The 12/10 by Nadja Olivera

Last Thursday I had a random impulse. The half marathon was happening in Palma on Sunday, and something in me just knew I had to be there. I had never run more than 12 kilometers in my life. I had no training plan and no reason I could explain. So I said: universe, do your magic. And I signed up. In this episode I talk about what happened next. The amazing people I met on the side quest of getting...

For the past few days I have been in a weird funk. Procrastinating. Not knowing where to start. Feeling icky inside. Overwhelmed. Buying into the story that nothing is worth it and I am not enough. So instead of pretending I am not in one, I recorded this episode. Because so many of us think we should not be having funks at all. That the goal is to be happy 24 seven. But that is not just completel...

There are ninety days left in this year. Most of us will run them down to nothing. Halloween, then Christmas, then January first, where we finally lock in. Until we wait for spring. Until it is Christmas again. And the loop repeats. Not this year. In this episode I am talking about what I realized on my flight home from Greece, journaling at 30,000 feet, connecting with the woman I want to be on D...

This episode is different. No framework. No science. No stories. Just a letter. One I wrote for you. And for me. Listen to this whenever you doubt yourself. Whenever the old version no longer fits and the new one has not fully arrived yet. Whenever you need someone to see you, all the versions you have ever been, and say: you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Because honoring where you hav...

You do not need a DUI. You do not need a divorce. You do not need a diagnosis. You do not need to lose everything before you are allowed to change something that is not working. You can just be done. My guest today is Sarah Anderson, attorney, D1 athlete, mom, wife, and what she calls a booze free bitch. From the outside she had everything together. From the inside she was drinking close to a bott...

A goldfish always grows to the size of its tank. Put it in a small bowl and it stays small. Put it in a pond and it grows to match its environment. You are no different. The question is not how big can you get. The question is: how big is your tank right now? Jim Rohn, the man who actually mentored Tony Robbins, said you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. And Harvard...

You want to know the reason I always get what I want? First of all, I tell myself I am a woman who always gets what she wants. That identity matters. But that is not the actual hack. The real hack is embarrassingly simple. And most people never do it. I ask. That is it. I just ask. For the seat on the plane. For the hug from a stranger after yoga. For a man to hold me at a temple night. For the wa...

Ten minutes that are going to completely change the frequency you walk into your day with. This is a PowerTalk. And it is for the woman who is done letting the day live her. The woman who knows, somewhere in her body, that she is built for something more alive than what she has been tolerating. The woman who is ready to stop waiting and start receiving. Every single day you wake up with a blank ca...

It was a moment. A specific moment. Maybe you remember it. Maybe you just remember the feeling that came with it. For me it was 16 years old, an exchange student in America, and something my host mother said that landed like a conclusion: the way I am is not okay. I did not know it at the time but that moment became a filter. Everything that came after ran through it. This episode is not about hea...

You Are Not Stuck. Your Brain Just Thinks You Are. I have reinvented myself more times than I can count. From the girl who developed an eating disorder at 16 to the one who chose recovery. From psychology student to kiteboarding instructor following love across the world. From building a brand with my sister to building this one from scratch, alone, in Mallorca, as a single mom. Every single time,...

Last summer I got shushed. On a date. In my own car. And five minutes after walking away, I was on a sailing yacht being called Reina all day. That story is not about luck. It is about knowing what you want before it arrives. About having a body that recognizes the no before the brain has finished calculating. About being so clear on your standard that walking away from the shush is not even a dec...

Everyone tells you to leave your comfort zone. Make the brave choice. Back yourself. But nobody tells you what is actually happening inside your body when you try. Why it feels like an alarm going off. Why it feels like withdrawal. And why that feeling is not a stop sign. In this episode I share the moment I stopped being able to ignore my own knowing. A stranger asked me one question after a keyn...

Reclaiming the desire. This episode started with a thirty thousand euro price tag, a closed door, and a festival we built ourselves. Because that is what desire does when you stop burying it. It finds another way in. I talk about why so many women say they don't know what they want, but actually do. I go into the psychology of buried desire, how shame gets installed early and quietly teaches...

Have you ever asked yourself what you actually do at 9pm? Not what you wish you did. What you actually do when the day is done, the kid is in bed, and you are alone with yourself for the first time all day? In this episode I am getting honest about something most high achieving women never talk about publicly. The numbing. Not rock bottom stories. Not addiction cautionary tales. The subtle, sophis...

I'm Nadja Olivera, psychologist, life reinvention coach and single mom living in Mallorca. The 12/10 is the podcast for women who have done the work, have the life, and still know deep down that something isn't fully theirs. Every episode we go into the conversations most people are too afraid to have out loud. About settling. About desire. About numbing. About shame. About the brave cho...