The Ace Couple

TikTok told us that we’re Autistic. To be fair, we already had that theory ourselves...So just for fun let’s take the IDR Labs Autism Spectrum Test live on microphone!

Recently Michelle Obama confessed that she spent 10 years hating Barack. We don’t understand “marital hatred”, but it got us talking about commitment, the division of labor in relationships, and societal expectations that place a disproportional burden on women.

Lots of you asked us for more Asexual AITA, so here we are once again! Today we read and share our perspectives on 8 different Reddit stories that all pertain to asexuality.

The other half of Aces Playing at Attraction, Satan, shares their experience as a Chinese, femme-presenting Ace. We discuss everything from decoupling sex & sin, dating sims, genderqueerness, birth control, asexual discourse, and so much more!

Everybody is shipping #Wenclair. Netflix and the show’s cast are leaning into the queer community with interviews and “Wednesgay” drag events without actually showing us meaningful gay rep on screen. Meanwhile, Wednesday could and should be an AroAce icon.

Today we’re joined by Evie Lupine for a jam-packed episode where we discuss the intersections of kink and asexuality, her personal journey as a kinky Ace, asexual discrimination, the kink community being more welcoming to Aces than some Pride organizations and SO much more!

A bigoted op-ed was recently published on UnHerd entitled “Demisexuals are scared of sex: Desire has been purged from the modern dating scene”. It’s steeped in compulsory sexuality, rape culture, and ignorance as well as outright lies about demisexuality.

The history of the “Aces Invade Denmark” meme...and why it’s long past time to put it to rest.

Part two continued from last week of the Aromantic, Asexual representation in Koisenu Futari! A perfect ending to an unbelievably beautiful series.

We did it. We found the PERFECT AroAce rep! If you’re looking for fully grown, live-action adult, queer-platonic found family goodness with a couple who experience no romantic or sexual feelings, then look no further than J-drama Koisenu Futari.

Happy Ace Week & Disabled Ace Day! Today Mik shares zir experience as a Black, Disabled, “AAA Battery” with many of creative endeavors. We talk experiences of being asexual in the military, quoiromanticism, polyamory, becoming team lead of an all aspec stream team and so much more!

The Washington Post claims that marital hatred is normal and that everyone who’s been in a long-term relationship can relate. But IS it normal? Has EVERYONE experienced this? We’ve quarantined together for 2 1/2 years and haven’t experienced it, so we remain skeptical...

We watched The Owl House because the internet told us there was great AroAce rep. But there...wasn’t? The show was cute and undeniably queer. But we should praise it for what’s actually shown as opposed to what was “confirmed” off screen.

Once upon a time, a cartoon shark had a conversation with Satan (no, not THAT one...the other one) and realized he was asexual. But what does it mean to be a Christian Asexual?

We both had very awkward first Drag show experiences for very different reasons...but embarrassing events make for great stories! Plus, a somewhat related bonus story of Courtney’s very weird attempt to purchase a massage.

It is our one year podcast anniversary! A lot has happened in a single year, so let’s take a trip down memory lane.

Lucy Bludell AKA Games by Kinmoku is the disabled, gray-ace indie game dev who brought us the wonderful visual novel One Night Stand. In this episode, we talk about their personal journey, why an ace would make a game about a one night stand, queer representation in gaming, and her forthcoming game VIDEOVERSE!

Never Been Kissed by Timothy Janovsky has one of the best metaphors for oriented (, demi) asexuality that we’ve ever read. As a New Adult novel, it takes the conversations of sexual orientation a little further than YA books we’ve read with a demisexual character- which we appreciate very much!

On Reddit there is no shortage of straight people who think that marriage is a trap, they hate their partners, and they cheat on each other for “self-care”. We have no choice but to ask... ARE the straights OK!?

Christofascists HATE asexuals, and this isn’t new. For years, they’ve been saying that platonic marriage goes against God and should be illegal. And ironically, because of Obergefell v. Hodges (the landmark Supreme Court case that legalized same-sex marriage)...it might be.

Conservative Christians think marriage should be “conjugal” NOT “consent-based”. Religious lobbyists say marriage was the first institution created by God before man created government and is, therefore, based in religion and procreative sex, not love and autonomy.

The religious organizations opposing platonic marriage believe that sex is the #1 most important component to marriage. In their own words, procreative sex is more important than personal bodily autonomy. This is compulsory sexuality, amatonormativity, and rape culture.

83 religious, right-wing organizations signed a letter to Mitch McConnell condemning the Respect for Marriage act and citing “platonic marriage” as a “startling expansion of what marriage means”. Today, we break down the letter. Next week, we examine these organizations closer.

We lost a friend due to acephobia and other microaggressions that started to arise and spiraled out of control during a D&D campaign.

Time for an anonymous Q&A! We asked for questions via the NGL app and you delivered! We do our best to answer them all, but a few of them are complicated enough that they could be an entire episode on their own!