She Lost It

Send a text Fifteen minutes. That’s all my mom got on the phone from federal prison, and reading what she wrote about those calls hit me in a way I didn’t expect. I remember being 11 and trying to sound “fine” so I didn’t make things harder for her. On the page, she hears the crack in my voice, tells me it’s OK to cry, and admits the one thing every parent wants: to hold their child and make the p...

Send a text Have you ever felt completely stuck despite having obvious solutions right in front of you? That paralyzing sense of "why even try?" might not be who you truly are—it could be learned helplessness, a psychological condition that's become a silent epidemic. Learned helplessness sneaks into every corner of our lives. It's what makes you give up on healthy eating after...

Send a text Ever find yourself on the verge of quitting right when you're about to breakthrough? That's exactly where I found myself recently, walking through rain—both literally and figuratively—while wrestling with personal struggles and professional milestones simultaneously. The hardest truth I've learned is that resistance isn't telling us to stop—it's actually our co...

Send a text The moment I opened my mother's handwritten prison journal from 1993, I knew this wasn't just about uncovering her story – it was about breaking generational chains of shame that keep us all silent. Reading her perfect cursive now as a 43-year-old mother myself feels wildly different than anything my 11-year-old self could have processed when it was happening in real time. He...

Send a text What happens when you finally open the box you've been dragging for 19 years? That's exactly what I explore in this deeply personal episode as I reveal a family secret I've held close for decades—my mother's prison journal. When I was just eleven years old, my world changed forever as my mother was sentenced to federal prison for embezzling money from a Birmingham c...

Send a text Have you ever dimmed your light because someone else couldn't handle your shine? In this raw, powerful episode, I'm taking you behind the scenes of what happened when my celebratory weight loss reel went viral – and not always in the kindest corners of the internet. When the comments started flooding in, some supportive but many cruel, I discovered something fascinating: the...

Send a text The constant pressure to adjust who we are for the comfort of others is a silent drain on our authenticity and energy. In this raw and vulnerable episode, I take you on a deeply personal journey through my own pattern of shapeshifting – that exhausting habit of becoming whoever the room needs me to be. This pattern didn't emerge in adulthood. It took root in my childhood as an onl...

Send a text Have you ever felt that immediate defensive reaction when someone suggests you're capable of more? That instant tightening in your chest, the flood of justifications, the urge to prove why you're doing enough already? You're not alone. In this deeply personal episode, I share a transformative moment when someone I respect looked me in the eye and told me I was playing sm...

Send a text Ever had that gut feeling when someone says "I promise" that they won't follow through? Or maybe you're the one who means well but consistently falls short on your commitments? This raw, honest conversation digs into the true cost of broken promises and why your word matters more than you might realize. Trust isn't just broken by dramatic betrayals—it's er...

Send a text Ever found yourself in a comparison spiral that left you feeling totally paralyzed? You're scrolling through social media when suddenly you're questioning everything about your life, wondering why everyone else seems to have it all figured out while you're struggling just to keep up. That's exactly where I found myself this week, and it almost took me out completely...

Send a text Have you ever felt your heart racing, chest tightening, and hands shaking out of nowhere? Yesterday, that was me—ambushed by a full-blown panic attack while sitting at my desk. The irony wasn't lost on me—someone who helps others find courage, suddenly unable to breathe. This raw, unfiltered episode dives deep into what panic attacks really are and why they happen. Your body isn&a...

Send a text Have you ever wondered what might happen if you stopped letting your excuses run the show and started turning up the volume on your self-worth? For years, my excuses screamed while my sense of value barely whispered. It's a pattern that keeps so many of us trapped, shrinking in rooms where we should shine and holding our tongues when we have something valuable to say. Those famili...

Send a text Have you ever caught yourself saying "I should be more organized" or "Why can't I be better at this?" For years, I was trapped in the same cycle—trying to fix things that weren't broken instead of embracing what already worked naturally. The turning point came when I finally gave myself permission to admit what I wasn't good at. This episode dives dee...

Send a text Have you ever been paralyzed by that voice in your head screaming that you're not enough? That familiar heaviness that makes you question everything you're doing? You're far from alone. This raw, unfiltered conversation dives into what it truly takes to move forward when self-doubt is riding shotgun. Confidence doesn't appear before action—it's built through th...

Send a text Have you ever reacted so intensely to someone sneaking up behind you that people laughed or told you to "calm down"? That hypersensitive startle reflex isn't an overreaction—it's your body's trauma response working exactly as designed. Drawing from personal experience, I dive deep into why certain "harmless pranks" can trigger full-blown nervous syste...

Send a text Have you ever felt completely drained after certain conversations or interactions? That pit in your stomach when specific names appear on your phone? You're not alone. Today's powerful conversation tackles one of life's most challenging yet liberating lessons: protecting your energy isn't selfish—it's essential self-respect. Drawing from my personal journey as...

Send a text What happens when you finally decide to lose everything that's been weighing you down? Not just physical weight, but the emotional baggage, trauma, fear, shame, guilt, people-pleasing, and stories you've been hauling around like bricks on your back?  Welcome to She Lost It, where I'm getting vulnerable about my journey from rock bottom to rebuilding. Four years ago, my l...

Send a text Ever wondered why you can't stop at just one bite, even when you promised yourself you would? The answer might be more complex than lacking willpower.  Food addiction is the socially acceptable dependency no one wants to acknowledge. Ultra-processed foods trigger the same dopamine pathways as addictive substances, creating powerful neurological responses that feel impossible to re...

Send a text Have you ever felt that heart-pounding, palm-sweating sensation when facing something that scares you? That feeling that whispers "who do you think you are?" right when you're about to take a risk? Welcome to the debut episode of She Lost It, where we dive deep into understanding how fear works as our compass, not our stop sign. Standing in front of the mirror four years...