Take What You Need

Have you watched someone else do or say the thing you had been planning to do but you were too afraid to go for it? You had spent time analysing, getting advice and wondering whether you should take the leap… and now someone else has.  We ask ourselves: What will people say? What if it doesn’t work out? What if they judge me? So many decisions in life feel like “life or death”. Maybe not literal l...

ICYMI, I published the first of many life updates over the weekend . Take a look and vote on what you think! Manifestation. What do you think of when you hear the word? Do you think it’s unrealistic, or do you think it represents a movement that is in fundamental opposition to your values? One thing that’s interesting to me is some of the ‘newest’, ‘trendiest’ terms can be traced back to ancient s...

For shownotes and to get this episode in your inbox: https://open.substack.com/pub/abiola/p/18-the-case-against-moving-in-silence?r=3pum3&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web “Move in silence” “Be careful of evil eye” “Be mysterious online” Many of us, including me, have lived by these mantras… in my view, to our detriment. It’s time to change that. In this episode I unpack aaaallll the reason...

How do you keep going when nothing is working? How do you deal with unanswered prayers? No matter how ‘good’ things appear, most of us are still hoping for SOMETHING. At the end of 2023, I found myself in tears, unable to trust the process. My hope was lost, I had so much frustration and I was just over it. Here’s how I found my way back to clarity and peace. I hope it helps you too. Let me know w...

I’m SO excited about this episode because there’s SO. MUCH.  that we cover! I asked on our Instagram stories which questions and dilemmas you guys have, and now I’m answering them from my POV.  I answer: How to grow, manage and maintain GOOD quality friendships (there’s layers to this) How to balance rest and wellness in our fast-paced world (spoiler alert: fasting is a game changer) How to be “wi...

We don’t do New Year’s resolutions around here, instead, we digest and live by new concepts that have the power to shift our entire 2024. Accompanying this episode is the Year-End Playbook, a simple interactive guide to help you reflect on 2023 and confidently plan for 2024. The last time this was launched in 2019, over 1,000+ downloaded it and loved it — now it’s bigger and better. Get. Into. It....

This is one of those episodes that holds up a mirror to the relationships in your life... are you ready? Through a series of highly televised sibling rivalries (Kourtney vs. Kim, Kyle Richards vs. Kathy Hilton, Kendall Roy vs. Shiv Roy vs. Roman Roy) — we explore how to navigate the tension between putting yourself first and looking after yourself, vs. being part of cultural and familial systems t...

It’s that time of year when we start looking back on what we’ve ‘done’ and wondering if it measures up. The question is, ‘measures up’ to what? Inspired by a recent conversation at a house party, this week’s episode explored the idea of what success looks like and can be — and how adapting the mindset that you’re a success right now, just as you are is the key to setting yourself up for even more...

It all started with this tweet: “a16z and Sequoia are wrong 90% of the time…” If some of the greatest and smartest minds in the world have accounted for the fact that things not working out is a normal part of life, then perhaps the question ‘what if it doesn’t work’ isn’t even the right question to ask. I think we should be asking a better, more productive set of questions.  Now, look at your own...

The best version of your life is within reach, you just have to opt in. Tony Robbins said it best, your whole life can change on a single decision. I went to my friend's wedding in Italy, and came back inspired. I'm so glad to be back on this podcast with you guys! I'm a little rusty but we've got a new studio and team helping me behind the scenes so it's consistency from here...

This week on the Take What You Need podcast, we deep-dive into the psychology of one of my favourite shows, HBO's Succession. The hallmark of great literature and media is that it holds up a mirror into our society on a macro scale, and the condition of humanity on a microscale, and Succession does that with equal doses of drama and comedy. This episode touches on generational patterns, the si...

If I could, I'd describe it in a single word: identity. But who really knows what that means? So instead I'll say: the words we speak (and the paradigms they're based on) become the house that we live in. In this episode, I explore how the narratives that our friends, family, counsellors and external sources like enneagrams and zodiac signs shape our lives. And what to do about that. M...

“Pay me my worth” “If someone doesn’t want to pay me, they don’t respect me” “Why would I pay them if I can just do it myself?” “I don’t want to give away 10% of MY MONEY” “Money isn’t important to me” The above, and other stories we tell ourselves, hold us back more than we realise. Today we’re going to work on releasing more abundance into our lives , via four of my top (and slightly alternative...

There's SO much talk about masculine and feminine energy, but what does it actually mean? In this episode we break down the concept, its potential roots, its spiritual context and how I apply it to my work, relationships and more.  Share with a friend and follow/like this podcast so we can keep it running Keep up with me on social Subscribe: abiola.me/subscribe Daily life on Instagram: instag...

We've ALL been there. If you're a creative (spoiler alert: we all are), you'll know the struggle is real. In our algorithmic world, distraction, comparison and imitation make it even harder to come up with fresh ideas. The deadly creative block - and today, we'll attempt to unblock it. Enjoy! Share with a friend and follow/like this podcast on your local platform! Mentioned in this episode: The tw...

We're a month into 2023, but for me, the ‘New Year’ lasts for a good 3 months 🙏 If you follow me on Instagram , you may have seen me coming for vision boards * shock* — don't cancel me yet. And don't get me wrong, I love visions, and I love visuals. But before you start adding things to your vision board, make sure your vision is coming from the ideal source. The source that goes the distance, th...

I’m not going to lie, this year FLEW BY - however it’s always worth creating space for you to gather your thoughts and prepare for a new year.  To help your self-reflection this new years’ season, I wanted to share some of the life-changing lessons that this year taught me. That includes: Why feeling like you’re in no-mans land can actually be a good thing (02:40) - mountain illustration belo...

“If I don’t keep going, everything's going to fall apart" “If I don’t take this opportunity, who knows when the next one will come” There’s definitely value in seizing the day, but what happens when you become stuck in a cycle of constantly working? What happens when you’re exhausted in a way that sleep cannot repair? Is it really a good life if you’re constantly counting down until your next holi...

How would your energy shift if you KNEW that growth/success was guaranteed? A game-changing (and spiritual) antidote to imposter syndrome. Timestamps 00:00 - Intro 02:00 - The questioning and doubt that comes when embarking on big goals 02:38 - The story that changed my perspective 06:55 - The two things I’ve learned from this story 12:37 - What about the things I don’t have? What next? Submit a q...

How do you build confidence in a world where there's so much comparison and uncertainty?  We're getting RIGHT into it this week with our first-ever proper episode, submitted anonymously via our question box. Thanks for being so open with our questions! Timestamps 00:00 - Intro 01:22 - Different types of confidence 02:43 - The 4 key principles to confidence (a summary) 04:04 - 1) I'm here for...

Honestly, I'm just happy to be back. Here's what to expect. For more, follow: instagram.com/abxola Submit a question and become a subscriber: abiola.substack.com Get ‘Take What You Need’ the book: https://bit.ly/twynbook Music by Elysium Audio Labs Track: “Ocean Park” 

Did you know that Team “No Days Off” and Team “Self-Care” have more in common than we think? They both focus on the physical — what we are (or are not) doing. But REAL rest is bigger than that, it’s bigger than finding a balance in the physical. It starts in the spiritual, and you can access it today.  This is a concept I preached recently at church, and I’m excited to finally share it with y...

So it makes sense that in May, Mental Health Awareness month, we lean in. It makes sense that we take extra special care to feed our souls and protect our minds in the process. Navigating our mental health can sometimes feel like a minefield. This year, I’ve juggled multiple responsibilities, being stretched beyond my mental and physical capacity. And while I’ve not won every battle, these five ti...

Sometimes bitterness and jealousy are reasonable. By this he meant that sometimes we have a valid reason, and  it’s logical to have negative feelings towards someone.  But all because it’s reasonable or logical, doesn’t make it okay. It doesn’t confirm that you’re on the right path, only God does that. This was major for someone like me, because I learned that logic and “what works” for...

In this first audio blog we talk about why the concept of "I'm stronger than I think" isn't always helpful. To read the transcript of this podcast, with all associated Bible verses, visit www.abiola.me/blog/stronger . You can also get tips on journalling discussed on the website. Follow Abiola on Instagram & Twitter @abxola