Somehow Married

Is watching a TV show without your spouse basically cheating? This week, we're settling one of marriage's most ridiculous (and surprisingly serious) debates. We also talk about Amanda falling asleep during every show, Taylor Swift's wedding, Adam Sandler, listener questions, and a handful of rabbit trails that somehow all make sense by the end. If you've ever argued over Netflix, t...

This week, we're talking about something we've both been thinking about lately: Do kids really need us to entertain them all day? We talk about boredom, creativity, Bluey, social media, parenting expectations, and why maybe our parents were onto something after all. Plus, we somehow end up discussing fireworks, video games, holidays, and whether married couples should cuddle all night.

Before we got married, there were a lot of things we assumed were completely normal. Then we compared notes. In this episode, we talk about the family habits, traditions, and everyday routines that seemed perfectly normal growing up—but turned out to be surprisingly uncommon. It's a conversation about marriage, family culture, weird assumptions, and the funny moments that happen when two peopl...

Can two people love each other deeply and still feel unloved? In this episode, we talk about love languages, quality time, personality differences, and one of the biggest misunderstandings we've faced in marriage. For years, we were both trying to show love. The problem was that we weren't showing it in a way the other person could actually receive. We also discuss: • What really counts as...

What actually counts as quality time? In this episode, Jonathan and Amanda discuss one of the most common relationship questions couples ask: what does quality time really look like? Does working out together count? Running errands? Watching a show together? Along the way, they talk about communication, parenting, making friends as adults, apologizing when you're wrong, and the random conversa...

Should your kids see you argue? This week, we discuss healthy conflict in marriage, what children learn from watching their parents, raising sons and daughters differently, apologizing when you're wrong, and why trusting your spouse is one of the most important parenting decisions you'll ever make. Plus: water parks, squirrel hunting, birthday parties, and Jonathan's ongoing battle aga...

This week on Somehow Married, we talk about the lessons, habits, and weird personality traits we picked up from our parents without realizing it. From learning how to handle criticism and conflict, to why Amanda’s parents always had the “house with all the bikes in the driveway,” this episode turns into a funny and surprisingly honest conversation about marriage, parenting, family dynamics, and be...

This episode starts with an embarrassing dating story and somehow turns into conversations about shower oranges, cult documentaries, rabbit holes on the internet, softball injuries, milk debates, and getting older together. Basically: marriage gets weird after awhile.

What are the biggest things we wish we knew 10 years ago? In this episode of Somehow Married, we talk about the lessons we learned the hard way through marriage, parenting, friendships, stress, money, and growing up. We discuss: • choosing your battles in marriage • why some arguments aren’t worth winning • parenting kids who think differently • feeling overwhelmed as new parents • relationship re...

What would happen if you and your spouse switched lives for a day? In this episode of Somehow Married, we break down our daily routines, responsibilities, and expectations—and quickly realize we don’t fully understand each other’s day-to-day lives. From work stress and parenting to household responsibilities, this conversation turns into a real (and honest) discussion about who has it harder—and w...

This might be the weirdest relationship problem we’ve ever come across… and somehow, it actually says a lot about marriage. In this episode, we break down a wild situation and talk through what it reveals about communication, conflict, and how couples handle problems. We also dive into: how couples should handle conflict when something becomes a red flag how to approach problems as a team If you’r...

Most newlyweds don’t struggle because they don’t care—they struggle because no one tells them what actually matters. In this episode, we talk about our first year of marriage, the mistakes we made, and what we’d do differently if we were starting over. We cover: – the biggest mindset shift newlyweds need – common mistakes in the first year of marriage – how to handle conflict early on – what actua...

Weddings are supposed to be one of the best days of your life… but they also come with a lot of things people don’t talk about. In this episode, we break down what we love about weddings—and what drives us crazy—from the perspective of a married couple. We talk about: – what makes a wedding actually enjoyable – the common things couples get wrong – the small details that matter more than people th...

In this episode, we answer your questions and talk through real topics from our listeners. We cover everything from marriage and relationships to our favorite books, life updates, and some unexpected conversations along the way. This is a more relaxed episode—but it still gets into how we think about communication, personal growth, and everyday life as a couple. If you’ve ever wanted to hear our t...

Everyone has red flags—but some are harder to ignore than others. In this episode, we talk about the relationship red flags we can’t stand and why they matter more than people think. We also get into: – the small habits that turn into bigger problems – phone etiquette in relationships – and the random things that make you question people (like trusting your barber) Some of these are serious, some...

Can something as small as shoelaces actually cause tension in a marriage? In this episode, we talk about how tiny habits turn into bigger arguments—and why small frustrations can reveal deeper issues in relationships. We also get into: – how minor annoyances build over time – funny (and slightly ridiculous) relationship conflicts – online relationship drama – and a few random life moments along th...

Money is one of the most common sources of conflict in marriage—but most couples aren’t actually fighting about money. In this episode, we talk about why couples argue over spending, the mistake we made early on, and what we learned from it. We also get into: – why small purchases turn into bigger arguments – the mindset that causes money tension – how couples can approach finances as a team – and...

In this episode, we answer your questions and talk through some of the lighter (and more revealing) parts of relationships. We get into: – our best dates and what actually made them work – the worst trips we’ve taken (and what went wrong) – celebrity crushes and what they say about you – and a few unexpected conversations along the way A more relaxed Q&A episode—but still full of real conversa...

When something goes wrong in a relationship, it’s easy to blame your spouse—but that’s not always the real issue. In this episode, we talk about how everyday problems like time management, money, and cleanliness turn into bigger conflicts—and how couples often misidentify what’s actually causing the tension. We get into: – why small habits create bigger arguments – how couples shift blame instead...

In this episode of Somehow Married, we talk about the biggest differences between us and how those differences have shaped our marriage. From personality clashes to communication styles, we unpack what it really looks like when two very different people choose each other every day. We also get honest about how our differences show up in conflict, the moments they’ve stretched us, and why being opp...

What is marriage really like? We had ideas about what marriage would be, but the reality of marriage was surprising at times. Let's talk about it!

Somehow Married is a podcast about marriage, life, and the conversations that happen after the guests leave. Hosted by a husband and wife who are still a little surprised this worked out, the show dives into real relationship moments — the good, the annoying, and the arguments that definitely didn’t need to happen. There are no experts here. Just honest conversations, playful banter, and two peopl...