Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

A commenter to my Youtube channel left a comment as to his theory or belief that there is so much more involved in and happening for people with suspected or untreated Borderline Personality in the initial Idealization Phase of beginning a relationship. A.J. Mahari points out how and why this person's trying to apply perceived logic and rational about people with BPD isn't a part of the initial id...

BPD Relationship Cycle 7 Stages Of Rinse and Repeat - The "Archetypal" stages and phases that continually repeat and re-occur in repetition compulsions unconscious ways for and with people with untreated BPD and those who try to love them - often people with Codependency. A.J. Mahari explains the BPD Relationship Cycle that is rinse and repeat until the partner or Ex partner gets into treatment to...

Inside BPD Idealization Does or Did the Borderline Love You? A.J. Mahari explains how you are not seen and heard in idealization either. The intense and fast relationship beginning with a person with BPD is creating a fantasy bond within a trauma bond. Untreated people with BPD can't love or attach to you. You are, to them, "Object Other Parent Representative within the unconscious repetition comp...

Borderlines and Narcissists - Codependent’s Focus On Cluster B's Is Not The Way of Healing. A.J. Mahari explains why continuing to focus son a borderline or narcissist Ex and/or parent or friend is not the way to heal and in fact will block you getting into the action of a formal healing and recovery journey. Even when you are "out" of the relationship after leaving or being ghosted or discarded h...

Misunderstanding and myths about what is and what isn't people with Borderline Personality having empathy. BPD Projection and Projective Identification Not Empathy.

Borderline "Love" Why it Just Ends - A.J. Mahari explains why those for loved ones or Ex's of someone with Borderline Personality why their love can just abruptly end with no logical or understood reason. When a person with Borderline Personality untreated ghosts or discards you how does their "love" just end?

Borderlines Why If They Go to Treatment Often Don't They Stay In Treatment and what this means for you and relationships.

Extreme Pain of No Contact after a BPD Relationship Breakup - How to survive it by getting help to heal a nd not by trying to endure it. No contact is the way forward. No looking back, no getting the BPD Ex back. There's a difference between what you want and what you need. A.J. Mahari has 32 years experience helping people heal this extreme pain and agony after these most painful breakups.

Narcissistic Abuse - Healing from BPD or NPD Abuse Codependency is Not The Flip Side of Pathological Narcissism in NPD. A.J. Mahari discusses why people with Codeendency need to understand this difference and who is forwarding it online - mostly Cluster B's specifically Narcissists or a Narcissistic Psychopathic YouTuber. Codependency is not pathological narcissism and it isn't Narcissistic Person...

BPD NPD Relationships What is Limerence 12 Signs 5 Traits Codependents Limerence Triggered by a Borderline or a Narcissist. AJ Mahari focuses the definition and scope of Limerence in a way that is aimed specifically at people who are in or were in a relationship with a Borderline or Narcissist with Codependency many of whom will be experiencing Limerence.

BPD Breakup Will BPD Ex Come Back The Uncertainty and Fear of No Contact - A.J. Mahari provides in depth insight into the longing seemingly endless focus of so many People who are now an Ex of someone with BPD. Wat codependents really need to know.

BPD Breakup Men The Man Up Be Tough Message Has Nothing To Do With the Breakup and Will Not Win The BPD Woman Back - Counsellor and Trauma Recovery Coach AJ Mahari

Borderline Projective Identification and the effects it has on loved ones, parnters, Ex's of those with BPD. Codependent introjection of Borderline Projective Identification - Inside the Trauma Bond Dynamics.

Can you keep a Person with Borderline Personality Disorder Happy or Make them Happy or is this Codependent denial?

BPD Breakups Leave Ex's wondering if the BPD Ex will find someone better and be happy with them. Rumination is pervasive very common and extremely painful. Codependents ruminate about an with BPD without their own therapy because they don't know how to let go. Rumination is negative and deep and not just about the BPD Ex. I work with clients to help them break patterned rumination.

Borderline Abuse of partners is significant and traumatizing. Both men and women with BPD abuse their partners. Many who are in relationships with someone with suspected or diagnosed BPD are trauma bonded due to their own codependency. Abuse is not love. Untreated Borderlines don't attach or love they try to possess you, control you, and they often become obsessed. Borderline abuse is a deal break...

Part 3 of 3 Loving an untreated person with Borderline Personality is impossible. The inequity and injustice men experience when a marriage with a borderline ex breaksup and their are children involved as well as a question from a woman about her male BPD Ex.

Part 2 of 3 Loving a Borderline is Impossible with a lot of questions from men and focus on many challenges that are more difficult for men in a relationship breakup with a Borderline Female and therapy is so important to healing codependency and from these relationship breakups.

Part 1 of 3 Loving a Borderline is Impossible - From a Youtube Live Stream A.J. Mahari did January 12, 2022 Loving a Borderline is impossible. Surviving a BPD Relationship Breakup means coming to terms with this in therapy and healing your codependency.

Borderline Personality and Secondary Psychopathy, not proven, but as conflicting studies indicate, it is not a reality for all with BPD but may well be for the most severe cases of BPD. Secondary Psychopathy in BPD does not mean a percentage of those with severe BPD are Psychopaths. It is also not (as A.P.A.) claims only in women with Severe BPD but Men with Severe BPD also. In my 31 years of work...

A.J. Mahari Interview with Author and BPD Expert Randi Kreger who co-authored Stop Waking on Eggshells - Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Love Has Borderline Personality Disorder. Randi's books are in the podcast intro and she has 2 new books coming in 2022. Randi talks about BPD, what she has termed Conventional and Unconventional BPD, and BPD/NPD trait or Personality Disorder Co-Morbidity....

Borderline Personality and Codependent's Trauma Bonds are Not Rooted in Addiction But are rooted in Trauma - A Deep Dive to help you understand the Trauma Bond, it's underpinnings for those with BPD and for those with Codependency. It's not addiction that makes a trauma bond so difficult to break yet it can feel like that.

Counsellor and Trauma Recovery Coach, A.J. Mahari, answers the question: "What is Codependent" What is Codependency and why is it so important to understand more about Codependency for those who have are in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality or who is in the pain of Surviving the BPD or NPD Relationship Breakup? Follow A.J. Mahari's Codependency Rec...

BPD NPD Co-Morbid Alcoholic My Ex Part 2 A.J. Mahari's Experience I am out here to work with you if I resonate with you. I have lived experience with this Ex a BPD NPD Comorbid Mother and a Dark Triad Father both of whom were alcoholics. BPD or NPD relationship recovery and Codependency recovery. Breaking the trauma bond.

A.J. Mahari on Her BPD NPD Co-Morbid Ex - How The Relationship Began Groomed By a BPD/NPD social worker.