Spouseology Podcast

In this episode of Spouseology , Santi and Susie explore the emotional and practical tradeoffs of couples sleeping separately. They discuss when separate bedrooms may be helpful because of snoring, sleep apnea, pregnancy, conflicting schedules, or disruptive sleep habits—and when sleeping apart could become a way to avoid intimacy, communication, or unresolved marital conflict. Santi also shares h...

Susie and Santi name the traits they dislike in our spouses—and use those uncomfortable truths to examine defensiveness, validation, apologizing, privacy, mental load, and acceptance in marriage. They also begin a candid discussion about perimenopause and how hormonal change affects both partners. An honest, funny episode about hearing your spouse without turning every complaint into a fight.

Can a married person have an opposite-sex best friend? Susie and Santi debate jealousy, exes, private communication, emotional intimacy, and the boundaries that protect trust. They also unpack research on attraction in male-female friendships and explain why “just friends” may not mean the same thing to both people. A direct, funny conversation designed to help couples define their own rules befor...

Can a spouse truly change? Susie and Santi return for Season 2 with a candid look at accountability, chores, mental load, and the laundry realization that changed their day-to-day partnership. They explore neuroplasticity, evolving together, modeling responsibility for children, and why “I told you so” can undo genuine progress. A funny, practical relationship conversation for couples ready to com...

In this deeply personal episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo explore how childhood experiences, family dynamics, and parental relationships shape the partners we choose and the marriages we build. Both Santi and Susie open up about growing up in Latino households, witnessing infidelity, conflict, and unhealthy relationship patterns, and how those experiences influenced their vie...

Can talking openly about intimacy actually strengthen your marriage? In this episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo dive into one of the most important but often avoided topics in relationships: communication about sex, intimacy, and emotional connection. Inspired by a conversation with actor Caleb Emery, Santi and Susie discuss why so many couples struggle to talk honestly about...

Ever looked at your spouse and thought “I love you, but I really don’t like you right now”? No? Just us? In this episode of Spouseology, Santi and Susie get into the stuff nobody puts in their wedding vows: laundry battles, micromanaging vacations, whose upbringing is to blame, and the very real feeling of coming in second place to literally everything else in your spouse’s life. Santi finally adm...

Can you really know you’ve found “The One” after just a few months? In this episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo sit down with actor Caleb Emery (Summer of 84, Young Sheldon, Good Girls, NCIS: Origins, Grey’s Anatomy, American Vandal) to discuss one of the fastest relationship journeys we’ve ever heard. Caleb met his wife Emily in September 2023, proposed just six months later,...

Can a career change save your marriage… or destroy it? In this deeply honest episode of  Spouseology , Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo open up about the emotional reality of career transitions, burnout, fear, people-pleasing, anxiety, and how work stress can slowly impact your marriage and home life. Santi shares the full story behind leaving a 20+ year career in radio at JAM’N 94.5, the fear that...

Is scheduling sex the secret to keeping intimacy alive in a long-term marriage? In this raw, funny, and surprisingly honest episode of  Spouseology , Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo dive deep into the realities of sex, intimacy, communication, hormones, attraction, and marriage after 40. From “scheduled sex” and Viagra conversations to hormone changes, flirting in marriage, emotional connection, b...

In this episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo dive into one of the most misunderstood topics in relationships and marriage: jealousy. Is a little jealousy actually healthy in a relationship? Can it be a sign that you still care deeply about your partner? Or does jealousy eventually become toxic? Santi and Susie unpack real-life relationship stories, marriage insecurities, flirtin...

Should married couples have separate bank accounts, or should everything be shared? Listen now, follow  Spouseology , and subscribe so you never miss an episode. In this episode of  Spouseology , Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo get real about one of the biggest pressure points in marriage:  money . From joint bank accounts and financial transparency to secret credit cards, prenups, credit scores,...

Do kids make a marriage stronger, harder, or just completely different? In this episode of Spouseology, Santi and Susie have an honest conversation about marriage, kids, parenting, fertility, and choosing a child-free life. Santi opens up about life with four kids, including the unexpected surprise of having a fourth child, raising twins, the pressure kids can put on a marriage, and why he believe...

What is marriage really like after 10, 15, 20+ years? In this episode of Spouseology, we break down the truth about marriage, communication, and what actually keeps relationships together. What is marriage really like behind the scenes? In this first episode of Spouseology, we get into the real side of marriage. Not the polished version. The honest one. From our college days at Endicott to two com...