick shares a clip where the guest said exactly that -so, we’re going to dive into what a “better” person means and how is having children related to this supposed transformation?  Also, Rick wants to know if cele...

Are parents happier than those without children? If you had asked either of us in our 20s and 30s, we likely would have answered yes. I can still hear the refrain in my head: "You'll never be truly happy until you become a mom." This concept was so deeply ingrained in my mind that the possibility of it not being true didn't even occur to me. I simply assumed that my lack of des...

Does Childhood Affect Your Childfree Choice? Ina Garten “The Barefoot Contessa” did a recent interview where she spoke about her childfree choice and how she “did not want to recreate her childhood”. Rick and I were inspired to post about this on our social media accounts and decided to discuss if that was a reason for us as well.  Also in this first episode of 2024, we share some details of our N...

Will I be bored without kids? Rick and I were asked this question at a recent Holiday party. This is a common fear that is placed on childfree people along with the mindset that the only way not to be bored is to have children. We start exploring this topic with each other but also wonder if this fear has crossed your mind too? In this episode, Rick and I also discuss a recent headline where a chi...

We deserve to enjoy the Holiday Season! As childfree people, we have been conditioned to believe that the Holidays are “for the kids”. With all the pronatalism in media and social media during this season, it can be easy for childfree people to brush off the Holidays or feel a bit lost during this time.   In this episode, Rick and I discuss the joy of the Holiday Season and the importance of child...

Fear of future regret can be a common emotion in the childfree community. Unless you were 100% certain that you didn’t want kids from day one, your mind can automatically flow into the murky waters of the “what ifs”.  In this episode, Rick and I dive into the difference between feeling regret about the past and the fear of future regret once a person decides to be childfree. I discuss my experienc...

As childfree people, it's so important to practice gratitude about our lifestyle! In this episode, we discuss the state of the world and how our process is very different from parents. We share gratitude for having the time to focus on our health and wellness and the opportunity to heal ourselves or our relationship. We also welcome the opportunity for self-help and how we can grow as people....

When your friends have kids and you are childfree, it can instantly transform your friendship beyond what you may have imagined. In this episode, Rick and I identify some of the challenges that can arise once your friends begin to have children. You may realize that choosing a childfree life can mean losing commonality with your friends who become parents. How can you manage those inevitable chang...